Religious moderates cause religious extremists

El Greco said:
I don't know whether we're doing them a favor by not challenging their ideas (I guess the answer is 'no'), but when we challenge their ideas with wrong arguments (eg "extremists") then we make their counter-arguments more obvious and in that case we can be sure that we're not doing a favor neither to them nor to ourselves.
I agree with you. That is why I am grappling with how to present my views in a non-extremist way. It is my observation that few American Christians have much experience with avowed atheists, so they all get lumped with the extremists. Obviously, many Christians who have visited these boards have discovered that atheists, like theists, come in all flavors.

So I believe it would be a favor to ourselves to somehow introduce theists to the concept of moderate atheism. To know that I simply disagree with them, but I am not trying to tear down their churches or prevent private prayers. I guess what I'm saying is that perhaps more atheists should "come out of the closet". Actually, I have publicly expressed my views (I write letters to the editor often) and anybody who asked would know my views, but I still make it a practice to keep my views silent in conversations with strangers or mere acquaintences.

As an example, I am occasionally in the midst of a conversation about Christianity, something of the "What would Jesus do" type. Do I just shut up, or do I offer my opinion that we don't know what Jesus would do because no one is truly certain of the nature of Jesus, or even if he existed? That's not judgmental, only my opinion, but it would surely be a conversation stopper.
 
Tricky said:
I guess what I'm saying is that perhaps more atheists should "come out of the closet". Actually, I have publicly expressed my views (I write letters to the editor often) and anybody who asked would know my views, but I still make it a practice to keep my views silent in conversations with strangers or mere acquaintences.

I behave in more or less the same way. For me, it's not worth the effort and (to be brutally selfish and honest) sometimes I value more my personal relationships than crushing false Gods. Things change with people who are very close to me. They know what I believe and how I handle their beliefs depends on the person. I think that a good technique is what I call "isolation of God". It is much easier to teach a person to examine skeptically other things and slowly dismiss ghosts, UFOs, astrology, homeopathy etc. When there are no such beliefs, it becomes easier to focus on the sole remaining absurd belief, God. This is how it all started for many atheists anyway, and this explains why you will see several skeptics who still believe in God (the last frontier) but only very few atheists who believe in other woo things.
 
Here’s why I came on strong, Tricky. When you said:
It sounded suspiciously like a slippery slope argument, but it made some very good points….If anything, "soft theism" is more dangerous because it creates the environment where we tolerate book burners and doctor-killers and creationists with hardly a shrug….I have always prided myself on being able to see all sides of a situation and not being radical, but now I am tempted to become more strident….

It immediately triggered my ‘uh oh’ button. Why? First of all, as far as I am aware, there have been no studies to prove this particular theory. It is based on anecdotal evidence and personal bias. Hardly the stuff of science or critical thinking. I expect better out of the people here, and certainly better from those speakers who put themselves in a position of ‘critical thinking authority’. I expect that the people on these forums will use information that is correct, current, and proven. What we do know is that it is unhealthy to create division amongst human beings in the area of personal relationships. It leads to all sorts of nasty repercussions. Check out psych studies by any reputable sponsor for verification. Hell, read any book on influencing people in business environments. Friction does nothing except make your life difficult. *Trust* is the key to open communication on difficult topics.

So then Russ says:
Yes, just as many of us our through with anything that smacks of nazi-ism, sexism, racism, etc

Holy moley! So now moderately religious people are the equivalent of the Third Reich? Of the KKK? But his words pretty much get a pass. Now if I had said something equivalent only substituting the word ‘atheist’ for that of ‘religious’, I would have had people crawling all over me saying how intolerant I was. See my point here? When you allow personal bias to get in the way of communication, you draw a line in the sand. You set up an us vs them mentality, and that ain’t good.

But back to you, Mr. Tricky. ;) You further said this to MLynn:
I wish I could convince you to release your beloved but unsupported religious beliefs, just as I wish I could do with Ms. Tricky. I think all of us wish others (especially those we love) could see the good sense of our point of view.

Why is it so important to you *if* she is happy? Isn’t it enough to support her happiness by saying something like, ‘Well, it’s not my gig, but as long as you aren’t hurting yourself or others, you go girl.’ Why must you crusade the atheist cause? (Ah I’m waiting for someone to ask for definition of ‘the atheist cause.’ I know you’re out there, go ahead, ask….You know you want to. ;) )

Finally MLynn weighs in with this sad reminder of why Dawkins et al are full of $#!+ on this specific topic:
Yes, it did get bogged down and I wish I had taken notes on the panel discussion. I'm still trying to connect the dots from my being a moderate Xian to the extremists killing 295 of my collegues at the WTC. I murdered my own colleagues??

The answer to this question is No. Hell. No. Yet no one corrects or clarifies on this point. If MLynn were atheist and said, ‘Man, I wonder if my lack of religion somehow led to the tsunami.’ The response would have been immediate.

Why do I even bother talking about this stuff? First, because I think it’s important that we remember that religious, not religious or something in between, we’re all people living on the same chunk of rock. It’ll go a lot better for all of us if we can’t agree, to at least get along. Secondly, when dangerous ideas get a pass, whether it’s from the religious or non religious, we should all stand up and say, ‘hey, that’s not right!’ Critical thinking shouldn’t come to a stand still just because a particular thought came from a favored ‘authority’. Ok, that’s all I gots for now. ;)
 
Tricky said:
So I'm not really talking about challenging or attacking moderate theists. I'm talking about stating clearly that I think their beliefs are unsupported. On the forum, we can speak pretty openly with anyone, but in the real world, I generally keep my beliefs to myself, even when the topic being discussed is religion because I don't want to offend people who I consider very nice.
No way should you keep it to yourself! We have a right to voice our beliefs about religion as much as anyone. I've never met anyone that kept their Christian, Pagan, Islamic, etc. beliefs from me in fear of offending me. Many of them bring it up as often as the weather. How I handle it depends on the context and my mood.

If they are simply stating something pleasantly, such as, "I feel so blessed because God has given me a wonderful family," I wouldn't say, "well, I feel your belief in God is unfounded; don't you think something else might account for it?" because it's not called for in that situation.

Now, if they say, "the Lord has made such a difference in my life, do you go to church?" they are specifically asking for my beliefs. I would tell them, and only expand on it if I felt like getting into a huge discussion, because that ALWAYS happens. I'll admit I don't always feel like debating the same old debate for an hour. It gets tired sometimes. BUT, I certainly don't hide it out of walking on eggshells for fear of shattering them. People are tougher than that. It's pretty easy to be nice, tactful and have a good discussion. Oftentimes what works in my favor is that I am usually honestly fascinated by others' beliefs and keep asking them questions about them, interjecting my beliefs on the topic at the same time. Most of the conversations end with both parties learning a little, I like to think.

Now on the other hand, if I am faced with "the tsunami hit those people because they are sinners" or "AIDS is god's punishment of gays", then I unleash *MY* tsunami on them, full force. No holds barred. I'll tell them, "that's your God? Then he's a f***** a******e, isn't he?"

Okay, I do have ONE BIG WEAKNESS on this, and no, it is not writing big long posts. A lot of you may disagree, but when it comes to very old people, or people who have just lost a loved one and are grieving, I just don't have the heart to challenge their faith if they take comfort in it. I just can't say, oh I don't believe in heaven or an afterlife where you'll see your loved ones again. The closest thing I'll say if I am called to take a stand is "hey, we experienced a center of consciousness once; who's to say we can't do it again?"

As for boyfriends, I let them know from the start, because it can be a huge issue. For both of us. If they're willing to let me make fun of them every now and again, they're in. Ah, only kidding. Mostly. ;) But if someone is going to leave me because of my beliefs, they're not the right person for me. My skepticism is an integral part of my nature. I like curiosity and curious people. If someone doesn't have a skeptical or questioning bone in their body, I'm going to lose interest real fast. It sort of works itself out.
 
duppyraces said:


As for a boyfriend, I let them know from the start, because it can be a huge issue. For both of us. If they're willing to let me make fun of them every now and again, they're in. Ah, only kidding. Mostly. ;) But if someone is going to leave me because of my beliefs, they're not the right person for me. My skepticism is an integral part of my nature. I like curiosity and curious people. If someone doesn't have a skeptical or questioning bone in their body, I'm going to lose interest real fast. It sort of works itself out.

You know, we often joke about this, but it can be a big deal. I dated someone a few years ago who had become a seriously devout, born-again Christian fundamentalist. I say "had become" because I knew her in elementary school and high school quite well, and she was never that way. Her family wasn't either.

Well, we ran into each other and start dating many years after that. Despite having known me for a decade or two *cough*, and once believing that I was a straight-laced good citizen type, after our first date she thought I was a foul-mouthed, lecherous, atheist sinner, and she had reservations about going out with me again.

We dated for a little while, but I couldn't handle her constantly talking about Jeebus and devoting the better part of her week to attending Bible studies and discussion groups (I forgot the term she used for it, but the members of the small group were like AA sponsors, keeping each other in line with Jeebus). She also gave me one of Josh McDowell's books, saying that she thought I might like reading it. Yeah, sure.

What turned me off the most was her concept of a proper marriage. She said that a Christian marriage has three parties to it: the man, the woman, and God. God came first, always. The man was second, and the woman was always subordinate to the man. I asked her, "What about kids? Does God come before them, too?" Her reply? Yes.

WTF? I just couldn't respect her as an equal after that, and that part is essential to me. I'm not interested in dominating an SO, and I'm not going to be subordinated to my partner either. If or when I have kids, I'm not going to be happy with a wife who puts God and Jeebus before them and their needs. Of course, I also didn't respect her much after I questioned her directly about whether she believed the Bible was literally true, and after pausing for a moment, she answered with a resolute "Yes."

It's not easy dating in the Bible Belt if you are not a believer.

AS
 
duppyraces said:
No way should you keep it to yourself! We have a right to voice our beliefs about religion as much as anyone. I've never met anyone that kept their Christian, Pagan, Islamic, etc. beliefs from me in fear of offending me. Many of them bring it up as often as the weather. How I handle it depends on the context and my mood.

If they are simply stating something pleasantly, such as, "I feel so blessed because God has given me a wonderful family," I wouldn't say, "well, I feel your belief in God is unfounded, don't you think something else might account for it?", because it's not called for in that situation.
Pretty much my same reaction, with one exception. These days if I give money to a begger or the Salvation Army and they say "God Bless You", I reply politely, "I'm an atheist, but thanks for the thought."

duppyraces said:
Now, if they say, "the Lord has made such a difference in my life, do you go to church?" they are specifically asking for my beliefs. I would tell them, and only expand on it if I felt like getting into a huge discussion, because that ALWAYS happens. I'll admit I don't always feel like debating the same old debate for an hour. It gets tired sometimes. BUT, I certainly don't hide it out of walking on eggshells for fear of shattering them. People are tougher than that.
Here's the gray area. Sometimes they ask directly, other times they hint at it. However, I have great stamina for repeating the same old debate, because I get to adjust it, depending on what points they make. I consider it a challenge, and I'm grateful to these boards for refining and expanding my debating skills. But of course, often these "debates" are with the same people over and over again (often family members). That's okay too. I can outlast them.

duppyraces said:
Oftentimes what works in my favor is that I am usually honestly fascinated by others' beliefs and keep asking them questions about them, interjecting my beliefs on the topic at the same time. Most of the conversations end with both parties learning a little, I like to think.
That is especially true on the boards here, but in real life, I rarely get to hold such discussions with strangers or acquaintences. I haven't learned much new about my sister lately.

duppyraces said:
Now on the other hand, if I am faced with "the tsunami hit those people because they are sinners" or "AIDS is god's punishment of gays", then I unleash *MY* tsunami on them, full force. No holds barred. Those are fighting words.
I haven't had one of those in years, but I know how you feel. It is a real temptation to release Typhoon Tricky on them, but usually, I try to keep it controlled in order to highlight the difference between myself and them.

This thread from some months ago sort of illustrates the kind of argument I have with my family.

duppyraces said:
Okay, I do have ONE BIG WEAKNESS on this, and no, it is not writing big long posts. A lot of you may disagree, but when it comes to very old people, or people who have just lost a loved one and are grieving, I just don't have the heart to challenge their faith if they take comfort in it. I just can't say, oh I don't believe in heaven or an afterlife where you'll see your loved ones again. The closest thing I'll say if I am called to take a stand is "hey, we experienced a center of consciousness once; who's to say we can't do it again?"
I agree with you again. As a matter of fact, I gave the eulogy in church at my mother's funeral last July. She loved that church and found much peace in it, for which I am grateful. But then, she wasn't typical Christian. She had a big streak of skeptic which she imparted to me. Needless to say, during the eulogy, I did not bring up the many "atheist" discussions we had had.

duppyraces said:
As for a boyfriend, I let them know from the start, because it can be a huge issue. For both of us. If they're willing to let me make fun of them every now and again, they're in. Ah, only kidding. Mostly.
That's not quite fair, Duppy. I'm married now, but if you had been considering me for a boyfriend, I'd believe anything you asked me to. I would have shaved my head and begged for money in the airport if you were a Hari Krishna. Come to think of it, you could be a powerful tool for the atheist cause! (And all the other skepchicks too!) ;)

duppyraces said:
But if someone is going to leave me because of my beliefs, they're not the right person for me. My skepticism is an integral part of my nature. I like curiosity and curious people. If someone doesn't have a skeptical or questioning bone in their body, I'm going to lose interest real fast. It sort of works itself out.
Yes, Ms. Tricky and I had this worked out before we got married. We still discuss it from time to time (especially after she went with me to TAM) but we have our territory staked out. There was one thing I insisted on before we got married though: no commercials in the wedding ceremony. She agreed, and we had a very nice, very strange ceremony.
 
Tricky said:
Pretty much my same reaction, with one exception. These days if I give money to a begger or the Salvation Army and they say "God Bless You", I reply politely, "I'm an atheist, but thanks for the thought."
I think that's GREAT! lol. Not for the snappy comeback, which some might assume, but just because it's like saying, hey, I'm not in it for the reward. Atheists aren't all bad.
That is especially true on the boards here, but in real life, I rarely get to hold such discussions with strangers or acquaintences. I haven't learned much new about my sister lately.
Oh, family talks. Mine's all used to me, and we pretty much agree on most things these days, so I have it easy. Well, the family that doesn't live in Utah, that is. And growing up, *I* was the one fighting my Eastern Religion/New Age mom to become a born again Christian. Then we both read The Demon Haunted World and said....DUH.

My only challenge is my hardcore legalist born again Christian brother-in-law. We locked horns for YEARS. Fortunately, we were able to grow to understand, like, and tolerate each other and our differences. We get our digs in every so often. For instance, on Halloween, which he amazingly does allow in his house (most in his church don't), I told him I was coming over dressed as a biblical character. I didn't tell him I was the devil. Hey, that's biblical! We both had a good laugh, as he was dressed as a radical hippie. Because of his good humor, I participated in their family tradition of prayer before dinner, which looked pretty damned funny.

Here's a pic of the costume. You can't see the black wings, as they hit the camera perfectly sideways, but DO notice the boots. These are an exact double of the boots Moe wore during the chocolate challenge at TAM3! Do I have good taste or what. Unlike Moe, however, I do not keep growing taller as I wear them.

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That's not quite fair, Duppy. I'm married now, but if you had been considering me for a boyfriend, I'd believe anything you asked me to. I would have shaved my head and begged for money in the airport if you were a Hari Krishna. Come to think of it, you could be a powerful tool for the atheist cause! (And all the other skepchicks too!) ;)

You'd make a really cute Hari Krishna. :D
 
Tricky said:
... Penn Gilette and Richard Dawkins brought up the point that one reason we have religious extremists is because we have religious moderates...

If we are sanguine about "good people" who espouse unsupported ideas, then do we tacitly give the nod to other unsupported ideas? Is it the extremity that is important, should any irrational belief should be challenged?

... If anything, "soft theism" is more dangerous because it creates the environment where we tolerate book burners and doctor-killers and creationists with hardly a shrug.
[color=f7f7f7]Apart from my fervent belief that renata talks to me telepathically on Sunday mornings and provides me with puzzle answers,[/color] I consider myself a reasonably skeptical (and reasonably rational) person. I'd like to point out that I am a skeptic because of my religious beliefs and religious upbringing. Not despite -- because.

Could I have turned out a skeptic without being religious? Certainly. I am by no means saying religion is the only route to healthy skepticism, simply that it is a route.

But let's lay that aside for another time, and get to your main point. You seem to be arguing that (a) god doesn't exist, so (b) belief in god is irrational and thus (c) leads to, causes, or supports other irrational beliefs and actions (such as the beliefs and actions of religious extremists) . I don't agree that belief in god is irrational, but let's suppose for the moment it is. I contend that, even if belief in god is irrational, the existence of religious moderates and liberals is desirable and beneficial to the cause of rationality.

Why? Because I believe that a diverse population, with many bridges between groups, is more conducive to reasoned discussion (and the eventual triumph of rationality) than a sharply polarized population.

Let's suppose (a) you're right that belief in god is irrational, and (b) you manage to convince a large number of religious liberals of that, and convert them to atheism (or agnosticism). You have now created a much more polarized situation, one in which I think you will find it harder rather than easier to resolve differences with those on "the other side".

Taking just one issue, prayer in schools, I think an opposition coalition made up of atheists and of religious liberals is much stronger than one of equivalent size made up solely of atheists. (Religious conservatives would probably prefer to face the latter type of opposition. It would make it easier for them to believe, and to convince others, that it is only "godless atheists" who oppose prayer in school and other coerced religious activity.)

If it is only atheists who oppose such activity (which would be the effect of your converting religious moderates and liberals to atheism), then it is easier for religious conservatives to dismiss the opposition as these people don't believe in god so they want to deny everyone else the right to worship god. They would be incorrect in ascribing that motive to atheists -- but without common ground to be able to communicate with each other, they are not likely to get to know atheists well enough to learn and accept that they have misread your motivation.

The existence of people like me who are sincerely religious, but who do not think coerced prayer is godly, is not necessarily a harder problem for them to deal with than atheistic opposition, but it is an additional problem. I think the more diverse the opposition is to anything, the harder it becomes to dismiss that opposition.

Another advantage to diversity is that it is harder to characterize the opposition as a monolithic enemy (and to hate that enemy uniformly). In feeling themselves in opposition to godless atheists, they may then feel a certain kinship with us godful non-atheists (who at least have belief in god in common) and thus be able to listen to what we are saying better and perhaps begin to get a glimmer of what we are trying to communicate. (Or, conversely, in feeling themselves in opposition to us false religionists, they may come to feel more able to talk with you atheists, who are merely lacking correct belief rather than holding false ones, and thus their antagonism to us may help them be less antagonistic to you.)

In other words, it doesn't bother me at all to live in world where there are people who see things differently than I do. In fact, I rather like it and think it is desirable (even though, of course, I am right and they are wrong :p ). I would much rather have a world in which it was encouraged for there to be many different perspectives, many different ways of looking at the same thing, than a world where there was pressure for everyone to hold the same right view.
 
Oops. One more PS to my post. (Sorry.)

I wrote above that "... I don't agree that belief in god is irrational, but let's suppose for the moment it is. I contend that, even if belief in god is irrational, the existence of religious moderates and liberals is desirable and beneficial to the cause of rationality."

It occurs to me that I should have added that I believe in the flip side of that as well. That is, even if disbelief in god is mistaken, I believe the existence of atheists and agnostics is desirable and beneficial to the cause of rationality.
 
I didn’t quite hear the same from Dawkin as Tricky did i.e.“[the reason] we have religious extremists is because we have religious moderates.”, what I heard was “the existence of the religious moderates allows religious extremists to exists”. Which I think is a subtly different point.

Even allowing for the different interpretation of what Dawkin said it is still beholden on Dawkins and others putting forward this idea to support it with evidence. (My unsupported opinion is that extremism is a human trait that will occur with or without acceptance of “moderate religion”.)
 
Darat said:
I didn’t quite hear the same from Dawkin as Tricky did i.e.“[the reason] we have religious extremists is because we have religious moderates.”, what I heard was “the existence of the religious moderates allows religious extremists to exists”. Which I think is a subtly different point.

That's because it was Penn that provided this bit of "wisdom" not Dawkins...
 
duppyraces said:

Here's a pic of the costume. You can't see the black wings, as they hit the camera perfectly sideways, but DO notice the boots. These are an exact double of the boots Moe wore during the chocolate challenge at TAM3! Do I have good taste or what. Unlike Moe, however, I do not keep growing taller as I wear them.

Did someone say arizona?
 
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Nova Land said:
[color=d7d7d7]Apart from my fervent belief that renata talks to me telepathically on Sunday mornings and provides me with puzzle answers,[/color]
[color=d7d7d7]
It is not an irrational belief because it is true. [/color]
 
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Tricky said:
Oh, yeah, that Renata is a cutie too. What I saw of her.

Let's not hijack this thread with tapas* pictures of me.


(*Tam3 joke, never mind me)
 
There's nothing like a couple of skepchick pics to derail a thread! :roll:

Quote by Tricky:
"I agree with you. That is why I am grappling with how to present my views in a non-extremist way. It is my observation that few American Christians have much experience with avowed atheists, so they all get lumped with the extremists. Obviously, many Christians who have visited these boards have discovered that atheists, like theists, come in all flavors."

I agree with this statement. Christian groups (I can't speak for other faith groups) have a tendency to stay within their own church realms and so their resulting views are quite narrow and then some (but not all) turn into @$$h0les. One of the best things that ever happened to me was meeting a dear person a few years ago who gave me Bentley (the other whippet). She and I hit it off right away and she "shared" her atheism with me. For me it was a revelation (no pun intended) that there were many who just did "get" Christianity. After that I knew I could just relax and let people come to their own conclusions without me mucking things up.

I think Penn may be entrenched in his ideas of atheism to the max. I don't know him so I don't know about that, really.
 

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