This is the big danger, of course (big lines of trucks at customs posts ...).
I think they were polite, but a major problem remains ...
The Times just wrote:
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https://www.thetimes.co.uk/edition/...eged-on-promise-to-help-theresa-may-kq0t5fktn )
It seems to me it is really up to European leaders to make some concessions at this point (in their own interest), more than up to Theresa May who is in a very difficult position, stuck between Europe and her own parliament. If, through some European concessions, she can win a few dozen votes in the House of Commons, she could save face and then go back to the people with a new referendum (choice between her deal, remaining and a worrying no deal), this could create a new dynamics.
A good analogy for the UK's position at the moment would be the following.
Imagine someone working a good medium level position at a large firm. They earn a good salary. At one point though they decide that they can earn a much better salary as an independent consultant, without actually checking if this is true or whether there is even a good local market. They then hand in their resignation, insult everyone still working there, including their boss, and basically go 'so long stupid company slaves, I will be rich and successful and you are all too stupid to see my brilliance!'
They then try to milk the company for the best severance package they can get, and out of resignation, just to get it over with, the company gives them some money.
At which point they discover that there isn't a market for their skills as an adviser, and the only jobs they can get pay far less and would cause them to lose their house. So they get in trouble with their spouse who points out that the whole idea is stupid.
And rather than ask for their old job back, they show up at the company's door, complain that it is all their fault, and demand that the company create a new, better position which pays more and has less work. After all, otherwise they'd lose their house.
I'm sorry for those in the UK not responsible for this current idiotic course and government, but the EU has given the UK enough leeway as it is. No matter how many tantrums the Tories and brexiteers throw, they are not going to get MORE concessions, nor is the EU responsible for cleaning up the mess the tories are creating at the moment.
The NI situation was a well know fact before brexit, and just because the leave camp lied about it being 'no problem' does not make that true.