Moderated What's wrong with porn?

[Southwind17]

I've seen the boyfriends (and girlfriends) of a number of porn actresses. Good looks on their part rarely enters into the equation.

Makes sense. Would you seriously hook up with a girl who's getting reamed regularly by dozens of desparados (by which I mean darned lucky bastards!)?

ETA: I assume you're a handsome stallion!

 

[Belz...]

Porn is demeaning, since it reduces people to their lowest common instincts and desires, both in what it shows and in what it expects of the viewer. It is demeaning for the same reason watching someone wolf down five hamburgers in a row, or drink down a bottle of vodka and pass out, or is demeaning both to the viewer and the guy who does it.

This doesn't mean sex, food, or drink are bad in themselves. But porn is the abuse of sex.

This is not the same as

Interesting.

So what's wrong with those desires ?

 

[Dr Adequate]

What I want to know is what is wrong with my Harry Potter fan-fic cat-boy maid bondage yaoi?

Apparently, everything.

 

[pgwenthold]

Dan Savage, the sex columnist, says that he frequently gets letters from PO'ed girlfriends or wives about their boyfriend or hubby's viewing of porn. Often they will have been rummaging around on the significant other's computer and found the "stash" file....

The complaint is that the men will have an "unnatural" idea of sex, and that they will be forever inadequate..."not good enough for him" or somesuch.

Savage is, in my opinion, quite right in maintaining that the women should not be concerned; most men who consume such material do not expect the same thing in real life. It's just...Lubricious.

I have quit bothering arguing about such things, and my only response to such comments is, that's what digital cameras are for.

If their guys like porn, and they are uncomfortable with them looking at other women, then just make some yourself.

 

[JFrankA]

I've seen the boyfriends (and girlfriends) of a number of porn actresses. Good looks on their part rarely enters into the equation.

Quite true. I've been told by quite a few women that Tera Patrick's husband isn't all that good looking. (But both him and Tera are wonderful, friendly and the nicest people I've met in porn).

 

[JFrankA]

Makes sense. Would you seriously hook up with a girl who's getting reamed regularly by dozens of desparados (by which I mean darned lucky bastards!)?

I would. Why not?

 

[BenBurch]

Makes sense. Would you seriously hook up with a girl who's getting reamed regularly by dozens of desparados (by which I mean darned lucky bastards!)?

Of course. If I liked her, none of that would matter at all.

ETA: I assume you're a handsome stallion!

Nobody has ever accused me of that.

I have a face made for radio.

 

[Drudgewire]

What's wrong with porn?

I have to keep buying new external hard drives to store it all.

 

[IMST]

What I want to know is what is wrong with my Harry Potter fan-fic cat-boy maid bondage yaoi?

Maid?

 

[Eric D]

"What's wrong with porn?"? I think the real question is what's wrong with me for relying on it so much?

 

[Toke]

My main problem with porn is the quality, the drawn stuff tends to be better/more interresting than movies.


ETA: the "Not married with children" were quite entertaining. (the Al bundy one?)

 

[JoeyDonuts]

Raylene appears to be working again.

Ain't a damn thing wrong with that.

 

[Travis]

Talked to her recently. She is doing films again.

Good to hear.





In case anyone is wondering, the whole only finding 6 ladies out of 1800 attractive was a joke. I was hoping my reference to Sesame ST would make that clear but on rereading it I kinda sounded serious.

 

[daenku32]

It makes some people uneasy. Assuming that person is not you, then it is just a matter with your relationship with those people.

 

[aviolet4u]

It warps your mind, don't men apparently think of sex every few minutes? Where does that leave them if they look at strangers doing it on their computer screen every night?

I tried to see what the fuss was and I had to take a while to cleanse the images off my mind. I kept seeing family members/friends as private parts for a while.

What does that wear off on you guys after a while? Its not only "you are what you eat", its you are what you see to certain extent. We are also a very desensitized group, when things get mundane its like "what next what next" enter beastiality and the sort.

Maybe I'm wrong...how does it affect you after a while?

 

[Andrew Wiggin]

Porn is boring, predictable, contrived, and intelligence-insulting. Production values are consistently and purposefully second-rate, the soundtracks are talentless, prices are inflated, and creativity is wholly nonexistent. When the only thing you can say in a film's defense is "well, everyone has a right to free speech..." it's a good indicator of the level of artistic merit.

Apparently you need to get some better porn. While I've certainly seen plenty of stuff that matches your description, I've also seen stuff that knocked my socks off. I should add that I've read both crappy and good novels too, and I've never thought that the existence of crappy novels disproves the existence of the good ones.

A.

 

[fuelair]

It warps your mind, don't men apparently think of sex every few minutes? Where does that leave them if they look at strangers doing it on their computer screen every night?

I tried to see what the fuss was and I had to take a while to cleanse the images off my mind. I kept seeing family members/friends as private parts for a while.

What does that wear off on you guys after a while? Its not only "you are what you eat", its you are what you see to certain extent. We are also a very desensitized group, when things get mundane its like "what next what next" enter beastiality and the sort.

Maybe I'm wrong...how does it affect you after a while?

Don't make assumptions from my experience but I lost any ability to be surprised/grossed out in the 60's and seventies (almost entirely sixties really) and have seen nothing new in any functional way since - only the performers have changed. The thing that troubled another here was simply an updated 120 Days of Sodom (de Sade) (tubgirl - I found it fairly quickly, laughed, moved on). The stuff that would bother me does so only if real and I have indirectly covered that in previous discussions here.

If any otherwise helps, it has had no effect on how I see women - knowing someone works in porn does not make me think any less (or more either) of them. I, by the way like women and my exposure to porn MAY be part of why I can be in a group of people and if the conversation moves to "female" health problems, breast feeding and such I not only do not join the majority of males calling it gross but I can discuss those things intelligently with them.
It helps that I was already good with that in my early teens.

 

[Drudgewire]

It warps your mind, don't men apparently think of sex every few minutes?

That's one of those "women get beat up more on Superbowl Sunday" urban legends that never had a shred of truth to it.

http://www.snopes.com/science/stats/thinksex.asp

What does that wear off on you guys after a while? Its not only "you are what you eat", its you are what you see to certain extent. We are also a very desensitized group, when things get mundane its like "what next what next" enter beastiality and the sort.

Hey I was into aardvarks long before I started looking at pCOUGHCOUGH I mean "that's the silliest thing I've ever heard of."

 

[Eric D]

It warps your mind, don't men apparently think of sex every few minutes? Where does that leave them if they look at strangers doing it on their computer screen every night?

I tried to see what the fuss was and I had to take a while to cleanse the images off my mind. I kept seeing family members/friends as private parts for a while.

What does that wear off on you guys after a while? Its not only "you are what you eat", its you are what you see to certain extent. We are also a very desensitized group, when things get mundane its like "what next what next" enter beastiality and the sort.

Maybe I'm wrong...how does it affect you after a while?

Assuming porn "wears off" and leads to deviant, criminal sexual behavior would be like assuming sexual intercourse just "wears off" and leads to the same.

Rapists (and beastiallity is rape since an animal can't possibly consent) are immoral. They willfully inflict pain on others to achieve their own desires. It has nothing to do with watching porn

 

[HansMustermann]

It warps your mind, don't men apparently think of sex every few minutes?

That's one of those memes that everybody just knows must be true -- I mean, you just know how guys are -- but actually isn't. You know, like how women only think about making and raising children... except actually they don't

Anyway, I'm pretty sure I can make it for an hour or two, say, at work, with only work-related thoughts. You know, stuff like, "wasn't this on Dilbert... repeatedly?" And then comes the occasional sex-related thought, like, "I wish I were a male prostitute, 'cause then when someone rode my ass he'd be over with it in 2 minutes"

Where does that leave them if they look at strangers doing it on their computer screen every night?

I'm pretty sure it leaves me in the chair, exactly where I was when it started

I tried to see what the fuss was and I had to take a while to cleanse the images off my mind. I kept seeing family members/friends as private parts for a while.

_As_ private parts? Now that's some imagination.

What does that wear off on you guys after a while?

Aye, it does. It's called the refractory period. Just means I have to find something else to do for half an hour or so

Its not only "you are what you eat", its you are what you see to certain extent.

*sniff* You got me fair and square, guv'nor. I might as well admit it. I'm a pussy

We are also a very desensitized group, when things get mundane its like "what next what next" enter beastiality and the sort.

Ahh, the ever popular slippery slope argument. _And_ being able to change one's sexual preferences just like that. "Meh, women are so boring, lemme just start being turned on by male sheep... done." If only brain wiring were that easy to change...

Maybe I'm wrong...how does it affect you after a while?

Same as before that while. 'Course, if we're talking something like a 50 year while, it might take a bit longer and be more hit and miss