This. The debate is often framed as if the trans people's feelings are the only ones that matter. Women's feelings are of so little account that the debate swiftly moves on to matters of safety. Of course safety is important, but it's telling that, if the debate remained on the topic of personal feelings, the feelings of the trans-identifying men (because that's who we're talking about here) are commonly regarded to trump everything.
The poor oppressed marginalised (six-foot, muscular, bepenised) flowers must have their lady feelz validated, and who cares about the women whose private spaces are being opened to any man who cares to enter? (While at the same time we're continuing to campaign for proper segragated facilities for girls in third world countries so they can attend school. Won't somebody think of the poor excluded trans-girls in Somalia and Ethiopia?)