Makes a lot of sense. And another good post.
I get that you are coming from the children's side. So is Southwind. I see how both of you wish to make sure that no child, or no human really, want to get exploited or harmed.
Believe me, that's RandFan's and my position as well. In fact, I don't think you'd find anyone on this entire board who wouldn't agree with that. The disagreement comes, as you illustrated, from how do we approach a solution and "closing the loopholes" of that solution and keeping everyone's rights and beliefs intact.
Obviously, that's a difficult task. One that doesn't have a quick and easy solution. Also, with any comprimise, you are going to get disgrunted people. I don't remember who said it, and I am paraphrasing, but someone once said that a good comprimise means everyone is in agreement and satisfied, but still leaves the table angry or something to that effect.
Porn is one of those things.
The range of porn is as wide as the range of sexual fantasies, and sexual fantasies can seem disgusting for one, might be boring for another. That's because we are all different. I enjoy my fetish, though I realize that there are quite a few people who wouldn't go near me if they knew. By the same token, there are people who like missionary sex only, and there are people who think that's boring.
It's a personal thing. Porn is a reflection of our own tastes and a very personal side to ourselves that most people do not share with others. That's why it is both repulsive and the one of the most popular selling items out there.
Now whether someone's fetish comes from genetics or environmentals or a combination of both is irrelevant when it comes to porn. The simple truth is that someone with a fetish for X, or a sexual attraction to X, that person will never lose that desire for X. But no matter what X is, as long as it stays in the limits of fantasy and with safety and aware of consequences if those limits and safeties are turned off, then X will never ever be harmful. Once a person decides to do X for real, that person has crossed the line.
And that's why real child pornography is horrible. It crosses the line, no question. The idea of VCP is horrible. It drums up images of children, real or not, being harmed in a horrible way. In a way, VCP arouses something in us. For most of us, it's anger and disgust. But here is why I defend virtual child porn:
We don't know if virtual child porn does cross that line. It does on a gut level, (and I'm with RandFan, I find it appalling too) but on a technical level it doesn't. It's still a fantasy just like if I someone made virtual rape porn.
There even be a way to help real life pedophiles to cope and control their own urges to actually molest. As disgusting as it sounds, there are people out there who have the urge, but have a conscious and do not want to hurt any child, and those who have, well, maybe it could help. The point is we will never know. And yes, I am basing this on my own experience. If I didn't follow the fantasy limits and safeties, my fetish can be extermely harmful to my girlfriend. Yet, I keep it in line and I'm optimistic enough to think most people do keep their fetishes "behind the line".
Also, there are applications of virtual child porn that are, well, innocent. As I've mentioned before, if an adult writes a story about a fictional story of a fifteen year old high school girl having sex with a fictional twenty-three year old college student, and gives it to her/his adult lover as a way of teasing her/him, and to later to age-play out the fantasy together later is such an example, yet that is illegal. If someone else sees it, then they could be arrested and branded as pedophiles, even though they are not and all they are really doing is exploring play with each other.
And to the point of children being exploited by virtual child porn, here's my question. Real child pornography obviously, without a doubt exploits children. How does virtual child pornography exploit children? Also, since it's been banned, did banning it actually stop child a significant amount of exploitation and trafficking?
The thing is, I believe part of the problem is that people are looking for the quick and easy solution: Ban - there you go, in the dumpster never have to look at that filthy muck again. But that's the easy, emotional answer. And usually those are the worst kinds of answers when it comes to human behaviors. And trash really never goes away. It becomes a big stink pile somewhere.
We have to do more.
Let me turn this around further: If Scientology is trafficking humans, do we ban Scientology out right? Will that even stop all trafficking? Yes, saving those human lives are important, but if we ban something to save few, then stop to pat ourselves in the back, we've done nothing.
So, let's go further. Since banning Scientology worked for a few, it would make logical sense to ban other religions, wouldn't it? The quick, easy emotional answer. So what if people feel that the next step is to ban all religions that are not Jedo-Christians ones? Would that really help? Is that even really logical?
And don't think it wouldn't get to that point: Pat Robertson has already said recently that Islam isn't a religion but a political system bent on world domination. And as laughable as that is, you throw crap at the wall, some of that crap is going to stick.
http://www.internationalskeptics.com/forums/showthread.php?t=159803&highlight=robertson
So there you have it, the emotional easy and quick solution with all the ingredients one needs to feel like they've done something: fear, disgust, "not like me" attitude, patriotism, protection. Let's ban it! I feel better already!
Does saving a few, for the sake of saying "we did it! We saved some!" and have the fanfare, then turn to the next easy solution and ban the next thing really take care of the actual problem?
This country has been doing the "easy knee jerk" solution for years, (Yes, further back before the Bush era), favoring the emotional, easy, quick, solution that is a catchy chant. Personally, I see this trend getting worse.
We have to get to the root of the problem. We have to get our hands dirty. We have to take time, test and think. We have to see all sides, rather than "go with our emotions" in a lot of the problems we have. And we must never ever lose sight of the innocent: in this case both children AND adults - adults who want to express themselves without harming anyone.
Tough to do? You bet. Disgusting at times? Yes. Dangerous? Of course. Takes a long time? Yup.
But to get it right, we have to.
Now I'll admit, banning, such as the case of real child porn, is the answer. There's no question because there is no middle ground: a child gets harmed. The test is done, it's shown as true.
But there is too much middle ground, too many questions, too many what if's and most of all too many beliefs to say that banning VCP is the definite answer.
Finally, I have to say that I know I have meandered around your point, but I hope made sense. I have to apologize if I didn't. I suddenly got into "Paul Simon" mode and wrote in a stream of consciousness...