There's no "seem" about it. That's exactly what I did. It's a perfectly natural reaction for which I feel no shame.You seem to have jumped from saying "both descriptions can't be valid at the same time" to saying "therefore one or the other is real".
Try that on the map analogy. Two maps, two projections (the function that tells you how "stretched" the map is, and therefore how to convert map distances into real distances). The projections are different, so they can't both be valid for both maps. You should pick one map and one projection and use that for everything, or carefully switch from one to the other. But obviously neither is more real than the other.
On a personal note, Sol, I've noticed lately that your patience seems to be growing thin and your attention to detail lacking. That's understandable. Dealing with cranks can wear on you, and dealing with people like myself, perfect examples of "a little knowledge is a dangerous thing," is no picnic.
I said already that I am not seeking a preferred frame of reference. I said that I would use whatever reference was most expedient for solving my problem. What seems to be the issue here is how these frames of reference correlate to reality, which is loosely defined as the physical world.
If I win a free space shuttle trip and take a look at the earth from space, I'm gonna say that the reality is that it's a big ball. So while various map projections are excellent for particular tasks, a globe probably represents most closely what I see. Of course, the globe itself is not reality - it's a representation of reality. Then again, on my drive from Phoenix to Cape Canaveral, I'm going to think that a flat map most closely represents that so-called reality. None of this bothers me in the least.
But let's instead go to a race track and watch two dragsters go at it. As I understand it I could describe the race as the earth moving under the vehicles, both of which use their engines to stay in place. If I plug in all the numbers, I'll get the same results as if the ground was stationary and the vehicles moved. I've no problems with that. I can accept that I really can't perform a test to know which way it happened in the physical world.
Where I think the confusion exists is this human desire to relate the description to our experiences. Why would pressing the accelerator cause the earth to move under the vehicle? Since both vehicles follow essentially the same route in the physical world, I would think that it not possible for the earth to be stationary and moving at the same time. So physically I think there must be one thing that "actually" happened, which has no bearing on the validity of my descriptions.
Intuitively I think that if I make enough observations I can arrive at understanding what "really" happened. I have not done this, so I don't know. I'm not particularly bothered by this, but I think it irritates the hell out of Perpetual Student, assuming I am describing things properly from his perspective.