TAM X - Singles n' Singles

saganite said:
- I met El_Spectre because I was wandering around by myself, looking for anyone else with a badge (this was in the pre-South Point days) and he was the first person I saw so I said hey and asked if I could tag along to wherever he was going.
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It helps that he's very easy to find again if you get separated from him...
 
rustypouch said:
Say the activity was bowling. You're pretty much forced to stick with the same three or four people, and the people in the lanes next to you, to a lesser extent, for the duration of the event. Wandering around is discouraged, as it could negatively affect the experience of the people you're playing with. A movie is even worse for meeting people, as it's just sitting still and being quiet.

Compared to parties in someone's room, where you mingle, make snarky comments about the cheap bottle someone brought, watch guys deep throat chocolate phalluses, take a quick shower with someone new, hang with the smokers, snuggle with the Marquis, listen to Hitchens tell jokes that go nowhere... all of which have happened at previous TAMs.

I just think there's more opportunity for interpersonal interaction when there's less structure to an event.
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Personally, other than Hitchens, everything you described sounds very unappealing to me. No offence, but that's the kind of stuff I used to do back when I played Rugby. And while I wouldn't fault anyone for finding that enjoyable, I'm not sure a bunch of people who have never met would be interested in "taking a quick shower" with each other.

Perhaps I'm just and old Fuddy Duddy, but I don't really view TAM as some big skeptic version of the movie "The Hangover." I just want to meet cool people, have good conversations, and perhaps do some cool and meaningful stuff.

I do however agree with you in some respects about the event. Some events are better than others. A group movie would make no sense, and you're probably right about bowling as well.

That said, it's not like TAM is being held in rural Baltimore or something. This is Las Vegas...if there is any place in the world where there is a lot of possibilities it's there.

I mean, you (and everyone else) is free to do whatever you like so feel free to bring up your idea on the Facebook page and see if people are into it. I would personally like to find something a little more comfortable. I tend to believe that those who are into random showers, and deep-throating stuff will probably have little problem meeting and finding people at TAM.
 
crazylegsmurphy said:
Personally, other than Hitchens, everything you described sounds very unappealing to me. No offence, but that's the kind of stuff I used to do back when I played Rugby. And while I wouldn't fault anyone for finding that enjoyable, I'm not sure a bunch of people who have never met would be interested in "taking a quick shower" with each other.

Perhaps I'm just and old Fuddy Duddy, but I don't really view TAM as some big skeptic version of the movie "The Hangover." I just want to meet cool people, have good conversations, and perhaps do some cool and meaningful stuff.

I do however agree with you in some respects about the event. Some events are better than others. A group movie would make no sense, and you're probably right about bowling as well.

That said, it's not like TAM is being held in rural Baltimore or something. This is Las Vegas...if there is any place in the world where there is a lot of possibilities it's there.

I mean, you (and everyone else) is free to do whatever you like so feel free to bring up your idea on the Facebook page and see if people are into it. I would personally like to find something a little more comfortable. I tend to believe that those who are into random showers, and deep-throating stuff will probably have little problem meeting and finding people at TAM.
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That's exactly it. Vegas is full of possibilities.

To me, the people are the entertainment. The milieu is a bonus. Put interesting people together, and interesting things happen.

Also, from past experiences, trying to organize a large event, on the fly, with so many independent people, just turns into a gong show. I just prefer a looser environment where relationships can naturally coalesce, rather than being forced, and if someone doesn't like the people they're with, they can easily find another group.
 
rustypouch said:
Also, from past experiences, trying to organize a large event, on the fly, with so many independent people, just turns into a gong show. I just prefer a looser environment where relationships can naturally coalesce, rather than being forced, and if someone doesn't like the people they're with, they can easily find another group.
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Well, to be fair it's still like 88 days until the conference, so I wouldn't really consider this "on the fly."

Also, I'm not sure this is going to be a large event seeing that I expect only a handful of people to actually commit.

I understand what you're saying though. I just think that you are, and please don't take this the wrong way, making an issue where there isn't any.

What I mean is, you seem to be finding reasons to get out of the situation before you are even in it. No one is forcing anyone to commit to anything. If you come out for a meet up and you hate everyone, you're free to leave. I just don't understand why you would go into a situation like this looking for an out.

To be honest, I have no idea if I'll like any of the people who decide to come out, but I also have no idea that I won't. I'm exited to meet whoever shows up, and if it turns out to totally blow goat nuts, then oh well.

My suggestion would be to come up with some ideas. Throw some stuff out there and see what people think. I'm pretty much open to anything as long as everyone is comfortable, so throw some ideas out.
 
TAM 8 was my first and on the Wednesday night a large group of fourm-ites went to a restaurant across town and then checked out the Fremont Street Experience. While I mostly hung out with the randomly assigned folks who were in the same car, it was fun and made me feel a part of an "in" crowd.
 
Allecher said:
TAM 8 was my first and on the Wednesday night a large group of fourm-ites went to a restaurant across town and then checked out the Fremont Street Experience. While I mostly hung out with the randomly assigned folks who were in the same car, it was fun and made me feel a part of an "in" crowd.
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Joining one or several of the many "extracurricular" activities around TAM is usually a great opportunity to meet people.
 
Allecher said:
TAM 8 was my first and on the Wednesday night a large group of fourm-ites went to a restaurant across town and then checked out the Fremont Street Experience. While I mostly hung out with the randomly assigned folks who were in the same car, it was fun and made me feel a part of an "in" crowd.
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That was the dinner at which I met my current SO.
 
Does anyone else think it's funny that a post looking for a roommate is posted in a Singles thread?
 
You'll have to forgive me. I'm a little slow this morning.

What it sounds like to me, is that you're not interested in attending an event, because you don't want to have to commit to something you may not enjoy.

I really hope I'm simply not understanding this because if that is the case, it's ridiculously rude. Someone else above said something similar as well, and I took offence to it.

It's like, imagine if you invited someone to your birthday party and they said, "I'm not going to come because I'm not sure I'll enjoy talking to you, and I don't want to be trapped at your potentially sucky party."

The question I would have at that point is what makes you think anyone would want you there at all? Other people are attending an event because for those few hours they are commented to getting to know new people. Sure, they may, or may not get along with them, but that's just the nature of life.

To say you're not interested in attending because you don't want to be "trapped" with people you don't like is super insulting. The question I have is why you would feel the need to even say anything?

Why do we care at all that you're not attending this function? What purpose does it serve to muddy up the thread with nonsense like that? If you don't want to attend for whatever reasons you have, then move on and find something else to do.

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I have to apologize, but this entire thread is making me cranky. I came on here and proposed and idea for people meeting each other, and it has been criticized and insulted by some for the last two pages.

To put this in perspective, I recently started a Facebook event for fans of a cartoon to meet at the local comic convention. I now have 33+ people who are committed to coming, and many of them have expressed that they think the idea is great. I didn't have to explain a million things, or defend my reasons for liking the cartoon or for creating the event. People who were interested joined, and they have been positive and providing great suggestions. I also didn't see anyone criticizing the "Canadians eat Mexican food" event in the other thread, or any of the other events, yet for some reason some people have felt the need to shoot down this idea.

Again, I'm sorry for the outburst, but I have never had such a frustrating time setting up an event in my life. The amount of explaining, defending, and clarifying I have had to do in this one thread has almost driven me to the point where it seems like it would just be easier to just not attend.

To put it another way, there have been a few in this thread that have not been encouraging or supportive, and seem to be going out of their way to make myself and others feel unwelcome.

So...to conclude the rant....The Central Scrutinizer, no offence, but you really haven't been adding anything of value to this thread, your negativity is making me cranky, and now in the end you don't seem interested in attending anyway (if you ever did), so perhaps it might be a good time to find somewhere else to post. ya?
 
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crazylegsmurphy said:
I also didn't see anyone criticizing the "Canadians eat Mexican food" event in the other thread, or any of the other events, yet for some reason some people have felt the need to shoot down this idea.
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We go easy on the Canadians, because they already have to live with the shame of being Canadian.

crazylegsmurphy said:
So...to conclude the rant....The Central Scrutinizer, no offence, but you really haven't been adding anything of value to this thread, your negativity is making me cranky, and now in the end you don't seem interested in attending anyway (if you ever did), so perhaps it might be a good time to find somewhere else to post. ya?
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I thought you would appreciate the RSVP.
 
The Central Scrutinizer said:
We go easy on the Canadians, because they already have to live with the shame of being Canadian.
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While I can see you're attempting to be humorous, if that were actually the case it would seem you would be quite supportive of this considering that out of the seven people confirmed at least 3 of us are Canadian.



I thought you would appreciate the RSVP.
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No, I'm not really interested in your personal negative reasons why you're not interested in attending. As well, I don't recall posting anywhere in this thread that I wanted everyone on this forum to please let me know if they're not going, and the reason.

It seems more likely that you're attempting to be facetious, with no intention of doing anything but shooting this idea down or making others feel unwelcome.

I have looked over your posts in this thread and you seem to be commenting for the sake of it. If you are interested in attending, then that's great, but if you're just here to put in your "two bits" without any intention of going, then I would encourage you to find some other thread to post in where they're more interested what you have to say.

Thanks.
 
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