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Moderated What's wrong with porn?

But wait, there is more. For the porn stars there are a number of problems -- according to some people. Young women and I guess some men get into it for the easy money and then they are stuck. The spend their youths not developing any other career options or skills. Some get into drugs to numb themselves so that they can make it through the sex scenes. They make money but they blow a lot of money and one day they come to a dead end with no place else to go.

Replace "porn" with "level 1 tech support", and "sex scenes" with "some ******** with a God complex riding your butt because his not finding the ANY key is obviously _your_ fault", and the above story would be literally true.

Heck, it's even wrongly seen by some as a way to get into the IT career track, just like some might see porn as a way to get into the movies. And just like porn, in reality it will actually _lower_ your chances to land any other IT job if you spend too much time with it. Being the guy who didn't find anything better for 10 years actually tells a potential employer, "yep, he's just about technically skilled enough to operate a phone," and make you less marketable than if you had driven a taxi for the same 10 years.

So, you know, again, when the same can be said about quite a few non-porn jobs and a few million people, I'm kind of unconvinced that it actually proves anything about porn.

And blowing money as fast as you make it, is something you find in any job. I know a couple of very highly paid people, who live wage to wage anyway, and are perpetually in debt. People of all professions and walks in life dig themselves into a hole that way, by simply not planning ahead. Then at some point they find themselves unable to bail out or say "No" to anything whatsoever, because not only they saved nothing to bridge such a transition, but they're 6 ft deep in debt too.
 
Jeez JFrankA - I offer you an olive twig and you seek to chop my hand off! I gave you every possible option for proceeding (except one - which you show above is unnecessary anyhow) and you suggest we carry on with the style that you've openly crticized me for. How would you like this to play out JFrankA - really?

My apologies, then. That did come out harsher than I had intended. Please forgive my tone.

To be clear, the reason I can now carry on in the style I originally criticized you for is because now I understand your position and where you are coming from. I respect that. It is clear what my position is, and I try to be honest in fact that I am biased, and try to see and admit the difference between my opinion and a fact. Now that you've stated where you are coming from, and have admitted your bias and therefore why you are asking the questions you are asking, I see where you are standing and we can all discuss this honestly, without any tricks being played. Well, without me suspecting a trick being played at the least.

Honestly, where would you like to pick up? Admittingly, I am guilty of side tracking the thread somewhat, and since this is your thread, please choose where you'd like it to go. And I'm kind of lost as to which question you were asking. :)

By the way, I say all of this without meaning insult or mockery. If that did sound like either, please forgive me again, as it is not my intent.

*Accepts your olive branch graciously and hands you a peace pipe*
 
I know. But they're all a bit derogatory... Not many positive reasons to choose this career path were presented...

So if doing a job for pay is derogatory and choosing it because you like it is derogatory what are positive reasons to choose any career paths?
 
But wait, there is more. For the porn stars there are a number of problems -- according to some people. Young women and I guess some men get into it for the easy money and then they are stuck. The spend their youths not developing any other career options or skills. Some get into drugs to numb themselves so that they can make it through the sex scenes. They make money but they blow a lot of money and one day they come to a dead end with no place else to go.

If they come from middle america often their closest friends and family (they may feel) have turned their back on them.

I don't know if "Shauna Grant" was a typical story.

Sounds like being a child star.

Some people make good choices and some people make bad choices.
 
My apologies, then. That did come out harsher than I had intended. Please forgive my tone.

To be clear, the reason I can now carry on in the style I originally criticized you for is because now I understand your position and where you are coming from. I respect that. It is clear what my position is, and I try to be honest in fact that I am biased, and try to see and admit the difference between my opinion and a fact. Now that you've stated where you are coming from, and have admitted your bias and therefore why you are asking the questions you are asking, I see where you are standing and we can all discuss this honestly, without any tricks being played. Well, without me suspecting a trick being played at the least.

Honestly, where would you like to pick up? Admittingly, I am guilty of side tracking the thread somewhat, and since this is your thread, please choose where you'd like it to go. And I'm kind of lost as to which question you were asking. :)

By the way, I say all of this without meaning insult or mockery. If that did sound like either, please forgive me again, as it is not my intent.

*Accepts your olive branch graciously and hands you a peace pipe*
No worries. I think I probably owe you an apology too.

To be clear, the purpose of the OP really was simply to start a debate on an arguably controversial topic in the hope of testing my own views on that topic. I certainly met that objective to some degree, even if by deploying somewhat disparaging tactics at times to "warm things up". I certainly told no lies, though (well, not intentionally or knowingly).

I'd say my Post #375 outlines my view generally, namely:
I don't think there's anything "wrong" with porn per se, from which you will deduce that I'm not entirely comfortable with it either, by which I mean I don't have great respect for porn actresses. Generally, I do think they're being used and depraved, unwittingly, regardless of consent, to the detriment of women generally. As for porn actors and crew, well, I suppose I should be scathing, but, oddly, I don't feel that way. I suppose it's analogous to buying some sneakers that you know have probably been made in a sweat shop - a fact which you're prepared to ignore in the interests of slipping them and feeling good. You could call it hypocritical, I suppose. Maybe male chauvinism. Maybe just brute masculinity. Who knows? (that's rhetorical, BTW!)

Happy to discuss this if you have any comments, but don't feel obliged on my account - we can stay with the thread as it is, if you prefer. ;)
 
I'll expound more on this when I have time, but treating porn actresses as though they were helpless victims unable to make their own choices, not intelligent enough to see what's right for their lives, and not strong enough to resist is just a very anti-woman and anti-sexworker attitude rooted in hatred of women and hatred of sexworkers. It's disgusting.
 
No worries. I think I probably owe you an apology too.

To be clear, the purpose of the OP really was simply to start a debate on an arguably controversial topic in the hope of testing my own views on that topic. I certainly met that objective to some degree, even if by deploying somewhat disparaging tactics at times to "warm things up". I certainly told no lies, though (well, not intentionally or knowingly).

I'd say my Post #375 outlines my view generally, namely:

Southwind17 said:
I don't think there's anything "wrong" with porn per se, from which you will deduce that I'm not entirely comfortable with it either, by which I mean I don't have great respect for porn actresses. Generally, I do think they're being used and depraved, unwittingly, regardless of consent, to the detriment of women generally. As for porn actors and crew, well, I suppose I should be scathing, but, oddly, I don't feel that way. I suppose it's analogous to buying some sneakers that you know have probably been made in a sweat shop - a fact which you're prepared to ignore in the interests of slipping them and feeling good. You could call it hypocritical, I suppose. Maybe male chauvinism. Maybe just brute masculinity. Who knows? (that's rhetorical, BTW!)

Happy to discuss this if you have any comments, but don't feel obliged on my account - we can stay with the thread as it is, if you prefer. ;)

Apology accepted. :-) Now let's start again. And please forgive me if I seem harsh, I'm just honest.

I find it interesting that you don't have respect for porn actresses, but feel that the crew is okay. By using your analogy with sweatshop sneakers, it's like not having respect for the children who work at sweatshop, but the people who run the sweatshop you don't feel anything towards.

Forgive me if I sound accusing, but it sounds to me like you see women the victims of porn and yet you blame the victim for being in it in the first place.

Personally, being in the business as much as I am in it, (and I am by no means a big-time hot shot producer or even a medium time warm shot producer), porn IS exactly like any other business. Let me tell you how I hire and employ my porn actresses (and actors), and let's see if that clears some of the stereotype away. (And yes, this is completely anecdotal).

When I first approach a model for a shoot for the first time, I am honest and upfront with the type of fetish I film. There have been quite a few who wouldn't do it, and I completely understand. If they refuse, I do not force or offer them more money (unless they ask for more - then we negotiate). I merely thank them and try to find other models or ask if they know of another who would be interested.

When a model accepts a job, I tell her upfront what this shoot will consist of in detail. I send her (and/or him) the script, the contract and a release form. They have the freedom to suggest changes in it if they are uncomfortable with something. Many many models demand this, of course. They want to know what they are getting into. And there have been changes and compromises that work for everyone at times.

Before the shoot, I get their ID and release forms, then I pay them so everything is above board.

During the shoot, I offer to get them drinks and food, (nothing special, just "I'm getting soda, you need some" type of thing), and give them breaks. Just like any other employer should do. Of course, at any time, if she/he feels uncomfortable or something with the shooting, we will stop the shoot and discuss what needs to be done in order to make the scene work.

Afterward, I thank the model and let them leave at their leisure. After editing, I send them a copy that they are free to use for their website, or head shots, etc.

In porn, the porn actress (or actor) is the bread and butter. If I treat them well, and they will come back for more jobs, recommend me to other models and even promote my movies more. A lot (and I'm not saying all) of the big name, and not so big name porn studios follow the same idea. It makes sense. This is first and foremost a business like any other and every successful business treats it's employees well. By the same token, every successful employee should have a professional business sense, be open to discussion and compromise, and be physically and mentally able to do the job. I will admit being a female porn actress is not as hard as programming a computer, but there's a lot more to it than just lying on your back and getting f******. That's part of the job. It is definitely not the entire job.

There is no difference to me business wise between running a porn production and making pizzas. You have customers, you have employees, you have overhead, etc, etc. One is portraying sex to indulge in a fantasy that a customer might not get to experience or even want to experience in real life, while the other feeds you pizza when you call.

Now, I'm not saying every porn production company is like mine. Far from it. There are good people and bad people on both sides of the camera. But then again, there are good people and bad people in law enforcement, in politics, in making pizzas, etc. The only reason why I think porn gets the attention it does is because it involves sex. That makes it fair game because everyone has a strong reaction to it. Because of that people who aren't in the business seem to think that they know a lot about it.

If I may be so egotistical to add this, I can honestly say with pride that I've worked with quite a few models, and each one has told me that they like me as a director and would highly recommend me to other models. In fact, I've had models approach me because of a recommendation from a previous model I've worked with.

I'm sorry for the manifesto, just my honest reaction to what you stated.
 
I'll expound more on this when I have time, but treating porn actresses as though they were helpless victims unable to make their own choices, not intelligent enough to see what's right for their lives, and not strong enough to resist is just a very anti-woman and anti-sexworker attitude rooted in hatred of women and hatred of sexworkers. It's disgusting.

Which is ironic, because anti-porn people claim that it's porn that demeans women, yet their rhetoric reduces them to little more than automatons.
 
Which is ironic, because anti-porn people claim that it's porn that demeans women, yet their rhetoric reduces them to little more than automatons.

Sure, it reduces them from being thinking people able to make informed decisions for their own life. But they like to keep them on a pedestal as well, that way they don't get their feet dirty.

This is fairly common in traditional views of women.
 
My apologies to you, Orangem, I completely missed your posting. (#400)

Good idea! Thanks.
You're welcome, and welcome to the forums!

www (DOT) shelleylubben (DOT) com/ (She puts her own references on her page)

www (DOT) oneangrygirl (DOT) net

www (DOT) associatedcontent (DOT) com/article/256234/4_reasons_women_become_porn_stars (DOT) html?cat=31

I will check these websites later.

I know. But they're all a bit derogatory... Not many positive reasons to choose this career path were presented...

But as it's been said, take those reasons and see if you can apply them to any job. Things like "Nymphomania" can be changed to "I like it". Just like a car mechanic first started his job because she/he likes tinkering with cars.


I know a true nymphomaniac. That is not as much fun as it sounds.

Actually, that was my point: they're all trying to make porn sound like something horrible! While searching on the internet, I couldn't find much positivity surrounding views on the porn industry. The amount of positive views is extremely small in comparison to the amount of negatives views. So, whether what's presented is valid or not, true or false, the general image of porn that's given is mostly a negative one: fear, degredation, drugs, abuse, objectification of women... blablabla!

So, I'm assuming (yes, it's just an assumption) that all this fear and negativity readilly available for the young neophyte, is nothing to nourrish the desire to build a career towards that industry.

And actually, that's sad. There's a lot of things a person should know before getting into this business.

Please do write a positive anecdote from a porn actress! :) Honestly! I'm genuinely interested! Unless it's not something I can ask on these forums :confused:

I hope my long post above helps. I do have a bunch of positive stories about porn actresses including my trip to the AVN awards, a long, long talk I've had with Savannah Sampson and her then boyfriend, my Tera Patrick stories, and a whole bunch of stories from my models, some of which are good friends. All of them non-sexual stories.

I'm not trying to prove anything. It was truly only food for thought. I guess the only thing I'm trying to awkwardly say is that jobs that involve sex are frowned upon by the "higher social instances", it's still very controversial and extremely taboo (One of America's greatest hypocrisies). Working in this industry brings harsh social stigmas. I believe most women don't want to deal with that... Again, my assumption.

I agree. Especially with this being one of America's greatest hypocrisies. And you've mentioned a big reason why women won't want to do porn: the stigma. And not so much of what men would think, more of what other women would think. I think that's extremely sad.

But get rid of that stigma, or better yet, don't even care about what others may think, and I think a lot more people would be open to it.

I'd love to respond more, but I have to head to work right now...
 
Apology accepted. :-) Now let's start again. And please forgive me if I seem harsh, I'm just honest.

I find it interesting that you don't have respect for porn actresses, but feel that the crew is okay. By using your analogy with sweatshop sneakers, it's like not having respect for the children who work at sweatshop, but the people who run the sweatshop you don't feel anything towards.

Forgive me if I sound accusing, but it sounds to me like you see women the victims of porn and yet you blame the victim for being in it in the first place.
Much of the porn that I'm accustomed to seeing (youporn.com, which I admit is varied), involves one or a number of men performing very explicit sexual acts on women "on the man's/men's terms", by which I mean it seems deliberately staged to give the impression of dominance and submission by man(en) and woman respectively. This commonly extends to the appearance of the woman being abused (I don't mean physically, as in violently, but more doing things that are intended to surprise if not shock the viewer), even though, in many cases, the woman gives the impression of enjoyment, or is indeed enjoying it. Interestingly, it seems that the more "extreme" uploads (which usually correspond with acts that I would say lean more towards depravity than the other way) show both the highest number of viewings and ratings by viewers.

This accounts for my not having much respect for porn actresses - the seeming fact that many seem prepared to be portrayed as something almost inhuman; there for the mere use and abuse by a bunch of guys looking to humiliate, but that, evidently, most viewers (certainly at youporn) prefer to see!

From what you've written above I guess this type of porn is different from that in which you're involved, and logically that could well account fo our somewhat polar views.

I'll try to explain my more lenient feeling towards the male "actors" and crew later when I have time (both to analyse and report!). Got to dash right now.

(you'll excuse me for snipping your post so callously - I just wanted to keep my post size down. ;))
 
There is no difference to me business wise between running a porn production and making pizzas. You have customers, you have employees, you have overhead, etc, etc. One is portraying sex to indulge in a fantasy that a customer might not get to experience or even want to experience in real life, while the other feeds you pizza when you call.
Hey, but what if you combine the 2 and make a porn movie about a guy who delivers pizzas!

(If you use that idea, I want credit for it...)
 
Much of the porn that I'm accustomed to seeing (youporn.com, which I admit is varied), involves one or a number of men performing very explicit sexual acts on women "on the man's/men's terms", by which I mean it seems deliberately staged to give the impression of dominance and submission by man(en) and woman respectively. This commonly extends to the appearance of the woman being abused (I don't mean physically, as in violently, but more doing things that are intended to surprise if not shock the viewer), even though, in many cases, the woman gives the impression of enjoyment, or is indeed enjoying it. Interestingly, it seems that the more "extreme" uploads (which usually correspond with acts that I would say lean more towards depravity than the other way) show both the highest number of viewings and ratings by viewers.

This accounts for my not having much respect for porn actresses - the seeming fact that many seem prepared to be portrayed as something almost inhuman; there for the mere use and abuse by a bunch of guys looking to humiliate, but that, evidently, most viewers (certainly at youporn) prefer to see!

From what you've written above I guess this type of porn is different from that in which you're involved, and logically that could well account fo our somewhat polar views.

I'll try to explain my more lenient feeling towards the male "actors" and crew later when I have time (both to analyse and report!). Got to dash right now.

(you'll excuse me for snipping your post so callously - I just wanted to keep my post size down. ;))

Well, you probably figured out by now that there is a very very wide spectrum of porn. At one extreme, there does seem to be an increase in what you describe, but at the other extreme an even wider growing market is the porn for women. Which is pretty much missing all the parts about dominating the woman.
 
Much of the porn that I'm accustomed to seeing (youporn.com, which I admit is varied), involves one or a number of men performing very explicit sexual acts on women "on the man's/men's terms", by which I mean it seems deliberately staged to give the impression of dominance and submission by man(en) and woman respectively. This commonly extends to the appearance of the woman being abused (I don't mean physically, as in violently, but more doing things that are intended to surprise if not shock the viewer), even though, in many cases, the woman gives the impression of enjoyment, or is indeed enjoying it. Interestingly, it seems that the more "extreme" uploads (which usually correspond with acts that I would say lean more towards depravity than the other way) show both the highest number of viewings and ratings by viewers.

This accounts for my not having much respect for porn actresses - the seeming fact that many seem prepared to be portrayed as something almost inhuman; there for the mere use and abuse by a bunch of guys looking to humiliate, but that, evidently, most viewers (certainly at youporn) prefer to see!

Let me change your perspective a little, if I may. How would you feel if a man is being degraded and humiliated by one or many different women? Would your feeling be the same for a man in that position as a woman?

There's nothing wrong with anyone being submissive. For most (I will admit not all) cases, when it comes to porn, that woman that is haveing all those things happening to her is completely under control of absolutely everything. In real life BDSM, even though the Dom is the one that seems to have control, the basic allowances and shot callers are the submissive people. It has to be because if the submissive isn't happy, then you cross from sex to actual abuse in my humble opinion.

From what you've written above I guess this type of porn is different from that in which you're involved, and logically that could well account fo our somewhat polar views.

It's really not. You'd be very surprised what fetish I like to film and what fetish I practice in real life. Believe me, it cannot be as shocking as what I've filmed and done.

I'll try to explain my more lenient feeling towards the male "actors" and crew later when I have time (both to analyse and report!). Got to dash right now.

(you'll excuse me for snipping your post so callously - I just wanted to keep my post size down. ;))

I understand. I'm at my day job so I can't be as complete I'd like to be either. :)
 

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