Well, I think our emotions and certain sensations are a subclass of "behavioral tendencies"; they influence our conscious actions. In a context outside of a conscious mind inputs into a system could act as "behavioral tendencies" that influence the overall behavior of the system.
Basically, I agree that in a general sense your original statement is accurate [i.e. 'feelings' act as behavior tendencies] but that alone does not help distinguish why 'feelings' are felt as such.
I think we are using words in different ways.
Emotions are not properly "behavioral tendencies"; rather, they are themselves a type of behavior. When an emotion "happens" behaviors occur within our bodies. With severe fear, we "fight or flight"; and emotions are accompanied by internal behaviors (increased heart rate, etc.).
Of course emotions impact conscious actions -- they do so through the complex cortical processing that we call 'feelings'. But the emotions themselves are not the behavioral tendency. They are a behavior that can be further processed. The emotion happens, but the feeling is a further elaboration on the emotion that provides only a tendency toward further action rather than a decision already made. This elaboration -- tendencies toward action that only push us in a particular direction -- allow significant behavioral flexibility.
I suppose we could define "feelings" as a type of behavior, but it is very different type than emotion or barebones perception. Emotion and perception are things that just happen. We cannot control them in the way that we can control our feelings -- because feelings are not, strictly speaking, a behavior in action, but rather only the tendency toward a behavior.
Does that distinction make sense?
From a neurological perspective, feelings only become possible through inhibition. Real life and real brains are more complicated than this, but think along the lines of kids and adults. Kids just do stuff without further mediation. Adults sift through our behavioral options because we have a means of inhibiting bare emotion; we feel different emotions rather than act on them immediately.
That's what our prefrontal cortex is for; knock out the prefrontal cortex and people become very different because emotion is not processed properly. Knock out the cingulate gyrus bilaterally and you see folks who are awake but not really aware -- it's a state known as akinetic mutism -- where emotions don't even get to the higher brain.
I don't think for a second that this explains consciousness, but I think it goes a way toward explaining the "feeling" and "experience" bits.