But I'm not making an Argument From Popularity or an Appeal To Consequences, though I see how it might look that way. I'm saying that, because of the collegiality and pleasure which I get from sharing meat with loved ones, doing so provides me with a real, tangible benefit which I subsequently include in my cost/benefit analysis. I admit that I'm not sure how easy it would be to actually quantify these positive consequences objectively, but really that doesn't make them any less real.
All other things being equal, hurting animals is wrong. It's not that the pleasure I'm talking about refutes this moral truth. It's just that I personally value that pleasure more than I value the animals' rights. Further, I know from experience that when I live as a vegetarian, I'm miserable and I have an astounding innate capacity to make those around me share in my misery (call it reverse-empathy). So a case can be made that my being vegetarian indirectly harms other people--many of whom I love considerably more than I love cows.