This guy reminds me of a (now former) friend. She has the potential to be very violent, abusive, and obnoxious. She appears incapable of maintaining a healthy relationship, has a very difficult time coping with people significantly different than her ideologically, and cannot handle disagreements well. And she's never had a drink or used any recreational drug in her life. She had the attitude that anyone who drank or used any kind of recreational drug, no matter how minimally, had a problem; and if they denied that they did, that was simply proof that they had an even bigger problem. Being raised by violent alcoholics, I can understand it to some extent; but ultimately her strident self-righteousness manifested in fairly abusive ways. She verbally attacked me rather visciously several times, one of which was over a meaningless triviality. I put up with it for a while, but when I disagreed with her, politely i might add, on the efficacy of "alternative" medicine (she's a huge supporter of "naturopathy"), and she stated somewhat graphically how much she would like to see me dead because of that and my "obvious drug problem" (never mind that I haven't used anything of any sort for nearly a year) I had to cut off our friendship.
I've grown up in a family with a serious history of drug abuse on both sides. I'm capable of recognizing and undestanding the difference between responsible use and abuse. She was not, and was not interested in leaning the difference.
The problem isn't the drugs or alcohol. The problem is extremes of behaviour that are exacerbated by drugs use. I agree that there are some people who simply should not use any sort of drug, including alcohol. They are simply not able to do so responsibly. They're usually also not able to responsibly manage their money (she certainly wasn't), relationships, or any other part of their life.
Their big problem is that they lack both self control and a strong sense of personal responsibility. They act primarily on impulse, and do not have the tools to regulate their behaviour; and often no interest in developing those tools. Because they cannot control themselves, they are unable to cope with the temptation provided by others around them.
They don't want to believe anyone else has a level of self-control that they don't, because it points up their own personal failing. They put the blame for their problem on the substance itself, instead of their own lack of control, because it absolves them of responsibility for their own lives and actions. They would rather see themselves as innocent victims of a magical evil force than admit that their problems originate within themselves.
Part of what I don't like about 12-step programs is that, although they purport to teach personal responsibility, they do so only at a very shallow, superficial level. Ultimately, they perpetuate the victimhood mentality, fail to deal with the core problem that causes the alcoholism, drug abuse, or behaviour addiction, and as others have noted, simply exchange one addiction for another, one bad behaviour for another. Self-abuse becomes self-righteousness. It's telling that there are 12-step programs for addiction to 12-step programs.
But there are plenty of us, I'd say the majority, who do not have such extremist natures, and aren't going to go out and destroy everything around us just by having a couple drinks at the club on a weekend.
This guy doesn't strike me as quite that way, though he's got more than a little of the self-righteous streak to him. But he's clearly the type who lacks self control and doesn't want to take responsibility for that fact.
To be fair, it's the antioxidants in red wine that have the benefits. Alcohol doesn't have any benefits itself. I also think that most (if not all) the beneficial antioxidants in red wine have been identified and they are easily obtainable from other sources.
Actually, the alcohol itself does. In moderate doses, it promotes the formation of HDL cholesterol over LDL cholesterol; maintaning a healthy balance and reducing the buildup of fatty deposits in arteries. Of course, heavy consumption completely undoes any benefits.
If you do not drink Scotch, you have a serious problem. That stuff tastes so good, why would you not want to drink it?
Only if it's a good Islay or similar; or one of a very few Highland malts.
One of my favorites, when I'm in the mood for something sweet, is a drink a friend and I call a "Chocolate Rocket". Two parts Godiva dark chcolate liquer, one part Sylk (or Bailey's or Brendan's, but I prefer Sylk) cream liquer. Hit with one part of Vodka to punch it up a bit, or one part of Kalhua or Tia Maria for a Coffee Rocket.
One of my favorite drinks is also one of the most expensive. Absinthe. Not that evil pseudo-absinthe Czech or Spanish crap, but real French and Swiss absinthe. There's simply nothing else like it.