Excellent point. Many years ago, I reached a point in my life where I had been arrested for DUI, had my wife divorce me over my drinking, and I was having major health issues including liver problems. I had every reason in the world to stop drinking, but I couldn't.
In regards to the O.P., from my personal experience, I believe anorexia, like alcoholism, is indeed a disease. However, my belief that alcoholism is a disease in no way meant that I did not assume full responsibility for my actions.
I started drinking knowing full well that others in my family were alchoholics. I knew the risks, I knew of my own pre-dispositions, and chose to drink anyway. I was responsible for the DUI, as well as the divorce and health issues. But, once I was in the nightmare of being addicted to alcohol, my ability to control the drinking was non-existent. I always took full responsibility for my actions, and I knew that I was on a path to self destruction that was of my making, but there came a point where the booze absolutely owned me. I no longer had any choice as to whether I drank or not.
I believe many people with anorexia have the same experience. They start something they know is a risky behavior, they believe they can control it, and before they know it, it takes over their lives. I believe anorexia and alcohol addiction are both diseases, but I also believe that a person can have one of these diseases and at the same time admit that they bear the responsibility for getting themselves into the situation that lead to the disease. It does not have to be exclusively one, or the other.
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Interesting post. The problem for many onlookers to situations like this seems to lie with the word "couldn't". To those who do not have specific problem "X", it can seem like "couldn't" is a cop-out for "didn't" or "chose not to".
Interestingly, it seems to crop up with alcohol more than tobacco;
I've often heard smokers say they could quit if they wanted to, but they don't want to. I don't believe I ever heard a heavy drinker say that.
Maybe this is because a smoker remains clear headed, even on his fortieth tab of the day, whereas the drunk is mentally buzzed after the first drink of the day and his judgement (to stop) is impaired. Some aspects of addiction may be common to all drugs, but the mechanisms may differ substantially too.
I wonder if there's anything about the effect of starvation on the brain that actually makes it harder to want to eat?