I feel like Dennet just tiptoes around it by saying "there are no such things as qualia". There being processes in the brain is all fine and dandy, but me actually experiencing it, rather than the process just going on without the "self", seems different. It's just that I can't put my finger on exactly how it's different. Any other person in the world would seem the same to me without the "self", but to me, there would be a difference if I just functioned mechanically, or if there was an inner observer.
But since the difference is just to me, I don't know if there's even a question to be asked.