I did not ask you about prostitution in particular. I asked you why things are illegal, in general. But no matter. Law is not made by individuals taking a moral stance: politicians do not get votes by showboating on issues which do not chime with the voters views. I do not think you understand how law works if you believe that either of these can explain any law.
Fiona, sorry, but I have to make one little adjustment to your statement to make so I agree with it. The bolding is my adjustment.
I did not ask you about prostitution in particular. I asked you why things are illegal, in general. But no matter. Law is not supposed to be made by individuals taking a moral stance: politicians are not supposed to get votes by showboating on issues which do not chime with the voters views. I do not think you understand how law works if you believe that either of these can explain any law.
I am no lawyer. But I am a voter and an American citizen. I know it's not supposed to work like that, but sometimes, I think it does. In this case, yes. It's an easy target, it involves "SEX", (and say that in a "red state" and hear all the disapproving cries coming from it), moreover, it involves a practice that it totally "unchristian". Unfortunately, fear, god and "family values" are all weapons used a lot by politicians to change voter's minds.
Add "supposed to" to that statement and I will agree with you.
I have not seen this argument made, so I cannot comment on it at present. What may be slightly related is my own view, which I have previously discussed with you in another thread.
It is not my statement. It is a statement someone on this thread repeatedly made that I completely disagree with. I was illustrating why some people believe it should stay illegal.
One can only take moral responsibility for yourself and your own behaviour. Prostitution does not "send a message" of any sort. Each person must make a decision about the kinds of relationships they will have with other people: some have a relatively free choice and some have little or none.
Here I completely, without question, fully agree with you.
As I understand it you found on the idea that the prostitute has choice and is fully worthy of respect.
I feel that there is always a choice. Somehow, there is. However, some choices are a so difficult, so overwhelming, that it could be a bigger sacifice to take choice "A" instead of choice "B". This leads to what someone said earlier, which was, basically something like: It was a bad, and suffering choice, but I would've taken it myself and I completely understand why you took it. The other choice would've been much more difficult. I really don't think we should get into too much detail about this philosophy right now because it would derail the thread. Let us leave it at I understand that when some people, for example, such as the victims of human trafficking, are in prostitution, have no choice.
I wonder what you make of I Ratant's last post?
Honestly, I wasn't sure if he was being funny sarcastic or serious. If he was being funny sarcastic, eh, no big deal because I joke like that all the time without really meaning what I'm joking about. However, if he was serious, it would make me very sad.
Part of the problem here is that there are so many different stances around this issue and we have already seen attributions of views which are not held, so I do not wish to make that mistake. However there is no doubt that at least some of the people who use prostitutes do not give them any respect; some abuse them; some murder them; and some talk in the "practical" yet truly revealing terms that I Ratant uses.
Again, Fiona, I agree with you. One reason why what I call political showboat works so well....
Nothing will follow from legalisation which will change that kind of mindset; nor will making it illegal change it.
Here, I don't quite agree with you. As long as it's illegal, for both prostitute and client, there will always be a stigma of "criminal" stamped on it. Making it legal for both wears the ink off a little.
I do believe it is largely men who use prostitutes and who display that kind of view, but anyone who uses prostitutes should seriously ask themselves what kind of person it makes them. It is not about what she is doing: it is about yourself. I know you do not even understand this, judging from your previous responses, but this stance has nothing to do with thinking men are evil: it is to do with believing that those who exploit other people are doing something wrong.
I agree with you, except one point: I DO understand what you are saying.
You know I make pornography. I've admitted as much. I can tell you that first and formost, I do not wish to exploit my models. I have been told that I am the most respected, fair, honest and pleasant filmmaker that the models ever worked with. If a model doesn't want to do what I request her to do, she doesn't have to do it and I still pay her or him. In fact, I get offers from models I've never even contacted because I am so fair and respectful. Now some people might say that it doesn't matter that I am that way, that I'm still exploiting them regardless. Well, I've thought about it a lot, yes I've done soul searching here, and I do not agree.
I will admit that eariler in my youth I have gone to a prostitute. I won't lie. But I will tell you that I've kept my respect for her, talked to her, treated her like a human. Now a lot of people won't, mosty men, I'll agree with that. But I think exploitation is actually in the eye of the beholder. Because if that prostitute or any of the models I film ever, ever say to me "I don't want to do this", or "I don't want this produced", I will respect their wishes.
Let me give you another angle of exploitation. I work as a customer service rep. There are times when customers want a free item and/or have it shipped to them overnight for free. They will yell, scream, lie, threaten, and no, there's no physical threatening, as I'm sure there are with prostitutes, but I know there would be if the customers were physically near me. And most of the time, I have to give them what they want. Am I (and my company) being exploited? I think so at that time. Most of the time, no. I can imagine it being a lot worse for a prostitute, but the point I'm making is that I don't
That is indeed a moral position and I see nothing wrong with having morals; I am very surprised to find you do, apparently, and I cannot honestly believe that is what you mean.
You're right, I don't see anything wrong with a having a moral position, but I feel a lot of people use morals to force their beliefs and their judgements of others on others. More simply put, there seems to be a lot of people who use their morals to bully and intimidate other people.
But if it is then we must differ. Your second paragraph above makes no sense. There is no implication of a slippery slope that I can see: you either respect other people as moral agents and therefore not objects for your use: or you do not.
Don't worry, it's only a misunderstanding, and I'm sure I didn't explain what I meant. What I feel is that when someone says to me something like if there is this thing (or lack of this thing), it will cause everyone to think (and do) this other thing that's incredibly horrible and scary. That's what I was refering to as a slippery slope. It hasn't anything to do with a moral position, it has to do with the negative judgement of everyone if they don't follow a person's particular moral stance.
If you do not then you may use prostitutes and you may do so in full knowledge of the circumstances in which most find themselves. This has nothing to do with law. It may inform where you source these objects of your gratification but the question is irrelevant to the reasons for illegality because law is not made by individuals on the basis of moral stance. That is just not how it works
Sorry, Fiona, I'm afraid I'm misunderstanding you here. Please rephrase?
I am sure it is your opinion. However those of us who wish to see effective policy in relation to this issue do see it as a political issue: at least I do. I believe that we should work towards giving real choice and that means reducing the inequalities in our society and in our world.
I do too. Unfortunately, it's been my experience that a lot of corrupt politicians uses prostitution, geez, even just plain old sex as a "fear weapon" to the well-meaning, but gullible voters.
Your attribution of motive is ridiculous and it is insulting, to those who believe that making prostitution illegal will further that goal. I do not happen to believe that myself but I have no reason at all to think that those who do are dishonest or hypocritical.
My apologies to you, Fiona and the rest of the thread. I was venting out some frustration. I do feel, however, that someone who just cries out "it's wrong" without providing some kind of possible discussable solutions, then it's just grandstanding. I've seen that in a lot of threads, not just here, but even in politics,
There is evidence on this very thread that legalising prostitution has worsened the conditions for many prostitutes in the countries where that has been done.I do not think that evidence is conclusive because there are many confounding factors, as is usual in social issues. Nevertheless it exists. You can ignore that evidence if you like.
I am not ignoring the evidence. I am merely stating that keeping prostitution has not worked for a long, long time. I have also stated that legalizing prostitution will not solve all the problems, but it is the first step to make it better. Keeping it illegal makes making policies to help protect streetwalkers impossible. Even with it being legal to sell, illegal to buy, it's doesn't help the most destitute prostitute. But, making it legal, we can fix the policies so the problems that do exist can be tackled.
For one example, if it was illegal to make cakes, and people are making cakes. If a cake maker is using spoiled ingredients, or if a cakemaker is using superior ingredents, both will be treated equally: both will be arrested. However, once legal, there can be programs that help the people who use spoiled ingredients can be helped to get better ingredents without interfering with the superior ingredent using baker.
As I said, it's not a cure-all. But it is a real start. (Not that phony, "Swedish law" that does nothing for the suffering streetwalker, and in fact, seeds a more negative stigma towards all prostitutes).
But then I am driven to the conclusion that you are just trying to prove you are more "right" than everyone else.
I am sorry I am giving that impression. I don't think I am. But if I seem that way, then I'm sorry and I'll be more aware of when I am doing that. However, I do feel that if I'm guilty of that, I'm sure that there are others on this thread who are doing that as well.
If someone has said that prostitution causes human trafficking I did not see that.
I think it has been said in other threads, it's been implied here, in my humble opinion.
There is evidence that human trafficking is done to provide prostitutes for the sex industry, and I do not think that is deniable. There is also evidence that where prostitution is legal human trafficking increases to provide a supply of prostitutes.
And I agree with you about human trafficking, Fiona, but then again, I have also seen exaggerations.
That possibility is addressed in some of the texts already linked here. You are trying to explain the evidence away . How do you imagine that very poor women from very poor countries get to the Netherlands, JFrankA?
No, Fiona, I just try to see all the sides. I have run across a couple of articles that state that the numbers of people who are human trafficked are exaggerated. People who are happy with being prostitutes and want to be legal are being counted with the trafficked. I don't know. I have to research it further. I don't find that possibility far-fetched, because expanding those numbers and coming up with a sound bite cure all solution helps to make some people look like they are "moralistic", when in fact, all they're really doing are making things worse. I haven't posted these links yet, because I am still not sure of the source. But it did bring up a point no one here has mentioned.
I hope I've cleared some of my opinion up. Sorry about the wall of text. I'm off to play some well deserved World of Warcraft now.
...yes, I am a rogue on that game.
Thanks for your response.
