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Trying to explain differences and ranting off too sorry
Actually I will disagree here in a manner of speaking. Some women can be just as if not more violent when attacking their partners and I am not just saying male partners either, the end game is the same, Saying it is worse for a woman on the receiving end of a males anger is incorrect(see below *). There isn't enough support for battered males and yes I agree the stereotypical biased view doesn't help matters, which is probably why many more battered men do not come forward and report what is happening to them. Fear of ridicule that a supposed believed weak female(in a hetero-sexual relationship presumption, in the same sex relationship even less report it)could beat up this strong male stereotypical image. The stereotyping has to stop, and anybody regardless of sex should come forward and report being abused.
Stereotyping at birth is to blame not feminists view however extreme they are. Plus an acknowledgment that women are as strong and violent as men would be advantageous in helping bring it out into the open and hopefully lead to it being acknowledge and appropriate help for all battered people is equally ensured.
I would love to do the genetics on some of these perpetrators and victims just to see if the hormones namely testosterone and oestrogen play apart in influencing their behavior.
*My best friend he is 6'2 built like a brick ◊◊◊◊ house(works as a bouncer in the club and has martial art training) his wife is 4'11 and built like a twig, she beats him up and she is a really nasty piece of work she has broken bones, caused some very serious internal injuries etc the mental ones often cause more harm than the physical kind( i know I was subjected to both continuously and still do now if he feels like it, amI victim in some eyes yes in my eyes no I am an idiot). I asked him once when she hospitalized him again, why did he stay as she will end up killing him sooner or later. He looked at me and said same reason you stayed with yours so long. He reported her to the police to force her to seek help, the police laughed and told him to put her in her place
Great male advise that is isn't it? Now he doesn't report it, he says not worth giving them a good laugh for. (she is getting help with her violence and she admits she has a problem which is more than most other perpetrators ever do, my ex never has admitted or accepted he was wrong to hit me or the reasons he used were pathetic, it was my fault and still is when he decides I need a lesson and he needs the exercise. Only those who have or are in this violent/mental circle know truly what it feels like, those who sit on the sideline making up lame excuses and blaming everything else than the person regardless of gender in my eyes are just as bad as the perpetrator of the abuse itself.
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I would also so say this to all those who sit on their white picket fences going oh she plays the victim I have no respect for you now ever then blah blah etc.
I do not seek respect from anybody I never have an never will, I value people and if people value me that's their prerogative to do so and they get thanked for it because despite my so called idiotic worthless life I appreciate and still remain warm and open to people. It makes no odds to me at all, I was alone and I mean alone during my marriage, respect didn't come into it then and sure as hell doesn't bother me now. I hope you NEVER have to have go through what I did, having your entire identity, soul and what makes you who you are, ripped apart abused, beaten to a pulp and crushed until all that is left is a empty terrified shell. You don't know what it is like to loose your self esteem to live in terror while putting on a false happy mask to the outside world showing all that you're a happy content person whose madly in love with her wonderful warm adoring husband as he is with you, hiding the fact your shaking with fear knowing the slightest look he gives you means you made a mistake and your payment is coming painfully later, knowing also once the doors and the people are gone the black cold lays there waiting again for you. So don't bother knocking me down because I am a victim I didn't ask for it I was forced to have it, Plus he did and still does occasionally when he can get his kicks, do a far better job of it than you could ever do and in my eyes you're just the same as him, a waste of air. Also I can do a better job or ruining myself down than any of you could even think of. I am not a victim I am a human being trying to slowly rebuild her life back every small step of the way. You can knocked me for bad spelling grammar blah blah all you like, the end of the day I wasn't allowed for 13 years to write let alone speak to anybody, I ask anybody after all that you come out of that level of subjecting of abuse with a high level of eduction, grammar doesn't put food on the table money does, a cuddle solves a child's pain not spellings. A simple life philosophy I follow, so bite me for following it and not being all snobby with writing.
