There’s nothing complicated about what is meant by “society” - you're making problems where none exist. "Society" is a structured system of organization that provides protection, continuity and security for the individuals within it. It’s what defines a social species. It exists in a simple way among the other primates and in a more complex way, thanks to our higher intelligence, among us Homo sapiens.
You're right, it's pretty tangential to our main argument and I don't want to go into it too much, but I find "social well-being" rather than "well-being" or "human well-being" is what makes problems where none exist. The term social in this context either adds nothing or is irrelevant.
Or to put it another way, unless your interest is in the perpetuation of the "structured system or organization ... etc"
in and of itself, then the term "social" isn't really doing anything, because I'd hazard that (like most people, I should think) what you're really interested in is the well-being of this person, that person, etc., etc., right on through to all the people that live and are ordinary, decent human beings; and the "structured system or organization" is only worth perpetuating, or even mentioning, insofar as it helps the several well-being of all those real people.
I disagree. You’re giving insufficient attention to the instincts generated by our genetic predisposition for social cohesion and all-important social acculturation and, unlike our less intelligent simian cousins, the demonstrable ability to transform society over time. E.g. modern urban societies are far removed from the Hunter/Gatherers of the Paleolithic era - even though they are biologically the same species.
I am giving attention to that aspect of things, and I think it's part of the explanation, I just find it insufficient on its own to explain morality beyond kin altruism, reciprocal altruism, and instrumental reasoning based on those.
Well you appear to be appear to be promoting “mysticism” and “spiritually” as being something over and above the natural functioning of the material brain.
The point I was trying to make is that the seemingly spiritual sense of being a “part of the whole” is illusory. Your argument has the feel of New Age woo about it. But of course, “I mean that in the nicest possible way”, as Edna Everage would say.
Yeah, that's always the problem with my position, I'm in a three-cornered fight. I don't hold the same connotations for "spiritual" and "mystical" as you do, I read them as Sam Harris does, stripped of woo connotations. (and he's in the same three-cornered fight too). IOW, I'm not introducing anything that has any sort of non-rational or non-physicalist explanation. But I don't blame you for holding the connotations you do, it's quite normal and traditional for rationalists, especially on a forum like JREF
That's why I say I'm trying to clarify it "ambulando" - i.e "by walking", in the course of the argument, hopefully my meaning becomes clearer.
As I see it, once you've ruled out biological instincts and reasoning ability you've run out of options.
Well, which of those two does your sense of being a self - i.e. something sort of behind your eyes peeping out of your skull - fall under? Complex mix of both, right? Same with this, what I'm talking about is an alteration in that sense of self-identification (and that's what spirituality and mysticism have actually always been about, but they've been mixed up with other things).
And what I'm saying is that that alteration in the sense of what one feels connection with, where the boundary lies between self and other (IOW, spirituality, mysticism) is what's responsible for those aspects of morality which goes beyond the natural foundation of kin altruism, reciprocal altruism and instrumental reasoning based on these, to give a sense of kinship with all people, and with the cosmos.
Or to put it another way (untestable, but it gets the point across): had it not been for those epiphanies, great and small, historical and in literature, in religion and secular life, there would be no such thing as any form of morality that goes beyond care for self, family and tribe, no morality beyond kin altruism and reciprocal altruism, no sense of universal brotherhood and cosmopolitanism. We would be a different kind of species (maybe, one might say, for amusement's sake, more like Klingons

).