I think the fact that the responses from the victims differ along gender lines is a pretty good indicator that genders view sex, and sexual assault, differently so the idea that any post with a sentence that starts off with "If the genders were reversed . . . " makes any type of point is ludicrous.
Obviously as a society we need laws that are applied equally so sex assault laws should be the same across genders. Sentences are based on harm done though, so we should see a difference in those along gender lines.
Age of consent laws are arbitrary. When they were 14 in BC there was zero uproar when anyone had sex with someone 15, 16, or 17 years old. Now the law is 16 but there is still uproar when someone has sex with someone who is under 18 because of media coverage from the U.S. where the laws are 18. What changed? Nothing.
The whole "position of power" thing is also arbitrary. It relies on indicators of power that do not indicate actual power. I look at how many of the people in my generation had affairs with professors in college. Today that is always an abuse of power but many of those affairs turned into long term marriages, many with the former student being the driver behind the marriage/relationship. Many more of those affairs are looked back on with fondness. No harm, no foul.
These types of threads on the ISF do illustrate how black and white people like their world to be though. I prefer the many shade of grey, (50?) in my world.