Elagabalus
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That song's been playing in my head this whole thread. Pisses me off that it's a lovely song music-wise, but so damn creepy meaning-wise.
The sleeveless shirt doesn't help.
That song's been playing in my head this whole thread. Pisses me off that it's a lovely song music-wise, but so damn creepy meaning-wise.
This thread is mindblowing proof of horshoe theory
The sleeveless shirt doesn't help.
Legal age of consent has nothing to do with 'readiness for sex'.
It is merely a way of drawing the line of when a child/young adult stops being the legalpropertyresponsibility of the parent/s.
I disagree with your characterization of Americans. I've been an American for all my life, and lived in the place for all but two years of it, and that is not how I perceive the mainstream to be.
The fact that this kind of thing is even legal is bad enough.
No you just let the 15 year old sleep with someone and act more civilized because of it.
The fact that this kind of thing is even legal is bad enough. Parents should certainly not be allowed to interfere and veto their children's social interactions and personal relationships simply because they object to them. It's one thing to object to relationships and social interactions that are illegal, abusive or otherwise have an objectively demonstrable negative impact on their well-being. But feeling that you somehow have the right to interfere with your daughters personal relationships for no reason other than that you can, or because you are so over-protective that you refuse her personal autonomy? That's the kind of thing that tends to fall under the label of "honor repression".
Mick likes 'em young:
https://nypost.com/2009/09/25/mackenzie-papas-pal-jagger-bedded-me/
You can’t always get what you want — but Mick Jagger did. He bedded an 18-year-old Mackenzie Phillips on a steamy New York night in the late 1970s, she claims.
The wild child and “One Day at a Time” actress says she had sex with the Rolling Stones frontman during a raucous, drug-fueled party at the Central Park West home of her dad, folk-rock star John Phillips.
“I’ve been waiting for this since you were 10 years old,” Jagger allegedly told the then-18-year-old Phillips.
Seems to me more like a rejection of moderation. Apparently one must either allow anything or forbid everything; using one's judgment and concluding moderation in all things is somehow unfashionable.
This is where I'm sure NZ has it right - the legal age is 16, but it's flexible. As long as there isn't a disparity of more than 3-4 years in age, nobody ever gets punished.
When my boy was 16 and his girlfriend was 14, they went to the school counsellor to talk to her.
She gave them five dozen condoms.
They're still an item 15 years later, living together, and both in excellent professional jobs.
That's how the vast majority of US states operate too. Almost nobody thinks a 16 year old should go to jail for sleeping with 15 year old. There is however a disturbing number of states with exemptions for married folks and a disturbing number of states which allow fairly young people to get married with parent "permission" or if the child is pregnant. So, yes, basically, a child is allowed to marry her rapist.This is where I'm sure NZ has it right - the legal age is 16, but it's flexible. As long as there isn't a disparity of more than 3-4 years in age, nobody ever gets punished.
When my boy was 16 and his girlfriend was 14, they went to the school counsellor to talk to her.
She gave them five dozen condoms.
They're still an item 15 years later, living together, and both in excellent professional jobs.
That is a good question, maybe you could make a poll?Am I the only person on the planet who didn't have underage sex? <g d r>
This is where I'm sure NZ has it right - the legal age is 16, but it's flexible. As long as there isn't a disparity of more than 3-4 years in age, nobody ever gets punished.
So, am I to understand that in Sweden it would be illegal for a parent of 15 year old to interfere in their childrens' personal lives unless the kid is in some sort of objectively abusive, negative or illegal relationship? 14 year olds, 13 year olds, 12 year olds?
That's how the vast majority of US states operate too. Almost nobody thinks a 16 year old should go to jail for sleeping with 15 year old. There is however a disturbing number of states with exemptions for married folks and a disturbing number of states which allow fairly young people to get married with parent "permission" or if the child is pregnant. So, yes, basically, a child is allowed to marry her rapist.
If the interference is intense enough to deprive their child of the autonomy and independence that someone of their age and development is entitled they are liable to lose custody.
Parents are required by law to take into account the opinions and wishes of their child to an increasing degree as they age and become more mature. In practice, children in their teens are for the most part entitled to choose themselves who they have personal relations with, unless it can be justified by concerns for their welfare and healthy development.
Of course the examples that end up in court are not about individual isolated incidents of overprotective helicopter parents, rather it's about those subjecting their children to general patterns of completely unjustified restrictions on their personal autonomy and independence. Parents tell them how to dress, that they must come home directly from school and that they are not to be friends with or hang out with people of opposite sex.
Edit: any blanket bans on dating, having boyfriends, girlfriends or having sex as well as trying to prevent them from doing any of that would not be allowed.
A friend of mine served some time in the seventies for statutory rape. His girlfriend was 17, he was either still 17 or barely eighteen. Also, daddy had some influence.