Is this the post where I got "called?" Or is there another?
I'll read and give my answers, shall I? And then I'll go look and see if there is another calling-out post that I must respond to or risk shaming my femhood.
Or some other stupid crap that has to do with someone else's agenda and not the fact that I lost my brother last month and haven't been paying more than sporadic and brief attention to much of anything lately. [edit: never mind, not important.]
Check it out, Qayak, you're my number one focus right now, cuz god knows I gotta keep you happy or else get pointed at for "ignoring it when I get called out."
Called out....I feel like I'm in the ****ing O.K. Corral for god's sake.
But I haven't ignored a damned thing. I just hadn't seen this post yet.
I don't like being lied about. I didn't ignore anything, you got it?
Now imagine being a man having a woman doing the same thing to you, and if the police come they arrest you. Not only that, but you're called a pussy, a coward, and a wife beater.
That has to be awful for a man to go through. I can sympathize. We get put down for getting hit on, too. We get ridiculed as well. It isn't any fun to get hit by someone you love, and then have others laugh at you for taking it.
I don't mean to minimize anything that anyone has been through. Obviously domestic violence is a huge problem. While I recognize the comments that led to these remarks, I just have to point out the entire point of this thread seems to be to recognize the double standard for violence.
Yep, there is a double standard out there, and again, that has to be awful. I can't say I've ever known any men who were abused by women, but I also can't say I'd think it was all right for women to hit, but not for men to hit.
However, the thread asked if it's ever okay to hit a woman. I did try to explain that this particular notion has meaning for me that it doesn't have for everyone, and that it pushes one of my buttons. When that button gets pushed, I say something about domestic violence.
Now I'm fully aware this might spark the 'do men have it worse than women' debate, and I'm sorry if it does, because that really shouldn't be the focus.
I don't see how it matters if one has it worse thn the other. The situation is equally bad for either sex, isn't it? I'd think being hit by a significant other is devastating no matter what your sex. I'd think it has particular pitfalls for each sex that the other doesn't have to go through, and to which the other sex might find it hard to relate, but that makes it different, but not necessarily better or worse.
Again, I see the comments that led to this line of discussion, but just talking about 'women' and 'hitting' shouldn't make one stick to some script about wife beating. Honestly though, it is heartening to see this thread go this long before the vague defense of spousal abuse crept in.
Did someone vaguely defend spouse abuse? I didn't see that, or recognize it if I did see it. Lil distracted, you understand.
I figured, when I saw the thread title, that someone was baiting battered women with this thread, or hoping to. I guess I will always remember my fear and shame whenever I see such a sentence or phrase. I'm a woman, and my first husband hit me. I'll always have some sort of flashback to that.
But when I see such a thread title, for some reason, right or wrong, I always figure someone might be trying to start an argument about how it should be okay to hit women, since women can hit men and get away with it.
I find that sort of thinking retarded in the extreme.
It isn't okay to hit anyone. It might be necessary sometimes to hit to defend yourself, but I still see hitting in general as wrong.
Did I address whatever I was called out on? And if so, was it acceptable?
Qayak? Did I pass, or fail? It's so freaking important, I know.
