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Worst Rape Apologist Editorial Ever

Non sequitur.

I do not need to know the motivations of a burglar to take action to prevent my home from being burglarized.

But I thought this article was about the signals that one might unwittingly send to make oneself known as a potential victim. Given that, then I think it is quite relevant to know what factors into an attacker's choice of target.

Oh, this article was also about the fact that men are cavemen who love drama, and since rape is a form of drama, that men love rape.

Also, we should minimize our risks, even when we have no idea what is and is not risky behavior. It's not like we need to research that stuff.

Did I miss anything?
 
havent read any of the replies but did read the article.

i have to defend the percentage of convictions were the man was -not responsible, it was consensual sex. the woman clearly woke up the next day and (changed her mind).

there are men sitting in prison that got convicted because of lying women.
 
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But I thought this article was about the signals that one might unwittingly send to make oneself known as a potential victim. Given that, then I think it is quite relevant to know what factors into an attacker's choice of target.

Oh, this article was also about the fact that men are cavemen who love drama, and since rape is a form of drama, that men love rape.

Also, we should minimize our risks, even when we have no idea what is and is not risky behavior. It's not like we need to research that stuff.

Did I miss anything?

If it's true that 1/5 of women in America have been raped/attempted raped, then there is a major problem with American men.
 
But I thought this article was about the signals that one might unwittingly send to make oneself known as a potential victim. Given that, then I think it is quite relevant to know what factors into an attacker's choice of target.

Oh, this article was also about the fact that men are cavemen who love drama, and since rape is a form of drama, that men love rape.

Also, we should minimize our risks, even when we have no idea what is and is not risky behavior. It's not like we need to research that stuff.

Did I miss anything?
Yes, all of my points.

I think the author is foolish, everything you have said here is exactly the way I feel as well.

My only points here are that this approach while flawed CAN be used successfully dependent on how accurate your knowledge of the criteria is, for rape it seems from other peoples studies to be rather pointless, I cannot claim any special knowledge in that regard. Second that while flawed it does not equal apologizing for rapists it also does not mean that this method cannot work.

This guy may be an idiot, he may be a bigot, but what he is saying should not garner such moral outrage, it is actually a valid way to go about protecting yourself against many forms of attackers and is used often.

In the military we use camo becuase we know what the enemy is looking for and we try not to look like that.

The SS will often use decoys of presidential convoys for this same very reason . . . no moral outrage there, and clearly is seen as a potential way to avoid an attack without ever apologizing for the attacker.

The fact that we try to find patterns, and then try to not match the pattern is not controversial unless the attack in question is rape.

THIS was my point, which ultimately if seen in an objective way, should not be controversial.

Of course this guy was an idiot, and seemed unable, like many in this thread, to make any logical constructions for valid conclusions.
 
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In the military we use camo becuase we know what the enemy is looking for and we try not to look like that.

That's a good analogy. Dropping troops off in hostile areas is responsible for their deaths in the same way that women walking by themselves late at night in short skirts are responsible for their rapes.
 
That's a good analogy. Dropping troops off in hostile areas is responsible for their deaths in the same way that women walking by themselves late at night in short skirts are responsible for their rapes.

The enemy killing the troops is responsible for the troops deaths.
The rapist is responsible for the women being raped.

It is clearly true that if neither was there to be killed/raped they would not have been killed/raped. Is that a meaningful way to protect yourself from an unknown attacker . . . clearly not, from a known attacker clearly so.

When you are looking for a convoy of black SUV's to attack the president, and you do not find that, you cannot attack it.


The real question should be, do we as law abiding citizens WANT to alter our behaviors? I do not, so I carry a weapon.
 
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Originally Posted by Dan Rottenberg
Earth to liberated women: When you display legs, thighs or cleavage, some liberated men will see it as a sign that you feel good about yourself and your sexuality. But most men will see it as a sign that you want to get laid.

I wonder if he'd feel the same if he were anally raped on his way home from the beach? After all, after spending the day displaying his legs, thighs, and topless torso, he should expect that most gay men will see this as a sign he wants to get laid.
 
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Nearly 20% of women have been victims of rape/attemped rape.
http://www.resurrectionafterrape.org/media/Just how many women are raped.pdf

Sounds like an epidemic to me.

That is a stunning statistic. One in five women have been victims of rape, attempted rape, or sexual assault. That is far too many and far more than I would have guessed.

I wonder how much it says about the percentage of men who are rapists. I'd contend that it is still less than 10%, but I could be naive in thinking that. Even that would imply that I knew several rapists if the distribution were even.
 
Yes, all of my points.

I think the author is foolish, everything you have said here is exactly the way I feel as well.

My only points here are that this approach while flawed CAN be used successfully dependent on how accurate your knowledge of the criteria is, for rape it seems from other peoples studies to be rather pointless, I cannot claim any special knowledge in that regard. Second that while flawed it does not equal apologizing for rapists it also does not mean that this method cannot work.

This guy may be an idiot, he may be a bigot, but what he is saying should not garner such moral outrage, it is actually a valid way to go about protecting yourself against many forms of attackers and is used often.

In the military we use camo becuase we know what the enemy is looking for and we try not to look like that.

The SS will often use decoys of presidential convoys for this same very reason . . . no moral outrage there, and clearly is seen as a potential way to avoid an attack without ever apologizing for the attacker.

The fact that we try to find patterns, and then try to not match the pattern is not controversial unless the attack in question is rape.

THIS was my point, which ultimately if seen in an objective way, should not be controversial.

Of course this guy was an idiot, and seemed unable, like many in this thread, to make any logical constructions for valid conclusions.

Pointless analogy. Camoflage is proven effective defense against an enemy because it makes you harder to target.


Whereas there is no proof wearing a skirt increases your chances of being raped.


Also, the fact that you are not offended by the author's statement that a woman should not trust ANY men, even close male friends, is honestly quite disturbing... and in all honestly any man who does not find the claim that all men should be considered potential rapists and should be treated as such a laughably untrue statement is a man I would personally be afraid to be around.


Also...are you just completely lacking in empathy and reason? He uses Lara Logan as an example of women being irresponsible and making themselves more vulnerable to rape. But when she was wearing that dress, it was at a formal event with hundreds of people around her. There is no conceivable way in which her wearing that outfit put her at risk of rape in such a context, therefor, wearing such a dress was not an irresponsible decision which increased her risk factor.

Yet he bothered to chastise this woman, who has suffered a brutal, traumatic experience. If he (falsely) believed that wearing revealing dresses cause rape, why use, of all people, a known rape victim who was NOT raped while wearing such a dress as your example of how women should not dress? Why not use a playboy bunny, or a Victoria secret model?


Can you honestly not see the cruelty in this? In putting up a photo of a woman who was raped and nealy killed, and saying that she "sends a message" (his words, not mine), and that acting as she does makes you more likely to be raped...even though she actually DIDN'T increase her chance of being raped by wearing that dress?


Do you even understand how little sense you are making at this point? You state that his advice of not wearing a revealing dress at an awards show is a "valid way" to prevent an attack. Who on earth is going to rape a woman in front of hundreds of people at an awards show? That's like saying hanging your sandwiches from a tree in the yard of an apartment building in New York City is a "valid way" to prevent bear attacks.

Except that isn't a valid analogy either, because hanging food from a tree IS shown to help prevent bear attacks, but not wearing revealing dresses is not known to prevent rape.


So really, a correct analogy to your reasoning would be; hanging a wet tee shirt from a tree outside your NYC apartment is a valid way to prevent bear attacks.
 
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The stupidest thing of all is, what if Rottenberg were indeed correct in that wearing revealing clothing invariably mean the lady wants to get laid? Since when does "getting laid by a person of my choosing" = "getting raped against my will by any man who can physically overpower me"?

"She likes sex -- let's rape her!" Who thinks like that??
 
I like the kind of place where a naked virgin can sit at a well drinking from a golden cup and stay unmolested. Because of what will happen if she is - what is certain, absolute, painful in extremis and final -though slowly so. Or, and so much more preferable, because people have grown intelligent enough so none would have the slightest thought of doing so. (But I am tolerant of both ).
 
Ron Webb said:
I don't really need a formal study to tell me that
Safe-Keeper said:
Yes, you do. "It's obvious!" is a very poor basis for stating anything.
3point14 said:
Actually, I think you do. Otherwise you're just guessing. It may seem obvious, but without some sort of verification 'it's obvious' doesn't hold much weight at all.
Ocelot said:
http://answers.google.com/answers/th...id/776945.html

Has anyone done ony studies on the proportion of things that seem obvious but are in fact dead wrong?

That was a really interesting exchange.

What I found interesting was that nobody even bothered to check the reference offered by Ocelot. The Web page contains links to eleven sources:
  1. The first link (Utah State University) is broken.
  2. So is the second link ("Arizona's State Plan...")
  3. The third link is to a news article reporting Amnesty International's survey of attitudes toward rape, not statistics on rape itself.
  4. The fourth link (Sonoma State University) is broken.
  5. The fifth link (Prevention Pathways) simply states without evidence that "Most sexual assault victims are wearing regular clothes like blue jeans or pajamas."
  6. The sixth link is broken.
  7. The seventh link is (again) to a study of attitudes toward rape, not of contributing causes of rape.
  8. The eighth link (Wichita State University) is to a "fact sheet" which once again simply states politically correct opinions with no supporting evidence.
  9. The ninth link (Sexual Assault Services of Saskatchewan) is broken.
  10. The tenth link is to a study of "Clergy's Attitudes and Attributions of Blame Toward Female Rape Victims."
  11. The eleventh link is apparently to a research article titiled "Effects of Clothing and Behavior on Perceptions Concerning an Alleged Date Rape". I couldn't find the article itself, but once again the subject alone tells me that it is not relevant.
 
******* *******' the man who wrote wrote the article, and the views expressed are ******* **** *** ******** *******. The ****** should **** ****** **** *******.

And that's all I have to say on the matter.

Don't hold back. Tell us how you REALLY feel!
 
I expected better from the writer of the original article. That it's from someone we're told is supposed to know better makes this even more insulting. But the heartbreak is that in his follow-up, he lets it be known that he just doesn't get it! If anything, it comes across as him blaming his critics for "misunderstanding" him.

Well, there's one more dope I can cross off my list of "must-reads."
 
My only points here are that this approach while flawed CAN be used successfully dependent on how accurate your knowledge of the criteria is, for rape it seems from other peoples studies to be rather pointless, I cannot claim any special knowledge in that regard. Second that while flawed it does not equal apologizing for rapists it also does not mean that this method cannot work.

Dude, what matters is if it does work, and there is no indication that it does. Berating a victim, and in quite the insulting terms, for not doing something that doesn't work and does not apply in any form or shape to her assault, is not being helpful, it's just propagating a stereotype whose only use is to lay some of the blame on the victim.

Again, it's stupid to try to link that reporter's dress at the awards to her assault in Egypt. That wasn't a gang of Lara Logan fans, who knew exactly what she wore on what occasion. It was a gang who was so ignorant of who she even is, as to think she's an Israeli instead of an American. (Not that it would make the assault any more acceptable, mind you.) If it were a gang so informed about her as to know even what she wore at various events, then they'd have known she's not an Israeli and there wouldn't have been an attack.

This guy may be an idiot, he may be a bigot, but what he is saying should not garner such moral outrage, it is actually a valid way to go about protecting yourself against many forms of attackers and is used often.

It's only a valid way if it's been actually shown to work, not if it just fits some insulting stereotype. You can't claim it's a valid way in the same thread where you say you don't know what works.

In the military we use camo becuase we know what the enemy is looking for and we try not to look like that.

But in the military you don't use divining rods to protect you from mines, and I hope you wouldn't defend someone berating a soldier for not carrying his divining rod after he's got his legs blown off. And doubly so if he were to phrase it as insulting as calling such soldiers naive or "Earth to careless soldiers." If it's not been shown to work, then it isn't valid advice, it's just finding something to blame the victim for.

And even in the army, the camo isn't the alpha and the omega. As some guy who's been in the AA, I can tell you that if someone were to blame a soldier who was hit by fragments from an anti-radar missile for not wearing their camo last week, I'd be the first to call that someone a frakking idiot. That kind of missile is simply not influenced by what camo you wear even at the moment, and no missile is influenced by what you wore last year. Or for something less technical and niche, the same applies to someone hit by indirect mortar fire.

But even the analogy with camo uniforms is actually not making the case. In fact it's showing why that's not working. Camo actually makes you not seen, or at least hopefully long enough so you shoot that guy before he shoots you. It doesn't make someone think "nah, I'm not shooting that guy because he's so awesomely patterened". A woman can't make hereself unseen in a city, and much less while filming a demonstration.

The SS will often use decoys of presidential convoys for this same very reason . . . no moral outrage there, and clearly is seen as a potential way to avoid an attack without ever apologizing for the attacker.

But again, that one is because someone doesn't know where the president is. There's no way it's even similar to something that's not working and is just based on a stereotype that the victim must have done something to provoke it.

The fact that we try to find patterns, and then try to not match the pattern is not controversial unless the attack in question is rape.

It is, if the pattern is matching prejudice instead of reality. Plus, I can think of examples of "pattern matching" that are actually just repackaged racism, for example, just off the top of my head. So it's not just about rape.

And again: claiming that it's just fact or just pattern matching is not a blanket excuse. You can tell a lot about people by what patterns they see that aren't actually there. E.g., a racist sees patterns confirming his racist views everywhere. A sexist sees patterns confirming his sexist views everywhere. An anti-semite sees semitic conspiracy patterns everywhere. And according to one study basically wife-beaters see a pattern of wife-beating everywhere so basically they're only doing what (they think) everyone else does. It's called selective confirmation. People see and remember the cases or details that match their preconceptions, and promptly ignore or forget the cases and details that don't. It's not making it objective, it's actually showing the prejudice they filter their data through. And when someone is grasping so far for something to match that preconceived pattern as that journalist is doing with Lara Logan's dress worn on another occasion and totally unknown to the guys who assaulted her, yeah, it says a lot.

THIS was my point, which ultimately if seen in an objective way, should not be controversial.

Of course this guy was an idiot, and seemed unable, like many in this thread, to make any logical constructions for valid conclusions.

You mean like your string of non-sequiturs and just claiming something is valid without having anything that actually adds up to said conclusions?
 
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Non sequitur.

I do not need to know the motivations of a burglar to take action to prevent my home from being burglarized.

That such criteria exist for the motivations of the burglar proves my first point without having to detail the actual criteria, same with any kind of attacker.

Clearly from my perspective it is the wrong way to go about protecting yourself by trying to determine all possible motivations of all attackers and then changing your behavior to accommodate. Right or wrong this approach does not equal apologizing for rapists: my second point.

That does not change the fact that a person armed is a person able to defend themselves from all kinds of attackers no matter the motivations.

This reinforces my points rather than undermining them. There exists criteria, and it IS possible to change behavior to avoid meeting that criteria, even if this is the wrong approach, it does not equal apologizing for rapists, it is merely acknowledging that such criteria exists and then rightly or wrongly trying to determine what that criteria is, and changing your behavior to not match. This is accepted for all other behaviors, but when it comes to rape this misplaced outrage seems to be the norm.

Not at all, and you having said this makes me question if you have read my posts with a rational objective approach devoid of the emotional outrage typical of this topic.

I only used the bold font to avoid having to pick apart your quotes of my quotes. It made it easier to respond to your paragraphs. That you find that objectionable makes me question your motives.



We're having a discussion about an article about rape and women 'asking for it'.

You are giving advice to your loved ones in order to enable them to avoid attack, including rape, but you, by your own admission:

"not qualified, nor knowledgeable in regards to those details and thus will not make claims about them"


So, you're in a thread about rape and the causes of rape, you admit that you advise your loved ones on how to avoid attack, including rape, but you also admit that you don't know what causes attack. You support the position of the guy in the OP in that you believe that there are behaviors that should be avoided if one is to avoid attack, specifically rape, but you won't or can't say what those behaviours are, so by your own admission, you're giving advice on a subject that you know nothing about.


After reading your post again, I think perhaps you have not grasped the fundementals of the discussion here:

No-one is saying that it's wrong to advise on how to avoid being attacked (provided, of course, that one knows what one is talking about), What's being said is that, of all those factors listed in the original article, none have been demonstrated to be a significant influencing factor in a rapists choice of victim and one (she once wore dress that showed some cleavage) would appear to be a patently absurd notion (although I'm open to research that shows otherwise).

If you could tell us which aspect of the article you agree with, that might move the discussion along a bit.
 
What I found interesting was that nobody even bothered to check the reference offered by Ocelot. The Web page contains links to eleven sources:
  1. The first link (Utah State University) is broken.
  2. So is the second link ("Arizona's State Plan...")
  3. The third link is to a news article reporting Amnesty International's survey of attitudes toward rape, not statistics on rape itself.
  4. The fourth link (Sonoma State University) is broken.
  5. The fifth link (Prevention Pathways) simply states without evidence that "Most sexual assault victims are wearing regular clothes like blue jeans or pajamas."
  6. The sixth link is broken.
  7. The seventh link is (again) to a study of attitudes toward rape, not of contributing causes of rape.
  8. The eighth link (Wichita State University) is to a "fact sheet" which once again simply states politically correct opinions with no supporting evidence.
  9. The ninth link (Sexual Assault Services of Saskatchewan) is broken.
  10. The tenth link is to a study of "Clergy's Attitudes and Attributions of Blame Toward Female Rape Victims."
  11. The eleventh link is apparently to a research article titiled "Effects of Clothing and Behavior on Perceptions Concerning an Alleged Date Rape". I couldn't find the article itself, but once again the subject alone tells me that it is not relevant.



Alright, good catch. :)

It's still not demonstrated that any of the factors discussed in the OP influences a rapists choice of victim though. And I'll put money down that the dress she was wearing three weeks last wednesday had no influence at all.
 
The real question should be, do we as law abiding citizens WANT to alter our behaviors? I do not, so I carry a weapon.

Quite frankly, if a situation gets to the point where you have to draw a weapon then you've done something wrong well before that. It's better to be able to read the signs and avoid the situation altogether than attempt to pull a weapon and as a result make a bad situation worse.

And if you think that you'll have time to pull it when an attack comes without signs, you're wrong. I work with a guy who is ex-military and was attacked on the street out of the blue (literally no warning at all.) The first thing he knew about it was waking up on the footpath.
 
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