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On Remorse

Christian,

1a) I think that the emotion of remorse is actually a beneficial thing, from the point of view of society, and that since society is beneficial to individuals, this makes remorse, as well as several other aspects of human nature, useful and beneficial.

Why is it beneficial? I have explained why it is useless. You have only asserted that is something you can’t stop from feeling.

Because it provides an incentive to behave yourself even when nobody is looking.

If you go the route of saying the pain it causes directs to a future better choice, you are back to the reward/punishment area you so much hate.

Who said I hated it? I already told you that I recognize that reward and punishment are effective ways of conditioning behavior. In fact, ultimately any motivating force fits into one of those categories.

Again an inconsistency. Which is it? It’s beneficial or I can’t help the emotion?

Both. Why would that be inconsistent?

1b) I disagree with your premise that a person can simply choose to not feel remorse. He could be conditioned not to, but there is a term for such people. They are called psychopaths.

So you are saying it is necessary to feel pain for you in order for you to act subsequently in a good way?

No, it is necessary to have a motivation to do so. That motivation could be to avoid the pain I feel when other people suffer. It could be to enjoy the pleasure I feel when other people are happy. It could be for more tangible rewards and punishments from external sources. They all work.

2) I disagree with your conclusion that morality is unnecessary, and furthermore, I fail to see how anybody who values anything more than his own immediate benefit, could reach that conclusion.

Anyone that values more than his own immediate benefit can clearly see the uselessness of morality. The uselessness of having rules he can only enforce on himself and for which he has no accountability to others if he does not enforce them.

I disagree, for the reasons I already explained. Anything which serves as a motivation to behave in a way that is beneficial to society, is useful to society. If you value society, then morals are a good thing.

Note also that none of the above has anything to do with me being an atheist, either. In fact, most people I know would agree with those points, and most of the people I know are not atheists.

No so, morality is not upheld “just because”. It is because there is a reward/punishment/compliance system that exists.

You can only speak for yourself in this regard. I know many Christians who have flat-out told me that they would keep their code of morality even if they found out that Christianity was bunk. I also know many ex-Christians who did just that. I am one of them.

How? When I feel angry, I can certainly do exercises (such as deep breathing, meditation, etc...) in order to suppress, or even eliminate the feeling. But when the event that made me angry occurred, there was no decision on my part to be angry or not angry.

I can believe we are actually arguing about this. [sarcasm on] So I suppose you get angry for the same reasons you did when you were 5 or 10 [sarcasm off] Of course not, part of maturity is taking care of our emotions. I used to get angry in traffic jams. I don’t anymore. Not one bit. I decided it was no use to get angry in a situation I could do nothing about. So, maybe the first couple of times, I had to do some breathing exercises, but then I got used to not getting angry at traffic jams (it became a thing not to get angry at).

Once again, you are over-simplifying a complex and long-term conditioning process. You didn't just decide one day to not get angry anymore, and suddenly not get angry any more. Over time, you simply got used to the irritation that angered you, until it no longer caused that emotional response anymore.

Do you understand that remorse requires time and time and time. It’s just not feeling bad for a couple of seconds, it’s a deep sense of pain that leads to guilt. It is a persistent emotion. It is useless in an atheist context.

I have already explained why it is not useless.

If by that you mean the ability to not act based on your emotions, or even the ability to consciously alter your emotional state through mental exercises, then I agree. But your claims imply that you mean more than this. Do you claim to have the ability to actually decide, before you have the emotional response, but after the stimulus, what your emotional response will be?

If so, I am sorry, but I simply don't believe you.


I sorry you don’t but that just tells me you have no recollection of your childhood and definitely you have no children of your own.

Man, the thing kids get angry about. When you grow up, you learn what type of stimulus do not warrant getting angry about so in effect, I know what emotional response I will have before or after the stimulus.

Once again, that is long term psychological conditioning. Do you understand the difference between such conditioning, and direct cognitive decisions?

My daughter gets angry because she has to wait her turn. I don’t need scientific books to tell me that when she grow up she will not get angry at that at all. (well, hopefully)

This is completely irrelevant. I have already acknowledged that I could potentially condition myself over time to be a sociopath. The question is, why would I want to?

That is not the foundation of it at all. For one thing, this approach to dealing with crimes makes a clear distinction between emotional states and thought processes.

Did you read the link. You have absolutely disregarded it. You absolutely disregard that “I was angry” is not a defense for a crime. And “I was angry” is the first step to the crime.

I did not disregard it. I told you that it is irrelevant. Being angry is not a defense for the crime, but it is not a requirement for it either. If you commit the crime without being angry, you have still committed a crime. And if anything, you will be punished more severely for that, then if it was a crime of passion.

[Changing subject] People go to anger management classes not to learn how to not act on their anger but to learn how not to get angry for every little thing.

Actually, they do it for both. That is how psychological conditioning works. Your mental state tends to follow your behavior. If you actively strive to control your behavior, by not acting out when you get angry under certain conditions, one of the effects of this is that you tend to stop being angered by those conditions.

Once again, this is not what I am arguing against. What I am arguing against is the idea that if something happens right now that makes me angry, that I actually have to make a conscious decision to be angry or not. That is nonsense.

Secondly, it in no way assumes that emotions are voluntary. On the contrary, one aspect of the way this approach works, is that it is understood that emotional responses are not voluntary. The entire framework is based on psychology, and the simple fact is that what you are claiming runs completely counter to current psychological knowledge.

No, your notion is counter to all common fundamental psychological knowledge. [sarcasm on] For you falling in love is an involuntary thing, maybe like magic[sarcasm off]

Why the sarcasm? I have never consciously decided to fall in love, but I have been in love before.

Man, the ability of philosophers to go on and on about nothing truly amazes me. That entire essay seems to amount to nothing more than drawing a distinction between "feelings" (the involuntary response), and "emotions" (the cognitive interpretation of the feeling). In any event, it is completely irrelevant to what we are discussing, since we are talking about the feeling of remorse.

Remorse is not like pain. Do you understand the definition of remorse, it is not the equivalent of feeling bad for a couple of seconds. It is exactly a cognitive interpretation of deep feelings. To feel guilty requires cognition. How else can you arrive at guilt.

Are you talking about remorse, or guilt? I am not talking about guilt here. I thought I made it clear in my example that I no longer feel any guilt about knocking the banana out of my brother's hand. What I feel is remorse, that being the bad feeling that I involuntarily get when I remember the event.

If you are talking about guilt, then I agree. Guilt is pointless. Take responsibility for what you have done, Try to make up for it if you can, and move on.

Consider the example I gave from my own past. I no longer possess the "emotion" of remorse over that event, in the context presented in Dr. Solomon's essay. Only the feeling. And the fact remains that even if I were to adopt a completely utilitarian philosophy, whereby I attach absolutely no value to the happiness or pain of others, I am still going to "feel" a certain way when I see other people suffer.

What you are talking about is not remorse and by the way, it absolutely ridiculous that you still feel bad about a banana, get over it. [bad humor on] you are a grown scientists for goodness sake[bad humor off]

I think maybe you should have been more clear in your original post, then. What I am talking about certainly seems to be what I think of as "remorse". What you are describing sounds more like guilt.

In any event, all of my points with respect to morality are still valid, because morality does not depend on things like guilt. All it requires is the feelings that are associated with our values.

If my own values were drastically different than those of society, and I had no means to try to make society better (from my point of view), then I would definitely have a problem. Fortunately, I do not live in such a society.

We will never know? [skepticism on] It is very convenient that you hold mostly the same values that the society you live in has[skepticism off]

Not at all. Society is one of the primary sources of my values. We learn our values from the people we associate with. Family, friends, classmates, neighbors, our community, and so on.

This does not follow. Making it into a legal code is not sufficient. For one thing, in a free society, people will not tolerate laws that they find morally unacceptable. And freedom is one of my values. For another thing, even if I could live with a totalitarian society where everybody is forced by law to live the way I think they should, whether they like it or not, that isn't going to stop people from doing bad things when they think they can get away with it.

Why totalitarian? Most countries are ruled by legal norms. And all must obey them, whether they like it or not. What a society holds as valuable is independent of individual’s values. It is mostly dependent on the values of the majority (and even that is not certain). And if even with legal norms people break them, imagine the moral ones.

How is this relevant? The point is that a person who does not share the values of society is not only going to break the rules whenever he thinks he can get away with it, but he is also going to abuse those rules. This happens all the time, but it would happen a lot more in a society in which the rules did not reflect the values of most of the people. That is because of morality.

In the US abortion is legal, in my country it is not. Maybe in a couple of year it wont be legal in the US again. Individual morality is irrelevant.

Hardly. Just look at the people arguing on each side of this issue. They are trying to either change the law to be consistent with their individual morality, or they are fighting to keep it the same, because it already is.

Without personal morality, it wouldn't even be an issue, since it is not significantly good or bad for society. In terms of the actual effects, it is a pretty minor issue. It is only because of its relevance to personal morality that it is such a big issue at all.

Furthermore, there historical evidence to prove you wrong. Social conditioning, meaning the instilling of values and morals through social interaction, rather than through laws and enforcement, works. It has worked in the US and Western Europe for several centuries now.

No, sir it does not work. If I’m an atheist, there is no way to explain that it works. There has been no other time in the history of the world where more laws are passed and enforced.

Once again, it has nothing to do with atheism. It is simply psychology. Psychology doesn't require, or forbid, a God.

Man, you live in Europe, it is one of the areas more legislated in the world. They even have laws of to what size your dog house has to be. Why is that?

Don't ask me. I am an American.

Are you seriously suggesting that because some members of society are immoral, this somehow proves that morals are useless? That because there are some people who will behave in a selfish and antisocial manner if they are not forced to behave, that the only way to get people to behave is through threats of punishment?

I going to say this clear to you. There is no other system that works but the reward/punishment/compliance one.

And I am going to say this clear to you. You are wrong.

Apparently you do not have a very high opinion of your fellow human beings. And I thought I was cynical.

What world do you live in? Stimpson, every single action you take that involves other people requires external control, a norm system. Every single one. Hey, some guys wanted to get out of the matrimony contract, they decided not to get married, so the law created the “common law marriage” rule.

In the world I live in, I associate with people all the time without the laws coming into it. I make agreements with people that, were they to go back on them, I would lose a lot of money. Yet I have no legal recourse if they decide to screw me, and we both know it. I help people I don't even know, with no expectation of reward, and no law compelling me to. And others have done the same for me.

Sure, we need laws. But the world would be a much uglier place if those laws were the only things keeping people from acting like selfish sociopaths.

I was once a Christian. My values and morals didn't change much when I quit being a Christian. I didn't behave in a certain way out of fear of Hell or hope for Heaven then, and I don't now. my whole family is Catholic, and yet none of them have ever indicated that morality is simply about punishment and reward. on the contrary, I am sure that they would all be horrified by the way you are characterizing theistic morality.

Why horrified? If you are not a Catholic you go to hell, better be Catholic. What is the principal reason to be Catholic?

Is that supposed to somehow refute my point? It is a complete non-sequitur.

If this is truly all there is to your morals, then you are a sociopath, being held in control only through the most severe of possible threats.

Most severe of threats? Not necessary it can a little threat and it can be a little reward. I always make a cost/benefit analysis.

I’m sorry if I don’t take your word for it that absolutely nothing good motivates to do good. And that absolutely nothing bad motivates you not to do bad.

Good, because that isn't what I said. What I said is the external motivations are not always necessary. My values are my motivation.

For the sake of society, I sincerely hope that you never lose your faith, and that nobody ever convinces you that God wants you to hurt people.

This simply does not follow. If God does not exist, I would still adhere to the reward/punishment/compliance system, even more so than before, specially since the only rewards I’m getting are here on earth. And if all the punishments are also here on earth, I would also want to minimize those.

Sure, and the first time you meet an elderly person alone somewhere, you will beat him to death for the money in his wallet. After all, if you are certain you can get away with it, reward/punishment doesn't enter into it, right?

Who are you kidding? I know you wouldn't do that. You wouldn't do it, because like the vast majority of people, you would feel bad if you did. That is motivation enough.

Wrong. Society instills values through social and legal norms. It is from these values that individuals establish a code of morality. In that sense, yes, morals are not imposed by society. Only rules are. But from these values, which a person actually adopts as his own (as oppose to simply respecting through force of law), morality arises. And morality is most definitely not ineffective in this regard. Indeed, it is capable of filling an important gap that mere legislation cannot.

No, it is the other way around. But that is irrelevant, because, as I said, it serves no purpose. What gap? For atheists there isn’t a gap or distinction.

I have explained what the gap is, and why it exists. All you have done is claim that for an atheist it does not. You have not explained why, or even how belief in God has anything at all to do with it.

No, the US also uses the third one. It uses amorality. One of the reasons that the US (and also Canada, Western Europe, and secular democratic republics in general) work, is because most of the people in these societies actually value the things that the society values, and agree with most of the laws. Most people in the free world really believe in things like freedom, liberty, justice, and tolerance. These values have been instilled in them by society, but they continue as the moral codes of the individuals.

And the only reason these values are upheld is because they have been instituted as social or legal norms. This is the whole point I’m making. If they where not constitutional and downward, (secondary laws) that people held these values would be irrelevant.

Are you seriously suggesting that most of these people don't actually hold these values, and only behave as if they did, because of the law?

And don’t give me the story that these have evolved. The US constitution is the oldest (arguably) of these types of documents and the modifications to its values has been almost non-existent.

Values within the US have changed considerably over the last 200 years.

Without morals, nothing is going to change. Nobody is going to go to the effort to change the laws if they don't think anything is wrong with them. The moral norms are not irrelevant. They are a necessary and integral part of the system.

Before I can have social and legal norms, they first have to be thought up. Yes, of course, but morality is not that. Morality is a code to live by, and I repeat, it is useless to live by a code where there is no reward/punishment/compliance structure.

The act of trying to change society for the better is an act of living by your code of morality.

Absolutely. But you know what? There are fewer than there were 10 years ago. And there will be fewer still 10 years from now. With individuals with a strong sense of morality, this would not happen.

You are just proving my point. And it has nothing to do with a strong sense of morality. That they act to change the system says absolutely nothing about if they follow them. People can perfectly know how things should be without following the rules they set.

People can be immoral and still champion for a better system. I much rather trust that you will do the right thing because you are compelled to, than risk you do the right things just because you feel like it.

That doesn't make any sense. Why would somebody who doesn't value improving the system go to the effort of doing so? And if he does value improving the system, then by doing so, he is acting according to his values. That is morality!

The same is true for you, and for everybody else. That is the nature of morality. Even if the moral code you follow was handed down by God, you still follow it because you feel like it.

No, that is not correct, I follow it because of he reward/punishment/compliance system.

Then by the very definitions you gave, that is not morality. You are declaring yourself to be amoral.

Then what does this have to do with atheists? It sounds like you are just saying that morality is nonsense, and that all that matters is that God is going to spank us if we don't do what he says.

Morality is nonsense if you are not accountable for your morality.

Why? If it serves as a motivation, then it is useful.

Why is this not obvious to you? Legal norms would be a joke if there was no way to enforce them or if people would not have to face the legal system.

We are not talking about legal norms. We are talking about morality. Just because legal norms require enforcement to work, does not mean that morality does.

That is the definition of anarchy, that everyone have his or her own rules and that no one can enforce them on others. By definition, morality is anarchical.

That is some of the most backwards reasoning I have ever seen. Anarchy is lawlessness. Without laws, you have anarchy. Morality alone is not enough to prevent anarchy. I have never suggested that morals could replace laws.

I must say that I find it rather disturbing that your beliefs absolve you of any responsibility for trying to make society a better place. People ask why I say religion is harmful, this is a perfect example. You are only concerned with the afterlife, and a perfectly content to leave sorting out affairs here on Earth to God. If people are tortured and murdered, that's not your problem. It's God's will, right?

As someone else said, you are reading what you want to read. Even if I wanted to find a cure for cancer, I’m not in a position to accomplish that. I’m not a scientist and never will be. God clearly did not intend for me to find the cure for HIV. And millions of people will not have chance to change laws, for multiple reasons.

No, you clearly stated that you have no interest in changing laws for the better, not that you are unable to do so. If you had the ability to contribute to the efforts to find a cure for cancer, would you bother?

All I can say is that I am very glad that most modern Christians don't share your views on these issues. Unfortunately, there are still many in the US who do, and as such are perfectly willing to ignore the way we are destroying the environment,

Not addressing the ad hom, the only way to protect the environment is by enacting laws to protect it.

You already asserted that you have no interest in doing so.

and to ignore the injustices occurring throughout the World, as long as we get the word of Jesus to everybody, so that they can go to heaven after they starve to death, or get murdered by tyrants and terrorists.

This is just silly.

I agree. But the alternative is to actively strive to change the laws to be consistent with your individual code of morality. Something which you have declared useless.

I am a Humanist. I don't care about God. If he does exist, he can take care of himself. I care about people. You may consider that value to be "irrational", but it is not. Society takes care of me, and I take care of it. That is not a very difficult concept to understand.

Not difficult to understand at all. You are being totally inconsistent. You think your morality is not based on the reward/punishment/compliance when it is. But the sweet deal is that you never have to enforce that system on you.

How so? I do many of the things I do because of my morals, and not because of external rewards or punishment.

Dr. Stupid
 
Christian
If I tell you remorse is a learned behavior and that by definition it requires a lot of thinking and you don’t agree, I don’t see how else I can convince of it.
It’s not difficult Christian, provide a hypothetical example or two, and we will see if they withstand your logic or mine.

And
The problem is that you are not looking at the definition of remorse. Remorse requires a deep sense of feeling bad and guilty about a passed event. If the degree changes, then it is not remorse any more.
Nope no problem with a definition, my dictionary defines remorse as “regret and repentance”. If the degree of remorse felt changes with circumstance what would it become, I fail to understand you interpretation on this point. Would you say that accidentally driving over your friend’s cat would produce the same amount of remorse as accidentally shooting your mother? You need to better define your point of view.
 
What you fail to realize is that your scenario only supports my contention that morality is unnecessary (and that is the point of this thread). This is why I asked you to pay attention to the answer. Instead you have opted for proving something that is irrelevant to this discussion.

How does my scenario prove that morality is unnecessary? Does it not establish that there are circumstances in which adhering to the law would be immoral?
 
Christian,

Finally, you are on board.
Well, it would appear that I've finally caught up with your basic premises, yes.

This is first year law theory.
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On my exams, I had to put moral norms are autonomous/internal/unilateral/incoercible because that is the secular perspective. It does not matter what religion I hold, to everyone else that is their quality.
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But, do to my religious beliefs, to me moral norms are heteronymous/external/bilateral/coercible. Exactly the qualities of legal norms.
Okay. I *really* think I'm with you now! So you are saying :

1. Your law course has defined "moral norms" to be "autonomous/internal/unilateral/incoercible".
2. Your law course claims this definition of "moral norms" is the secular definition.
3. Atheists are secular.
4. Therefore, atheists must believe that "moral norms" are "autonomous/internal/unilateral/incoercible".
5. You believe that "moral norms" are "heteronymous/external/bilateral/coercible".

Clear enough? I guess the problem is that I don't agree with #1. In fact, I think I agree with #5! I guess that means either I don't have a secular "moral system", or that you've been mislead as to what secular morals are.

Can you explain what the four characteristics mean, and why you believe secular thinking would assign those characteristcis to "moral norms"?
 
Christian,

Just following up on this "definition of secular morals" stuff...

From here :
We believe in the common moral decencies: altruism, integrity, honesty, truthfulness, responsibility. Humanist ethics is amenable to critical, rational guidance. There are normative standards that we discover together. Moral principles are tested by their consequences.
Using your four characteristics, how would you define the above statement?

(And just a clarification - I think I would agree that "moral norms" are autonomous in practise, yet heteronymous in theory).
 
Christian,

And another alternative system of "moral norms"...

From here :
KEY CONCEPT OF THIS THESIS: - That which facilitates the survival of our species defines 'good'; and conversely, that which deters from the survival of our species defines 'bad'.
Agin, using your four characteristics, how would you define such a moral norm?
 
So I did clarify that today there are universal human rights laws. They were proclaimed as such by the UN in 1948 as a result of the Nazi genocide. This does not mean they did not exist.

If they were proclaimed in 1948, then they didn't exist as recognized "man's law" in the 1930s, and when I asked, "So, anybody in Nazi Germany or one of its occupied territories who harbored Jews in violation of German law was acting immorally?", you couldn't have answered that the German laws would have been superseded by the universal human rights laws. Is a law of which no one is aware a law that people can be expected to adhere to?

From the UDHR website (Cataclysm and World Response:
Although the world had made great progress in defining human rights, it was the events of the late 1930’s and early 1940’s that threatened humanity’s most firmly held convictions. By the end of World War II, six million Jews – of whom more than a million were children not yet in their teens -- were killed in Nazi concentration camps, gas chambers and extermination centers. In the middle of the 20th century, at the hands of a technologically advanced, cultured nation-state, the idea of human rights was simply extinguished. In the beginning, the Nazi regime established discriminatory laws controlling who could own property, hold jobs, and go to school; in the end, they smashed dissent, launched a world war and enslaved and murdered millions of civilians.

The results of the Nazi attempt to annihilate all the Jews of Europe and to enslave and destroy millions of others as well -- Poles, gypsies, Soviet prisoners of war, homosexuals, the mentally and physically handicapped and political opponents -- had shocked leaders and citizens throughout all cultures and societies of the post-war world. Winston Churchill called the Nazi atrocities a "crime without a name." In the early 1940’s, a Polish lawyer named Raphael Lemkin coined the word "genocide."

The Holocaust altered forever the way in which people considered human rights. Prior to World War II the prevalent attitude had been that the protection of human rights was primarily a domestic concern, that is, a concern of sovereign governments. Efforts to defeat the Axis, however, became for many people synonymous with a struggle to make human rights a universal concern, that is, a concern of all human beings. The world united to defeat fascism and to secure human rights for everyone -- everywhere.

During the war, the momentum toward universal recognition of inalienable human rights was propelled by the Atlantic Charter and by President Franklin D. Roosevelt’s Four Freedoms speech before the United States Congress in 1941. In his address, Roosevelt proclaimed four basic freedoms that could never be legitimately abridged; they were freedom of speech and expression, freedom of worship, freedom from want and freedom from fear. In Britain, Prime Minister Winston Churchill echoed the American President, asserting that an Allied victory would be marked by the "enthronement of human rights."

This message was communicated to the people very explicitly in statements like the "United Nations Declaration" and pamphlets like the "United Nations Fight for the Four Freedoms". As the War neared an end, the need to codify human rights was not on the minds of diplomats and leaders alone. After Germany’s unconditional surrender, further information of Nazi atrocities slowly became available. With these horrific revelations the determination to secure enduring respect for human rights became indelibly ingrained in the minds of all peoples.

Thus, there WAS no recognized international rule of law in the 1930s that would have made the Nazis' laws "immoral." I would contend that, notwithstanding the absence of such an international rule of law, a person's decision to harbor Jews--an illegal act--would nevertheless have been moral. I suspect that you would have, as well.
 
I'm sorry, I didn't read the entire thread. I was simply stunned by the OP's question.

So here we are, in the 21st century, and religious people still can't figure out that atheists have morals.

Yes, we are living, breathing humans. No, we are not possessed by devils. Yes, we care about the same things you do: health, wealth and happiness.

We just don't believe there's a being that looks at us and judges us as we live. We prefer to do that on our own.

So could I please ask that you just live your own lives and let us live ours? Is that such a hardship for you?

I like to live my life by the golden rule. If you're not familiar with it, I suggest you google it, or ask a friend.

edit: I must reiterate how insulted I felt by the Original Post. It's like "do you think monkeys feel guilt?" It's that offensive to me.
 
Originally posted by Christian
Rikzilla wrote:
If I may say so sir, your atheist hat sits uneasily upon your head.


No argument there.

You seem to have a great many assumptions about "atheists" as if they are from another race or planet. The fact is that atheists are a very diverse group of folks. Your assumptions therefore won't get you very far if indeed you are in earnest about trying to understand "atheist morality".

Can you point out the wrong assumptions? No one seem to be disputing them personally (only in theory)

My suggestion to you would be to read Micheal Shermer's next book which will delve into the non-religious origins of early human interaction from which the concept and adoption of morals arises. I don't know when it's due out,...but at TAM he spoke at length about this material.

Thanks for the suggestion.

In other words, the atheist is as human as you or I. He does not exist in a vacuum....he shares in human morality. Perhaps you call it Christian morality, and obviously believe it came down to us as a gift from God....but if your desire is to really understand these inscrutable atheists, you're going to need to accept the possibility that our morals were not handed down to us from God. When you can accept this possibility, I think you'll be ready to really open your mind to evidence which runs contrary to your belief.

The point is not the source, that is irrelevant to our discussion. The point is that to me, morality is bilateral and to you it is unilateral.

Until you do that, you will be incapable of really understanding what you say you are trying to understand. And when/if you do get there, you will see the world as a agnostic does. Like me. I don't know if there is a God or not,..but neither do you. When you face that fact you'll be ready to open that mind to an infinite array of possibilities and their attendant philosophies.

The question to you as an agnostic is if personally believe there is someone other than you who enforces the moral norms on you. If you are the only enforcer, then morality is useless for you.

For instance, when Kant describes the law of morals, he is describing nothing less than human conscience. We cannot prove what our conscience tells us, but we know it nevertheless. Now please tell me why you think atheists have no human conscience! Good luck on that one

It is good that you mention Kant, he is one of the authors that describes the qualities of norm, moral norms are unilateral.

Can you point out the wrong assumptions? No one seem to be disputing them personally (only in theory)

You seem to be assuming that atheists either are, or should be incapable of feeling remorse for past transgressions. This is at least a sweeping generalization. I was merely pointing out that you have no logical basis for such an assumption, and even if you did you would still be incorrect by applying it in such a general way.

The point is not the source, that is irrelevant to our discussion. The point is that to me, morality is bilateral and to you it is unilateral.


No, the source of morality is your entire implied point! If indeed morality is a gift from the Christian God, then you would be quite right that atheists (and many others) would be wasting their limited time on earth by attempting to appease this entity which none of them actually believe exists.

OTOH, if morality and ethics were learned during early man's first attempts at organized society as I am supposing, then the atheist's moral emotions/feelings become more logical. This only works if you look at morals and ethics in a purely secular way.

An example from this website:
The evolutionary instability of the purely altruist strategy may be
circumvented by a strategy of "conditional" altruism. Such an altruist
would only help another individual if he expects the other one to return
the favor. If the other one does not cooperate, the conditional altruist
will stop cooperating, and hence will not incur the costs of spending
resources from which his selfish companion would gain more than he does. In
that sense, such a "reciprocal" altruist strategy (Trivers, 1971) may be
stable against invasion from cheaters, while still keeping the advantages
of synergy among those individuals that are willing to cooperate.

This idea was illustrated in a spectacular way by Axelrod (1984).
Axelrod organized a tournament in which different game theorists were
invited to submit a computer program which would implement the best
strategy for winning a repeated prisoner's dilemma game. In the tournament
two programs would play each other in a long sequence of prisoner's
dilemma. The points they gained in each game were added. Each program would
then play such a sequence against each other program. At the end the points
gained in all sequences were added, and this allowed to designate the
overall winner of the tournament.

Though the most complicated and cunning strategies were proposed by some
of the most expert game theorists, the strategy that consistently won the
tournament was extremely simple: "tit for tat". This strategy starts by
cooperating. However when the opponent defects, "tit for tat" defects too.
If afterwards, or from the beginning, the opponent starts to cooperate,
"tit for tat" will reciprocate by cooperating. The characteristics of "tit
for tat" (and of the other more successful strategies) can be summarized by
three concepts:

1) the strategy is "nice": this means that it will never be the first to
defect;

2) the strategy is "provocable": if the opponent defects, it retaliates by
defecting too;

3) the strategy is "forgiving": as soon as the opponent cooperates again,
the strategy forgets about the previous defection, and cooperates.

Niceness is advantageous because it opens the way to mutually beneficial
cooperation. Retaliation is necessary in order to avoid being invaded by
selfish profiteers. Forgivingness has the advantage of avoiding mutual
rounds of retaliation. Indeed, suppose that an individual because of
distrust, by way of test or just because of a misunderstanding would defect
just once, then a non-forgiving strategy would continue to defect in
reaction, and mutual cooperation could never emerge or be restored.


In light of this information I'm sure you can see how your assertion: The question to you as an agnostic is if personally believe there is someone other than you who enforces the moral norms on you. If you are the only enforcer, then morality is useless for you. is mistaken.

Christian, you seem to be quite happy in your faith, and I am glad for you. But it seems to me that you are so content in your belief that you honestly can't see how other humans can function without it. I understand that as well. What I think you need to do is open your mind to other possiblities and perceptions. That is if you really do wish to understand others.

I don't say this to encourage you to drop your faith in God. Faith is a very personal thing, and I'm guessing that you don't wish to step too far outside it. If so, you're just going to have to stop asking these questions! ;) The answers to your questions will inevitably lead you outside Christian dogma, and that my friend may be quite dangerous to your faith.

-zilla
 
Christian said:
Before anyone continues, please read the warning:

Warning:

1. This is an intellectual *assault* on atheist's morality, if you feel you cannot answer objectively without feeling personally insulted, please do not engage in this discussion.

2. The discussion is strictly on intellectual grounds (logical conclusions or philosophical implications), but do to the identification of the atheist's position, it can be perceived as a personal attack. It is not.

3. I will accept an intellectual attack on the Christian position without thinking it is an attack on me.

I have placed the warning above specifically so that no one accusses me of setting them up.

ON REMORSE


Why would an atheist feel remorse? What would be the practical reason? I don't find any justification for an atheist to feel remorse about anything?

Can someone tell me why an atheist would be justified to feel remorse?

Let's get started ;)

I didn't bother to read the rest of this thread, but I am sure others have answered this better than I will.

Inherent in your question are certain specific assumptions which I would contend are simply not true.

Your question presumes that any sort of morality or ethics or sense of human decency can only have an external source. I am certain that, along with all sorts of other less attractive inclinations, human beings have an inate sense, generally speaking, of basic decency. of compassion. of fair play. of empathy. and of regret and remorse. Those who don't have those aspects of personality represent deviations from the norm. I think it is childish and absurd to presume that a sense of decency (I will use this term as short hand for the various qualities implied by your use of the word "remorse".) can not spring from within human beings and must have as their source some sort of external dictum.

I don't know why or where people get the notion that people will turn in vicous maniacs were they not coerced by some sort of moral code to behave decently or humanely. Clearly, there is a vast spectrum of human inclination which can result in behaviors ranging from that of, say, Ted Bundy to Ghandi. (I don't really know how much of a "saint" Ghandi was, but that is beside the point.) Most of us are somewhere in the middle of the bell curve. Those at the extremes are anomalies. It is a little frightening to believe that there are a whole bunch of people who feel that the only thing constraining their antisocial behavior is their religious doctrine. I believe people are fundamentally decent overall. If it were not so I rather doubt the species would have done as well as it has. I can not believe that without your religion to "guide" you, you would lose your moral bearing altogether.

One thing that always irritated the hell out of me about those old "religious" movies was the way, for example, everybody would turn into psychotic maniacs when Moses disappeared up into the mountains. There is this old notion in Christianity and Judaism (probably other religions too) that there is god and there is nature. God is good, Nature is evil. and, of course, human nature is evil. This is patently assinine.

The nature religions - the original religions of the europeans, native american religions, south sea island religions, all those pagan religions - all of these were considered heretical and evil by the crusading christians and hundreds of thousands were tortured and killed in the name of Christian morality. I think anyone who feels compelled to find their sense of "morality" in their religion has a serious problem. If you don't have an inherent sense of decency without needing it proscribed for you by some authority, then there is a serious void in your humanity.
 
Right now I'm a little tide up. I'm going to respond during the week end. Please hold on.
 
Darat wrote:
I'll post a reply shortly to Christian's response but a quick word of congratulations to Christian for perhaps the most comprehensive answering of multiple questions and points I've seen on this forum!

Thank you Darat, I really appreciate that.

So let’s try a thought experiment, and in this case I ask you to only answer for yourself not for what anyone else might or might not do:

In your country tomorrow there is a revelation that killing is no longer wrong and all the laws that make murder illegal are repealed.

You are caught in a terrible argument with another person, the most vilest of insults are exchanged, your family are threatened with harm.

Do you kill that person? Yes or No?


No.

Remember as an atheist I do not believe that I am anything but an organism that responds to stimuli, it would therefore be “irrational” to deny that I am an organism that responds in a certain manner to certain stimuli.

This is the argument that is taking us time isn’t it. Your contention is that you can’t help it. My contention is that you can and that your best strategy as an atheist is that you should.

What you are trying to say is that I can behave in a manner that is different to the what “I” am - this would only be possible if I believed in something like a soul or held a dualist position, e.g. that “I” am more then a bag of chemicals.

I don’t think you can have it both ways. Either morality is taught or it is inborn in you. You don’t feel bad for doing something because you this internal moral compass, you feel bad because you have been conditioned to feel bad about it.

No purpose but it is the way human beings are, which is a result of evolution, which (presumably) is a result of how reality is!

You are going to argue that you were never taught stealing was wrong, it was a concept you had genetically?

The problem is that you are not talking about remorse.

Unless the code is changed. Then your immoral action is now moral or vice-a-versa.

This is what I’m saying. When you have a bilateral code, the code is less prone to change. And when it comes from God, it is immutable.

In the case of your moral code, it is prone to constant change or disregard.

No quite often people get away with acting immoral. Punishment does NOT automatically follow the breaking of a “moral code”.

This is what an atheist would say. I believe no one gets away with acting immorally. You or I might not see how God punishes or how He dispenses justice, but it is my belief He does and that his justice is perfect.

But, if I’m an atheist, this should be total nonsense to me.

But why have remorse then? Remorse in these circumstances makes no sense, it is irrational since you know you’ve done wrong, you know the punishment, you’ve accepted the punishment, your moral code is telling you all that. You don’t need to feel anything.

Let me be more clear. Remorse is part of the punishment. I owe $10 for the offense, with remorse I pay $1. Although I still have $9 to go, with remorse I’m making a down payment on what I owe. And if God sees that my remorse is genuine, He can even double my down payment.

If I’m an atheist, remorse adds or pays absolutely nothing (well, some could argue that the pain one feels makes us feel better, but that is just self serving and the offended get absolutely nothing for it). And the offender can never judge if you penitence is genuine or not.

The only way you can pay for the offense is to give him back the $10. And consider that that is sometimes impossible for us to do.

In the case of God, He can do any restitution He wants and our remorse is integral to that process.

For an atheist, this should all be nonsense.

Hmm.. yet you remain convinced your religion is the Truth….

Yes, because my trust is not on human justice but God’s.

Stimpson wrote:
Because it provides an incentive to behave yourself even when nobody is looking.

This is what I’m saying Stimpson. You are contradicting yourself. Remorse is good because it is natural punishment (your probable explanation is evolution). In other words, if there is no punishment, there is no incentive to behave. Yet, this is exactly what you are criticizing. That you make the distinction between external and internal punishment is irrelevant because you can’t help the punishment, might as well it be external.

And why do I have to accept that self-punishment is more effective than external source punishment. It goes against all I know of human behavior.

Who said I hated it? I already told you that I recognize that reward and punishment are effective ways of conditioning behavior. In fact, ultimately any motivating force fits into one of those categories.

And now that we got that cleared up, the new objection to overcome is your internal/external distinction.

Both. Why would that be inconsistent?

You are been inconsistent because you are saying human act morally based on a punishment that is automatic (out of your control). This is exactly like saying that the punishment is external to humans. That the by product of this evolutionary mechanism is beneficial purely coincidental.

And remember that my contention is that is not beneficial, it is detrimental if there is no God.

No, it is necessary to have a motivation to do so. That motivation could be to avoid the pain I feel when other people suffer. It could be to enjoy the pleasure I feel when other people are happy. It could be for more tangible rewards and punishments from external sources. They all work.

As you can clearly see, you can’t avoid think in terms of reward/punishment scenarios.

There are lots of scenarios that would not let you see anybody suffer, and still be immoral to you? What then. What about paying less taxes, or getting extra money from a government employee? No one person you can pinpoint that they have suffered because of your actions. What then?

I disagree, for the reasons I already explained. Anything which serves as a motivation to behave in a way that is beneficial to society, is useful to society. If you value society, then morals are a good thing.

This is the other point of contention. From an atheist perspective, there is no way to link morality as beneficial to society. You might intuitively think that it is so. But, what is your evidence that morality is beneficial to society.

This is exactly like an atheist asking a Christian what is his evidence Christianity is beneficial to society, is it not?

You can only speak for yourself in this regard. I know many Christians who have flat-out told me that they would keep their code of morality even if they found out that Christianity was bunk. I also know many ex-Christians who did just that. I am one of them.

This is not the point I’m making, I’m saying that the only reason it works if because of the reward/punishment/compliance system. That you choose to hold on to your morality is an entirely different matter. I can choose to hold on to many useless things, that does not make them useful

Once again, you are over-simplifying a complex and long-term conditioning process. You didn't just decide one day to not get angry anymore, and suddenly not get angry any more. Over time, you simply got used to the irritation that angered you, until it no longer caused that emotional response anymore.

So, what’s the difference if it took me 2 days or two years. We do it all the time. We constantly condition our brain to suit our needs. When I was younger, I could never study for more than 15 minutes at a time, now I can go for hours. That conditioning was good.

Fine, if you want to argue that remorse is an automatic mechanism. But, you can get rid of it because it is useless. It only drains your brain of negative things and it contributes nothing.

Once again, that is long term psychological conditioning. Do you understand the difference between such conditioning, and direct cognitive decisions?

Let’s go the other way then, most human brain functions are the result of conditioning. The way you want to play it, direct cognitive decision are seldom compared to conditioned behavior.

This is completely irrelevant. I have already acknowledged that I could potentially condition myself over time to be a sociopath. The question is, why would I want to?

You keep using this term.

sociopath:
One who is affected with a personality disorder marked by antisocial behavior.

Please explain how a lack of remorse translate to antisocial *behavior*. Are you suggesting you need external pain in order to avoid behaving immorally?

I did not disregard it. I told you that it is irrelevant. Being angry is not a defense for the crime, but it is not a requirement for it either. If you commit the crime without being angry, you have still committed a crime. And if anything, you will be punished more severely for that, then if it was a crime of passion.

I’m just going to drop this for the sake focusing on the principal parts of the discussion. You are still wrong, though.

Actually, they do it for both. That is how psychological conditioning works. Your mental state tends to follow your behavior. If you actively strive to control your behavior, by not acting out when you get angry under certain conditions, one of the effects of this is that you tend to stop being angered by those conditions.

This one too.

Once again, this is not what I am arguing against. What I am arguing against is the idea that if something happens right now that makes me angry, that I actually have to make a conscious decision to be angry or not. That is nonsense.

What you forget (or omit) is that somewhere in this long complex process you say happens you conditioned yourself to feel angry in an instant about whatever is making you feel angry right now. We don’t come with a pre angry manual, you know.

Why the sarcasm? I have never consciously decided to fall in love, but I have been in love before.

We are hopelessly deadlock in this line of discussion. If you are going to argue that you fall in love unconsciously, then it is impossible to come to an agreement on this issue.

Are you talking about remorse, or guilt? I am not talking about guilt here. I thought I made it clear in my example that I no longer feel any guilt about knocking the banana out of my brother's hand. What I feel is remorse, that being the bad feeling that I involuntarily get when I remember the event.

If you are talking about guilt, then I agree. Guilt is pointless. Take responsibility for what you have done, Try to make up for it if you can, and move on.


Then you have been arguing out of complete ignorance.

All the definition of remorse include guilt. Without guilt, no remorse Stimpson.

Webster’s:
A deep torturing sense of guilt felt over a wrong that one has done
dictionary.com
The anguish, like gnawing pain, excited by a sense of guilt; compunction of conscience for a crime committed, or for the sins of one's past life.

I think maybe you should have been more clear in your original post, then. What I am talking about certainly seems to be what I think of as "remorse". What you are describing sounds more like guilt.

I suggested that you read the whole thread. I posted the definition of remorse at the beginning.
You corroborated at some point that you had read the thread. And besides, I’m using the standard definition of remorse. That you thought it was something else is understandable, nevertheless.

In any event, all of my points with respect to morality are still valid, because morality does not depend on things like guilt. All it requires is the feelings that are associated with our values.

Aha, and now you begin to see the connection. Morality depends on guilt to work. Now that we are this far, we can tackle why.

Now, you cannot argue that morality does not required higher cognitive analysis. That would be absurd.

And that is exactly what I need to show you that morality is useless, unnecessary.

Not at all. Society is one of the primary sources of my values. We learn our values from the people we associate with. Family, friends, classmates, neighbors, our community, and so on.

So if you had been born under the Taliban rule, you would have learned your values from that society?

How is this relevant? The point is that a person who does not share the values of society is not only going to break the rules whenever he thinks he can get away with it, but he is also going to abuse those rules. This happens all the time, but it would happen a lot more in a society in which the rules did not reflect the values of most of the people. That is because of morality.

A person who does not share the values of the society he lives in will try to break the rules and bend them, yes. And I agree that the rules of society must reflect the values of most people. And this is the atheist scenario. I’m saying that you should take the shortcut and dispense with the rules that can be enforced and directly enforce values with social and legal norms.

Values do not have to translate to moral norms. They can translate directly to social an legal norms.

I tell you the difference with how I see it. Regardless of what society values and what rules it enacts (legal or social) God’s moral norms are supreme. Maybe to you, it is not immoral to have multiple partners, but to God it is, so if you break that rule, you might think that you will get away with it. But, from my perspective you wont escape the consequences. There will be no way for you to avoid them.

But to you that is nonsense, so you can disregard the monogamy rule.

Hardly. Just look at the people arguing on each side of this issue. They are trying to either change the law to be consistent with their individual morality, or they are fighting to keep it the same, because it already is. Without personal morality, it wouldn't even be an issue, since it is not significantly good or bad for society. In terms of the actual effects, it is a pretty minor issue. It is only because of its relevance to personal morality that it is such a big issue at all.

Again, from my irrational perspective, there are consequences that a woman who has an abortion cannot avoid.

To an atheist, this is nonsense. There are no consequences for this action in the future. The boogie man is not going to come to get you.


To atheists, this is all coincidence and nonsense. To me it is the inescapable justice of God.

In the world I live in, I associate with people all the time without the laws coming into it. I make agreements with people that, were they to go back on them, I would lose a lot of money. Yet I have no legal recourse if they decide to screw me, and we both know it. I help people I don't even know, with no expectation of reward, and no law compelling me to. And others have done the same for me.

I would suggest that in any money matter you secure a contract or enforceable agreement of some type. You will never regret having to do it. It is people like you who make excellent targets for swindlers. (specially scientists who are very smart at some things and not so on others).

You do have multiple rewards from giving, even better rewards that money or material things.

Sure, we need laws. But the world would be a much uglier place if those laws were the only things keeping people from acting like selfish sociopaths.

Do you know who are the biggest philanthropists of the world? Do you know why they do it?

Is that supposed to somehow refute my point? It is a complete non-sequitur.

All Christians are so because of the reward/punishment system.

Good, because that isn't what I said. What I said is the external motivations are not always necessary. My values are my motivation.

Ok, now on to the external/internal motivation thing. Explain to me why internal motivators are qualitatively better than external ones?

Sure, and the first time you meet an elderly person alone somewhere, you will beat him to death for the money in his wallet. After all, if you are certain you can get away with it, reward/punishment doesn't enter into it, right?

An atheist can do this and get away with it free and clear. The only thing stopping him is his internal motivation. (wow, that is scary)

I have a God that watches over everything and everybody and dispenses justice for all our actions.

If there is no god, forgive if I don’t trust that everyone’s internal value system is as yours. I much rather have my elder father live in a very secure neighborhood.

But I do believe in God, and I trust He will protect my elderly father from people who can get away with these types of crimes.

Who are you kidding? I know you wouldn't do that. You wouldn't do it, because like the vast majority of people, you would feel bad if you did. That is motivation enough.

Sorry, if I were an atheist I would not trust that that is motivation enough. I would try to live in a neighborhood that is as secure as can be. Or would campaign for very stiff penalties for that type of crime.

I have explained what the gap is, and why it exists. All you have done is claim that for an atheist it does not. You have not explained why, or even how belief in God has anything at all to do with it.

That is what I’m trying to do.

Are you seriously suggesting that most of these people don't actually hold these values, and only behave as if they did, because of the law?

Oh, I’m sure most people hold these values, but would find it difficult to follow the rules if they were not social or legal?

Have you ever read Hobbes or Rousseau? This is not stuff I just took out thin air.

Values within the US have changed considerably over the last 200 years.

Not the most fundamental ones. What has changed are the laws that reflect those values.

The act of trying to change society for the better is an act of living by your code of morality.

No, it is not. Once you want to enact your morality on others, it is not morality anymore.

That doesn't make any sense. Why would somebody who doesn't value improving the system go to the effort of doing so?

I don’t know how your question follows but, it’s in an atheist best interest to improve the system.

And if he does value improving the system, then by doing so, he is acting according to his values. That is morality!

If you are improving the system, as I said, it is not morality anymore. And acting according to your values is virtually impossible if the system doe not hold the same ones.

Then by the very definitions you gave, that is not morality. You are declaring yourself to be amoral.

From your point of you, I’m am being moral, because, even though deluded, I’m self-imposing a code of conduct. From my point of view, I’m willingly accepted that norm system. That is morality to me.

Why? If it serves as a motivation, then it is useful.

That is why it is useless, self-motivation does not exist (it is a figment of your imagination). You think you motivate yourself, I challenge you give an example of any accomplishment you have ever had, and I will show that the motivation was external.

We are not talking about legal norms. We are talking about morality. Just because legal norms require enforcement to work, does not mean that morality does.

Yes, that is exactly what it means. Look at any norm system, any, and you will see the only reason it works is because there is a reward/punishment/compliance system at work. Again, give me any example you like.

That is some of the most backwards reasoning I have ever seen. Anarchy is lawlessness. Without laws, you have anarchy. Morality alone is not enough to prevent anarchy. I have never suggested that morals could replace laws.

Morality is not only not enough, without laws, the uselessness would be evident. I’m saying that laws can replace morality.

No, you clearly stated that you have no interest in changing laws for the better, not that you are unable to do so. If you had the ability to contribute to the efforts to find a cure for cancer, would you bother?

No, I did not clearly state that, and if there was a misinterpretation or with my comment, this was inferred, let’s correct that now, I believe in predestination therefore my interest in changing laws is irrelevant to my ability to do that. If I had the ability to contribute to finding a cure for cancer, I would inevitably contribute. As of today, I have no such ability, regardless of my interest, I simply cannot contribute. I hope this point is clear.

You already asserted that you have no interest in doing so.

This is not what I meant.

I agree. But the alternative is to actively strive to change the laws to be consistent with your individual code of morality. Something which you have declared useless.

To me it is not useless, morality is useless for you.

How so? I do many of the things I do because of my morals, and not because of external rewards or punishment.

You do all because of your own reward/punishment/compliance system. Just because you claim your system to be superior because it is internal does not make it so. What it does is making 100% subjective which translates to highly unreliable.

chance wrote:
It’s not difficult Christian, provide a hypothetical example or two, and we will see if they withstand your logic or mine.

Tell you what, you give me an instance were you felt remorse ( or a hypothetical one if that is more comfortable) and I will show you the cognitive process.

Nope no problem with a definition, my dictionary defines remorse as “regret and repentance”. If the degree of remorse felt changes with circumstance what would it become, I fail to understand you interpretation on this point. Would you say that accidentally driving over your friend’s cat would produce the same amount of remorse as accidentally shooting your mother? You need to better define your point of view.

I’m working with the standard definition of remorse. Even though you are defining remorse as succinct as can be, there is no way to avoid the obvious implication: higher cognitive process.

from dictionary.com
regret: A feeling of disappointment or distress about something that one wishes could be different.

How do you describe the process of wishing something in the past were different? What are the necessary components to this mental exercise?

from dictionary.com
repentance: Repentance is the relinquishment of any practice from the conviction that it has offended God. Sorrow, fear, and anxiety are properly not parts, but adjuncts, of repentance; yet they are too closely connected with it to be easily separated.

Aside from the obvious religious connotation of the meaning in repentance (in other words, repentance is a word associated with religion, it is ad hoc to sin [and by the way, so is remorse]) suppose we expunged the religious connotation, you this change of mind requires higher cognitive processes.

Add both and I’m sure that if you want to be objective, you will see this is something that requires lots of thought.

Shottlebop wrote:
How does my scenario prove that morality is unnecessary? Does it not establish that there are circumstances in which adhering to the law would be immoral?

Yes, exactly and by establishing that in your worldwide scenario it makes morality irrelevant, useless. So, the question then is, if it is irrelevant and useless, what is it necessary for?


Loki wrote:
Okay. I *really* think I'm with you now! So you are saying :

1. Your law course has defined "moral norms" to be "autonomous/internal/unilateral/incoercible".
2. Your law course claims this definition of "moral norms" is the secular definition.
3. Atheists are secular.
4. Therefore, atheists must believe that "moral norms" are "autonomous/internal/unilateral/incoercible".
5. You believe that "moral norms" are "heteronymous/external/bilateral/coercible".

Clear enough?


You are a freaking genius.

I guess the problem is that I don't agree with #1. In fact, I think I agree with #5! I guess that means either I don't have a secular "moral system", or that you've been mislead as to what secular morals are.

There is no way you cannot agree with #1. The characteristics are self-evident. If you agreed with #5, then you would have a major contradiction in your hands.

Can you explain what the four characteristics mean, and why you believe secular thinking would assign those characteristcis to "moral norms"?

Yes, of course.

Autonomous: a norm that is has been adopted by me out of my own volition and that was not imposed by anyone else.

Internal: I’m the only one that with certainty knows if I’m complying with the norm. I’m the only official judge of whether I’m being moral or not.

Unilateral: There are no obligations to someone other than me, there isn’t the active and passive subject is the same person.

Incoercible: No one can force me to comply.


If you’d like we can take these characteristics for a spin and start classifying norms according to them.

For example, social norms are heteronymous/external/bilateral/incoercible.

Heteronymous: A norm that has been imposed by someone else on me. The source is someone external.

External: My behavior is proof to that external source that I’m complying.

Bilateral: There are two parties, one that is obligating and the other that is obligated.

Incoercible: No can force you to comply (they can punish you if you don’t comply, but they can’t force you to comply)

Using your four characteristics, how would you define the above statement?

As not inconsistent with the characteristics of moral norms.

(And just a clarification - I think I would agree that "moral norms" are autonomous in practise, yet heteronymous in theory).

I tried to explain the difference before and I know have refined the definition of autonomous as to avoid the semantic problem. But, once one understands the meaning, it is easy to see that one can say that autonomous means *a rule created by me for me* .

Let me show you what I mean. The clear difference between heteronomy and autonomy can be seen it the content of the norm. If I can change the content to my convenience, it is clearly an autonomous norm.

For example, you can’t change the % of sales tax you have to pay. You can certainly change the % of the charity contribution you pay.

You can’t change the direction of the line in a theme park, but you can change the direction of your morning health walk (run).


Quoted by Loki:
KEY CONCEPT OF THIS THESIS: - That which facilitates the survival of our species defines 'good'; and conversely, that which deters from the survival of our species defines 'bad'.

Loki wrote:
Agin, using your four characteristics, how would you define such a moral norm?

Ok, ethics is the study of correct conduct. For most atheists, there is no other source to find what is correct conduct. The fundamental premise is the one you have quoted. It is a logical necessity. This is a way to try to make the norms somehow objective, in this case, that we can deduce them from nature. That is fine. The problem is that morality, at the end, is personal, it is not a group thing.

Yes, if all were to deduce the same norms and follow them out of the goodness of their heart, everything would be wonderful. This is just impossible, do to the nature of the four characteristics. For atheists, morality is subjective and relative.

Thus, there WAS no recognized international rule of law in the 1930s that would have made the Nazis' laws "immoral." I would contend that, notwithstanding the absence of such an international rule of law, a person's decision to harbor Jews--an illegal act--would nevertheless have been moral. I suspect that you would have, as well.

I fail to see the point here. I stated that before the proclamation, these laws existed. The proclamation only made it a universal imperative throughout the world. In other words, morality was irrelevant locally. Until legal norms were enacted, Jews were protected. All of the moral outrage did not protect them.

Is it not ironic that three Christian Presidents are the only ones who have legally upheld these moral principles after the proclamation (Kosovo, Iraq, Afghanistan)


buki wrote:
I'm sorry, I didn't read the entire thread. I was simply stunned by the OP's question.

If you are going to comment (in the manner you have) I suggest you do read the entire thread.

So here we are, in the 21st century, and religious people still can't figure out that atheists have morals.

Who said you did not? Not me.

Yes, we are living, breathing humans. No, we are not possessed by devils. Yes, we care about the same things you do: health, wealth and happiness.

We just don't believe there's a being that looks at us and judges us as we live. We prefer to do that on our own.


There are lots of beings that look over you and judge you.

So could I please ask that you just live your own lives and let us live ours? Is that such a hardship for you?

I was not aware that you were force to participate in this discussion.

I like to live my life by the golden rule. If you're not familiar with it, I suggest you google it, or ask a friend.

I suggest you don’t patronize me.

edit: I must reiterate how insulted I felt by the Original Post. It's like "do you think monkeys feel guilt?" It's that offensive to me.

Many ideas can be insulting to you. Christianity would be insulting to me, if I were an atheist. It is something that can’t be helped.

rikzilla wrote:
You seem to be assuming that atheists either are, or should be incapable of feeling remorse for past transgressions.

No, this is either a strawman or a unintentional misinterpretation of my point of view. I have stated that remorse should be eliminated (for logical reasons) from the atheist lives.

No, the source of morality is your entire implied point! If indeed morality is a gift from the Christian God, then you would be quite right that atheists (and many others) would be wasting their limited time on earth by attempting to appease this entity which none of them actually believe exists.

No, it is not my implied point. Whether morals codes come from Allah, The Sun God, or the Christian God, if they come from any god, they are *bilateral*. To atheists, they don’t come from *any* external god.

OTOH, if morality and ethics were learned during early man's first attempts at organized society as I am supposing, then the atheist's moral emotions/feelings become more logical. This only works if you look at morals and ethics in a purely secular way.

How you arrive at your morality is irrelevant. You are the only one imposing it on you.

In light of this information I'm sure you can see how your assertion: The question to you as an agnostic is if personally believe there is someone other than you who enforces the moral norms on you. If you are the only enforcer, then morality is useless for you. is mistaken.

No, it is not. Once you start doing something because it is convenient socially, you are in the realm of social norms. I hope you can see that the prisoners dilemma is a external reward/punishment/compliance system. It has absolutely nothing to do with conviction to do what is right just because it is right. The best strategy saves you from prison.

Christian, you seem to be quite happy in your faith, and I am glad for you. But it seems to me that you are so content in your belief that you honestly can't see how other humans can function without it. I understand that as well. What I think you need to do is open your mind to other possiblities and perceptions. That is if you really do wish to understand others.

Is it possible for you not to be condescending?

Let me tell where I come from. To me, this forum is where I debate ideas. I like debating, it helps develop my skills. Do to the nature of the subjects, they do become personal, but that is not the intention. Ideally, we should just debate the merits of the theories or arguments.

I’m trying to do just that, debate ideas. If you remember, I put on the atheist hat, and the purpose was to show that an atheist can come to theorize this way.

I may be wrong, but that is the point. To understand the merits of the arguments and discard those that are lacking. So far, I feel comfortable about the level of argumentation.

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Your question presumes that any sort of morality or ethics or sense of human decency can only have an external source.

This is totally incorrect, no such presumption can be made. The premise or hypothesis is that whatever sort of morality an atheist has (the best or the worst kind) it is useless.

I am certain that, along with all sorts of other less attractive inclinations, human beings have an inate sense, generally speaking, of basic decency. of compassion. of fair play. of empathy. and of regret and remorse.

Are you going to argue that the concept of fair play is innate? So whatever the *game* it was innate in us to know. Sorry, that just does not work. Please read above on remorse and regret?

So, when a poet says, “I have no regrets” he is simply lying?

Those who don't have those aspects of personality represent deviations from the norm. I think it is childish and absurd to presume that a sense of decency (I will use this term as short hand for the various qualities implied by your use of the word "remorse".) can not spring from within human beings and must have as their source some sort of external dictum.

Why deviations. What is decency? Are you going to argue you were not taught to be decent?
And if you conclude you weren’t taught, could you deduction or induction of decency not be a learned process?

I don't know why or where people get the notion that people will turn in vicous maniacs were they not coerced by some sort of moral code to behave decently or humanely.

The news maybe, or societies that have weak legal systems? (looting in Iraq, S&L scandals, Enron, the creation of internal affairs for cops, etc. etc. etc.) Or maybe the direct proportion the amount of legal norms and an advance society (the more advance the society, the more legal norms there are)


It is a little frightening to believe that there are a whole bunch of people who feel that the only thing constraining their antisocial behavior is their religious doctrine.

As an atheist, you should be scared that the only thing constraining antisocial behavior is each person’s code of morality. To Christians, God is in control.

I believe people are fundamentally decent overall. If it were not so I rather doubt the species would have done as well as it has. I can not believe that without your religion to "guide" you, you would lose your moral bearing altogether.

The species has done well do to the concept of the *social contract* (Hobbes and Rosseau). This is an external system. If I became an atheist, it would be detrimental for me to believe people are fundamentally decent overall. It would be illogical for me to conclude this.

Communism made this assumption. Capitalism makes the assumption that we are all looking out for #1 (selfishness) and that my best interest is not necessarily others. And that is the best functioning system (exactly because of the social contract principle)

One thing that always irritated the hell out of me about those old "religious" movies was the way, for example, everybody would turn into psychotic maniacs when Moses disappeared up into the mountains. There is this old notion in Christianity and Judaism (probably other religions too) that there is god and there is nature. God is good, Nature is evil. and, of course, human nature is evil. This is patently assinine.

Human nature is evil in the sense that self-interest is above the other. This is why lawlessness, anarchy is destructive. The only way any system works is to have a third party doing the judging. Can you image a NBA game, without referees? Moses was the referee.

The social contract comes from the understanding that I can trust the others to do the right thing. So, both parties relinquish some of our self-interest in favor or security.

The nature religions - the original religions of the europeans, native american religions, south sea island religions, all those pagan religions - all of these were considered heretical and evil by the crusading christians and hundreds of thousands were tortured and killed in the name of Christian morality. I think anyone who feels compelled to find their sense of "morality" in their religion has a serious problem. If you don't have an inherent sense of decency without needing it proscribed for you by some authority, then there is a serious void in your humanity.

This is a strawman.
 
Christian,

Because it provides an incentive to behave yourself even when nobody is looking.

This is what I’m saying Stimpson. You are contradicting yourself. Remorse is good because it is natural punishment (your probable explanation is evolution). In other words, if there is no punishment, there is no incentive to behave. Yet, this is exactly what you are criticizing.

When did I criticize that? I already acknowledged both that punishment/reward is an effective method of behavior modification, and that ultimately all of our motivations are derived from our instinctual desire to avoid pain and seek pleasure.

That you make the distinction between external and internal punishment is irrelevant because you can’t help the punishment, might as well it be external.

The distinction is whether the incentive is dependent on external enforcement. Certainly you must recognize the value of an incentive to behave in a way that is beneficial to society, even when society is not able to compel you to?

And why do I have to accept that self-punishment is more effective than external source punishment. It goes against all I know of human behavior.

I never said it was more effective I said that it is also effective. And more importantly, it is effective in situations where external punishment is not. Namely in situations where no external incentive is present.

You are been inconsistent because you are saying human act morally based on a punishment that is automatic (out of your control). This is exactly like saying that the punishment is external to humans. That the by product of this evolutionary mechanism is beneficial purely coincidental.

I explained what the difference is, and why that difference is important.

And remember that my contention is that is not beneficial, it is detrimental if there is no God.

The explain why. And address my explanation of how and why it is beneficial, regardless of whether there is a God or not.

No, it is necessary to have a motivation to do so. That motivation could be to avoid the pain I feel when other people suffer. It could be to enjoy the pleasure I feel when other people are happy. It could be for more tangible rewards and punishments from external sources. They all work.

As you can clearly see, you can’t avoid think in terms of reward/punishment scenarios.

That is how human behavioral conditioning works. I have never denied this.

There are lots of scenarios that would not let you see anybody suffer, and still be immoral to you?

Of course. I value the lives and happiness of other people. Burying my head in the sand isn't going to change anything.

What then. What about paying less taxes, or getting extra money from a government employee? No one person you can pinpoint that they have suffered because of your actions. What then?

Are you serious? This all comes down to the idea of personal responsibility. I have a responsibility to society, because I value society. What you are suggesting would be inconsistent with my values.

I disagree, for the reasons I already explained. Anything which serves as a motivation to behave in a way that is beneficial to society, is useful to society. If you value society, then morals are a good thing.

This is the other point of contention. From an atheist perspective, there is no way to link morality as beneficial to society. You might intuitively think that it is so. But, what is your evidence that morality is beneficial to society.

I have already explained both why it is beneficial, and why it has nothing to do with atheism.

This is exactly like an atheist asking a Christian what is his evidence Christianity is beneficial to society, is it not?

Sure, and I have answered the question at least three separate times now.

You can only speak for yourself in this regard. I know many Christians who have flat-out told me that they would keep their code of morality even if they found out that Christianity was bunk. I also know many ex-Christians who did just that. I am one of them.

This is not the point I’m making, I’m saying that the only reason it works if because of the reward/punishment/compliance system. That you choose to hold on to your morality is an entirely different matter. I can choose to hold on to many useless things, that does not make them useful

That your compliance to your morals ultimately stems from the reward/punishment system is not in question. If the things you value were not sources of pleasure and/or pain, you would not value them. That is simple psychology. What is in question is whether morals are useful or not.

Once again, you are over-simplifying a complex and long-term conditioning process. You didn't just decide one day to not get angry anymore, and suddenly not get angry any more. Over time, you simply got used to the irritation that angered you, until it no longer caused that emotional response anymore.

So, what’s the difference if it took me 2 days or two years. We do it all the time. We constantly condition our brain to suit our needs. When I was younger, I could never study for more than 15 minutes at a time, now I can go for hours. That conditioning was good.

Fine, if you want to argue that remorse is an automatic mechanism. But, you can get rid of it because it is useless. It only drains your brain of negative things and it contributes nothing.

The question is, why do you think that as an atheist, I would want to get rid of it? My values are both a source of pleasure and pain for me. You cannot get rid of one without getting rid of the other. Sure, I could potentially condition myself to value nothing, but why would I want to do so? I would argue that doing so would be counter-productive to society, and thus ultimately to individuals.

This is completely irrelevant. I have already acknowledged that I could potentially condition myself over time to be a sociopath. The question is, why would I want to?

You keep using this term.

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Please explain how a lack of remorse translate to antisocial *behavior*.

Because without any internal motivation to not behave selfishly (and thus anti-socially) you will do so as soon as you are in a situation where you think you can "get away with it".

Are you suggesting you need external pain in order to avoid behaving immorally?

No, you are, when you say that values are useless. If I were to abandon my values, as you have claimed I should, then the above would be true.

If you are talking about guilt, then I agree. Guilt is pointless. Take responsibility for what you have done, Try to make up for it if you can, and move on.

Then you have been arguing out of complete ignorance.

All the definition of remorse include guilt. Without guilt, no remorse Stimpson.

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Once again, perhaps you should have been more specific in what you meant. I see three definitions there, and only two of them include the word guilt. Such is the nature of language. In any event, this is irrelevant to your argument, since you are arguing that morality itself is useless to atheists, and using "remorse" only as an example.

In any event, all of my points with respect to morality are still valid, because morality does not depend on things like guilt. All it requires is the feelings that are associated with our values.

Aha, and now you begin to see the connection. Morality depends on guilt to work. Now that we are this far, we can tackle why.

Dude, I just said that it does not depend on guilt to work.

Now, you cannot argue that morality does not required higher cognitive analysis. That would be absurd.

I have not argued that at all.

And that is exactly what I need to show you that morality is useless, unnecessary.

The present your argument, already! And while you are at it, address mine.

Not at all. Society is one of the primary sources of my values. We learn our values from the people we associate with. Family, friends, classmates, neighbors, our community, and so on.

So if you had been born under the Taliban rule, you would have learned your values from that society?

Of course. It would be insane to think that I would have the same values even if I had grown up in a different culture.

How is this relevant? The point is that a person who does not share the values of society is not only going to break the rules whenever he thinks he can get away with it, but he is also going to abuse those rules. This happens all the time, but it would happen a lot more in a society in which the rules did not reflect the values of most of the people. That is because of morality.

A person who does not share the values of the society he lives in will try to break the rules and bend them, yes. And I agree that the rules of society must reflect the values of most people. And this is the atheist scenario. I’m saying that you should take the shortcut and dispense with the rules that can be enforced and directly enforce values with social and legal norms.

Did you mean "cannot be enforced" in the last sentence? If so, I don't understand what you are suggesting. Should we have values or not? If we have values, then we are going to try to live in accordance with those values, regardless of whether society requires us to or not. That is morality.

Values do not have to translate to moral norms. They can translate directly to social an legal norms.

They can come from social and legal norms, but when you say "I am going to behave this way, even if nobody else forces me to, because it is what I think is right", that is morality.

I tell you the difference with how I see it. Regardless of what society values and what rules it enacts (legal or social) God’s moral norms are supreme. Maybe to you, it is not immoral to have multiple partners, but to God it is, so if you break that rule, you might think that you will get away with it. But, from my perspective you wont escape the consequences. There will be no way for you to avoid them.

This is irrelevant.

But to you that is nonsense, so you can disregard the monogamy rule.

I can, and do. Monogamy is not a part of my moral framework.

Hardly. Just look at the people arguing on each side of this issue. They are trying to either change the law to be consistent with their individual morality, or they are fighting to keep it the same, because it already is. Without personal morality, it wouldn't even be an issue, since it is not significantly good or bad for society. In terms of the actual effects, it is a pretty minor issue. It is only because of its relevance to personal morality that it is such a big issue at all.

Again, from my irrational perspective, there are consequences that a woman who has an abortion cannot avoid.

To an atheist, this is nonsense. There are no consequences for this action in the future. The boogie man is not going to come to get you.

There are most definitely consequences. Burning in Hell for all eternity just isn't one of them.

To atheists, this is all coincidence and nonsense. To me it is the inescapable justice of God.

What coincidence are you talking about?

In the world I live in, I associate with people all the time without the laws coming into it. I make agreements with people that, were they to go back on them, I would lose a lot of money. Yet I have no legal recourse if they decide to screw me, and we both know it. I help people I don't even know, with no expectation of reward, and no law compelling me to. And others have done the same for me.

I would suggest that in any money matter you secure a contract or enforceable agreement of some type. You will never regret having to do it. It is people like you who make excellent targets for swindlers. (specially scientists who are very smart at some things and not so on others).

Don't be ridiculous. I am not naive or stupid. I just trust some people who I know, because I know what their values are. Are you seriously suggesting that I should not loan money to friends without securing a contract first? Aren't there any people in the world you trust?

You do have multiple rewards from giving, even better rewards that money or material things.

Sure, but Heaven isn't one of them. I am nice to people because it makes me feel good to be nice to people. That's pretty much all there is to it.

Sure, we need laws. But the world would be a much uglier place if those laws were the only things keeping people from acting like selfish sociopaths.

Do you know who are the biggest philanthropists of the world? Do you know why they do it?

How is this relevant? If an atheist sees somebody faint on the street, and nobody else is around, which of the following do you think the typical atheist would do?

1) Ignore the person.

2) Help the person.

3) Rob the person.

Your argument seems to be that the atheist should reject morality as "useless", and pick number 3. This just illustrates that morality is not useless, because it compels us to choose number 2 instead, which is better for society.

Is that supposed to somehow refute my point? It is a complete non-sequitur.

All Christians are so because of the reward/punishment system.

That is misleading. Some are Christians only because of the threat/promise of hell/heaven. Some are Christians because they value the Christian values, and Heaven/Hell is simply seen as a deserved reward or punishment, but not the actual reason for following the rules. Many are a mixture of both.

Good, because that isn't what I said. What I said is the external motivations are not always necessary. My values are my motivation.

Ok, now on to the external/internal motivation thing. Explain to me why internal motivators are qualitatively better than external ones?

They aren't, and I never claimed they were. They are different, and as such, are applicable to different situations.

Sure, and the first time you meet an elderly person alone somewhere, you will beat him to death for the money in his wallet. After all, if you are certain you can get away with it, reward/punishment doesn't enter into it, right?

An atheist can do this and get away with it free and clear. The only thing stopping him is his internal motivation. (wow, that is scary)

And this is why those internal motivations are not useless. Isn't that obvious?

I have a God that watches over everything and everybody and dispenses justice for all our actions.

If there is no god, forgive if I don’t trust that everyone’s internal value system is as yours. I much rather have my elder father live in a very secure neighborhood.

I don't trust that everyone's internal value system is the same as mine either. That is beside the point.

But I do believe in God, and I trust He will protect my elderly father from people who can get away with these types of crimes.

That is pretty silly. It is pretty clear from direct observation that he will not. Bad things happen to good people all the time. Why should God protect your father from being mugged, when he clearly does not protect innocent children from being raped, tortured, and murdered?

You may believe in an afterlife, but you are living in a fantasy world if you think that anything other than people is going to make the world a safer place.

Who are you kidding? I know you wouldn't do that. You wouldn't do it, because like the vast majority of people, you would feel bad if you did. That is motivation enough.

Sorry, if I were an atheist I would not trust that that is motivation enough. I would try to live in a neighborhood that is as secure as can be. Or would campaign for very stiff penalties for that type of crime.

I never said anything about trusting that other people would share those morals. If I could do that, we wouldn't need laws. The point is that society is better off with people having morals than not.

Are you seriously suggesting that most of these people don't actually hold these values, and only behave as if they did, because of the law?

Oh, I’m sure most people hold these values, but would find it difficult to follow the rules if they were not social or legal?

And this is relevant how? Sometimes it is difficult to do the right thing. But without morals, nobody would ever do the right thing when they thought they could get away with being selfish. That is why morals are useful.

Have you ever read Hobbes or Rousseau? This is not stuff I just took out thin air.

Yes, we all know there are bad people in the World. That is why we need laws. But we also need morals.

The act of trying to change society for the better is an act of living by your code of morality.

No, it is not. Once you want to enact your morality on others, it is not morality anymore.

That is not true. Morality is the set of rules that I follow because of my values. It is not an either/or thing. Murder is illegal. It is also immoral.

That doesn't make any sense. Why would somebody who doesn't value improving the system go to the effort of doing so?

I don’t know how your question follows but, it’s in an atheist best interest to improve the system.

Not always. There are many rules that I support, which are not in my best interest, but instead in the best interest of society. For example, I would support government spending on education, even though I am past the point where I would benefit from it. That is because I value more than just my own personal well-being.

And if he does value improving the system, then by doing so, he is acting according to his values. That is morality!

If you are improving the system, as I said, it is not morality anymore.

Why not? What, as soon as a rule becomes a law, it is not a part of your moral framework anymore? That is silly.

And acting according to your values is virtually impossible if the system doe not hold the same ones.

No, just difficult. And as I said, that is how things change. Personal values, and the morals that go with them, are the engine of social change.

Then by the very definitions you gave, that is not morality. You are declaring yourself to be amoral.

From your point of you, I’m am being moral, because, even though deluded, I’m self-imposing a code of conduct. From my point of view, I’m willingly accepted that norm system. That is morality to me.

No, from my point of view, you are not self-imposing a code of conduct at all. From my point of view, your code of conduct is being imposed on you by an imaginary dictator.

Why? If it serves as a motivation, then it is useful.

That is why it is useless, self-motivation does not exist (it is a figment of your imagination). You think you motivate yourself, I challenge you give an example of any accomplishment you have ever had, and I will show that the motivation was external.

Oh please! Saying that our values ultimately come from outside of ourselves has no relevance to the argument. I have already acknowledged that my values come from my family, friends, and society. But they are my values. The point is that I have values. That is very different than abandon my values, and acting only in accordance with the laws that can be enforced on me.

We are not talking about legal norms. We are talking about morality. Just because legal norms require enforcement to work, does not mean that morality does.

Yes, that is exactly what it means. Look at any norm system, any, and you will see the only reason it works is because there is a reward/punishment/compliance system at work. Again, give me any example you like.

That is not enforcement. Do you at least acknowledge that there is a difference between rewards and punishment that are imposed on you by other people, and those which come from your own values?

That is some of the most backwards reasoning I have ever seen. Anarchy is lawlessness. Without laws, you have anarchy. Morality alone is not enough to prevent anarchy. I have never suggested that morals could replace laws.

Morality is not only not enough, without laws, the uselessness would be evident. I’m saying that laws can replace morality.

And the fact that without morality, people will break the laws when they think they can get away with it, clearly demonstrates that they cannot.


Let me give you an example. Consider your children. I suspect that like most parents, you love them. That means several things. It means that you value their lives and their happiness. It means that you feel joy when they are happy, and pain when they are sad. In other words, your values are a source of both pleasure and pain for you.

Now, since you believe that God wants you to behave the way that these values tend to make you want to behave (namely taking care of your children, and treating them well), these values are seen as useful by you.

So now you become an atheist. Are you going to stop loving your children? Assuming that you could condition yourself to do so, would you want to? Would it be beneficial to society, or to you, to do so?

I think not.

Clearly your love for your children is beneficial to society.

As for being beneficial to you, if that love was only a source of pain, then maybe it would make sense for you to condition it away, thus eliminating that source of pain. But it is also a source of joy. You have to take the bad with the good.

That is the case for all of your values. The fact that you have values is what makes life interesting. It is what gives you actual reasons to live (other than just survival instinct).

But more than that, those values are vital to society. Without values, there is no motivation to even have a free society at all. Without values, the only kind of society that would ever develop would be an anarchistic one, where might makes right, and those who have the power to do so, use others for their own personal gain.

Values are most definitely useful. And with values comes morality. Also note that this has nothing to do with there being a God or not. Consider again your children. If your love for them were only a source of pain, it would still make sense for you to condition away that love. Sure, you will continue to take care of them, because God wants you to. But you don't need to love them to do that.

If your only motivation for doing anything was external punishment and rewards (either from God, or from society), then your values would be pointless, with or without God. But they are not, because your values themselves provide motivations. That is why values are useful. And morals are simply the rules you live by in order to reflect your values.

Dr. Stupid
 
Good morning Christian,

Before I assemble some replies to your questions and rebuttals to your suppositions, I would like to clarify some things so I do not formulate some of my points on a baseless assumption.


1. Do you believe that there is a Devil or Satan?

1. a. If so, can you define his role in reality as you see it?

In a previous post you said:
But I do believe in God, and I trust He will protect my elderly father from people who can get away with these types of crimes.

2. Why would God protect your elderly father and not other elderly fathers?

When you have a bilateral code, the code is less prone to change. And when it comes from God, it is immutable.

and
Maybe to you, it is not immoral to have multiple partners, but to God it is, so if you break that rule, you might think that you will get away with it. But, from my perspective you wont escape the consequences. There will be no way for you to avoid them.

3. Given by what you said, one of God's rules would be to be monogamous. How do you determine God's rules?

Thank you for your patience. :)
 
Christian,

I was looking over your post and saw the phrase "From your point of you".

I took it as a mistake and understood you to mean "From your point of view".

Phonetically they are the same! :) In this case the main point of the phrase is understood and not detrimental to our understanding each other.

Makes me wonder about other phrases and how different languages cause confusion in oral discussion.

How many teenagers China think our discussions about aiding someone to achieve death is somehow realted to the youth in Asia?
:D

This is neither here nor there,
just thought it was fun
to think about and share.
 
Stimpson wrote:
When did I criticize that? I already acknowledged both that punishment/reward is an effective method of behavior modification, and that ultimately all of our motivations are derived from our instinctual desire to avoid pain and seek pleasure.

Ok.

The distinction is whether the incentive is dependent on external enforcement. Certainly you must recognize the value of an incentive to behave in a way that is beneficial to society, even when society is not able to compel you to?

Absolutely. In Christianity you are compelled to behave even when no one is looking. From the atheist’s perspective, I’m not compelled by anything external, only by something internal.

And I understand completely what you are saying, that this is the purpose of morality, to act correctly even though no one is looking. This is your point. My hypothesis is that this model does not work. I’ll explain what the model is and you tell if I’m getting it right.

[atheist hat on]
We teach our children values (and directly or indirectly, the rules that uphold them [morality]). By doing this, we contribute to the welfare of society as a whole because, even when no one is looking, they will act accordingly. Even if there are no external rewards or punishments, they will act morally because acting in accordance to their values, will be internally satisfactory (they will derive pleasure). Doing the right thing (acting according to one’s values) is a source of pleasure and satisfaction.

[atheist hat off]

This model does not work. It’s an utopia. There is overwhelming evidence that people don’t do the right thing when no one is looking (if it is in their best interest not to). On the other hand, the only evidence you might have that your model works is your personal experience (with your own actions). By the scenario, how can you know that people do the right *when no one is looking*. The only thing you have is their word.

I never said it was more effective I said that it is also effective. And more importantly, it is effective in situations where external punishment is not. Namely in situations where no external incentive is present.

How can you know it is effective? What is your evidence that people behave against their best interest when no one is watching? (we wont bother with the scenario of doing the right thing is also in the best interest of the doer)

As I’ve said, all tangible evidence points to the notion people don’t behave other than to serve their best interest regardless of whether it is moral or not. The more advanced the civilization, the more laws, technology and the such are used to protect society. Businesses don’t trust shoppers to not steal when no one is looking, the put signs up warning shoplifters of the consequences of theft. They install cameras, tags on items, and have security guards patrolling. And still by far, the biggest loss for retailers is shoplifting.

The explain why. And address my explanation of how and why it is beneficial, regardless of whether there is a God or not.

[atheist hat on]
It is detrimental because you are putting your chips on the wrong model. You say it is beneficial because people will act morally even though no one is watching. I say this premise is not true. I’m saying that when no one is watching, if it is in a person’s best interest to do the wrong thing, they will.

So, maybe that’s why they invented an imaginary dictator. So that the masses would do the right thing even when no is watching. If you tell them there is a God that will punish or reward you and sees everything you do. That my prevent you from doing the wrong thing even if no is watching.

If there is absolutely no negative consequence and only benefits for doing the wrong thing, and no one will ever know, that simply will lead people to do the wrong thing.

The other solution is to close the gap of what we as a society can find out, that everyday, there are less and less things people can do that can be seen by others (e.g. DNA testing) and enacting social and legal norms to prevent people from acting against the welfare of society.

[atheist hat off]

Of course. I value the lives and happiness of other people. Burying my head in the sand isn't going to change anything.

This is not the point I was making. In your *injured person* scenario, there is something wrong that will happen if you don’t act. But there are many scenarios where nothing wrong will happen if you don’t do the right thing. What would compel anyone to do the right thing if it not harmful to society to do the wrong thing (because it is beneficial to you). (e.g. paying one less dollar in taxes than you should)

Are you serious? This all comes down to the idea of personal responsibility. I have a responsibility to society, because I value society. What you are suggesting would be inconsistent with my values.

Yes, personal responsibility. That is the model that does not work. Show me an institution that works under your model Stimpson. Where you graduated, did they trust you were going to be responsible for studying? Did they take your word for it that you knew the material? Or did they test you, did they require you to prove your responsibility? Where you work, do they trust that you are doing your job or does the funding (or whatever other system there is) depend on tangible results?

I’m not picking on you, I’m just pointing out that your worldview is contradicted by reality.

That your compliance to your morals ultimately stems from the reward/punishment system is not in question. If the things you value were not sources of pleasure and/or pain, you would not value them. That is simple psychology. What is in question is whether morals are useful or not.

Correct.

The question is, why do you think that as an atheist, I would want to get rid of it? My values are both a source of pleasure and pain for me. You cannot get rid of one without getting rid of the other. Sure, I could potentially condition myself to value nothing, but why would I want to do so? I would argue that doing so would be counter-productive to society, and thus ultimately to individuals.

You would want to get rid of the idea that morality makes people act correctly. Or that morality makes a better society.

Now, the is a communication problem here (I’m struggling to make myself clear).

[atheist hat on]

We need values, they are indispensable. They are the compass to what rules we must set. I’m not saying we don’t need personal rules, we do. I’m saying that these rules must be placed in a higher ground (the social and legal one). If they stay in the personal arena and do not transcend, the are inoperative. A personal code of conduct that does not transcend is useless.

[atheist hat off]

Because without any internal motivation to not behave selfishly (and thus anti-socially) you will do so as soon as you are in a situation where you think you can "get away with it".

But this is exactly the premise that the system is built on. All society, everywhere in the world is built according to this system. If that were not the case, banks would loan money on people’s words.

No, you are, when you say that values are useless. If I were to abandon my values, as you have claimed I should, then the above would be true.

No, let’s correct this. I’m not saying that values are useless. Values are indispensable. Morality is not.

Once again, perhaps you should have been more specific in what you meant. I see three definitions there, and only two of them include the word guilt. Such is the nature of language. In any event, this is irrelevant to your argument, since you are arguing that morality itself is useless to atheists, and using "remorse" only as an example.

Fine, let’s dispense with the example and stick to morality. But, I’m right about remorse.

The present your argument, already! And while you are at it, address mine.

This is what I’m trying to do. I’m presenting my arguments.

Did you mean "cannot be enforced" in the last sentence? If so, I don't understand what you are suggesting. Should we have values or not? If we have values, then we are going to try to live in accordance with those values, regardless of whether society requires us to or not. That is morality.

Yes, sorry, that is what I meant. Yes, we must have values. Yes, we must try to live in accordance to them.

[atheist hat on]
Now, this is were we don’t agree. You say, “we must try o live in accordance to them, regardless of whether society requires us to do so or not”.

Here is the thing (and maybe this time my point will get across). You wont be able to live according to your values if society does not require it. And most people will only follow what society requires them to or according to their best interest, if society does not forbid it.

So, my point is, what is the use of a code you cannot live by. My suggestion is to make sure that the code is required by society.

[atheist hat off]

They can come from social and legal norms, but when you say "I am going to behave this way, even if nobody else forces me to, because it is what I think is right", that is morality.

Yes, I understand that. What I’m saying is that if it is not in their best interest, most people wont behave morally.

Posted by me:
I tell you the difference with how I see it. Regardless of what society values and what rules it enacts (legal or social) God’s moral norms are supreme. Maybe to you, it is not immoral to have multiple partners, but to God it is, so if you break that rule, you might think that you will get away with it. But, from my perspective you wont escape the consequences. There will be no way for you to avoid them.

Stimpson wrote:
This is irrelevant.

No, it shows why morality is necessary to me, even if society does not require it. It shows that the system can’t be beaten.

I can, and do. Monogamy is not a part of my moral framework.

I understand, and I’m telling you that there are negative consequences for breaking this rule.

There are most definitely consequences. Burning in Hell for all eternity just isn't one of them.

Correct, it is not. Please note I did not put my atheist hat on.

What coincidence are you talking about?

Well, you will never associate a future negative result on something you consider to be a past unrelated event.

Don't be ridiculous. I am not naive or stupid. I just trust some people who I know, because I know what their values are. Are you seriously suggesting that I should not loan money to friends without securing a contract first? Aren't there any people in the world you trust?

Well, that would depend on the sum and the % that sum represents of you total cash assets. It also depends on the what you consider a friend. If it is a long time friend where you have many ties, there is a contract working (whether you realize it or not).

Most swindles, cons, and frauds occur from people who have gained our trust.

Sure, but Heaven isn't one of them. I am nice to people because it makes me feel good to be nice to people. That's pretty much all there is to it.

I can understand this. Now, I’m sure that you know this is not the norm. Most people have the *what is in it for me* mode (regardless of what they say)

How is this relevant? If an atheist sees somebody faint on the street, and nobody else is around, which of the following do you think the typical atheist would do?

1) Ignore the person.

2) Help the person.

3) Rob the person.

Your argument seems to be that the atheist should reject morality as "useless", and pick number 3. This just illustrates that morality is not useless, because it compels us to choose number 2 instead, which is better for society.


[atheist hat on]

This is an interesting scenario and multiple tests have been conducted (Caldini). You know what most people do? They choose #1. It is the best strategy if there is no God. #3 is not acceptable because the risk outweighs the benefits.

And if you do choose #1, what negative consequences will there be in the future for having acted like this? Absolutely zero, none, nada.

So now, having the scientific data and understanding that #1 is wrong. What do we do? Do we pound more morality on people? No, we create a law that says it is illegal for you to do #1. And that is exactly what has happened in many countries.



[atheist hat off]

That is misleading. Some are Christians only because of the threat/promise of hell/heaven. Some are Christians because they value the Christian values, and Heaven/Hell is simply seen as a deserved reward or punishment, but not the actual reason for following the rules. Many are a mixture of both.

Whatever the reward/punishment (either internal or external, earthly or heavenly) Christian are so because of this system.

They aren't, and I never claimed they were. They are different, and as such, are applicable to different situations.

Ok.

And this is why those internal motivations are not useless. Isn't that obvious?

Yes, I understand that you believe (without much evidence, [hidden camera evidence points the other direction]) that people will do the right thing just because. If your premise is false, the system collapses, does it not?

I don't trust that everyone's internal value system is the same as mine either. That is beside the point.

No, that is exactly the point. If only you do the right thing, and most everyone else does not. The system is chaos. As I said before anarchy.

Suppose, you believe in helping the injured person. What if everyone else does not? In term of the common welfare, what is the use of you to help? You can’t build a house with a single stone.

That is pretty silly. It is pretty clear from direct observation that he will not. Bad things happen to good people all the time. Why should God protect your father from being mugged, when he clearly does not protect innocent children from being raped, tortured, and murdered?

Yes, I understand this is silly to you. That is precisely the point. It is silly to have a moral code, if by direct observation we can clearly see that the only way to stop rape, torture, and murder is by strong legal system.

You may believe in an afterlife, but you are living in a fantasy world if you think that anything other than people is going to make the world a safer place.

[atheist hat on]

Wonderful analysis. Exactly. The only way to make a safer world is by enacting social and legal norms (effective ones that are enforce by people and technology). Moral norms are useless in this sense. Trusting that people will do the right thing is as much of a fantasy as trusting there is divine justice in the world.

[atheist hat off]

This is why I singled out atheists. They don’t believe in divine justice. This would be only logical reason to have uphold a personal code of conduct that no other human can enforce. (morality)

I never said anything about trusting that other people would share those morals. If I could do that, we wouldn't need laws. The point is that society is better off with people having morals than not.

How do you know this? What is the proof that a society with morals is better off? All the evidence shows that morality is irrelevant in society.

And this is relevant how? Sometimes it is difficult to do the right thing. But without morals, nobody would ever do the right thing when they thought they could get away with being selfish. That is why morals are useful.

Well, you have to show why you believe people do the right thing even if it does not serve their best interest (and they are sure they can get away with it).

That is not true. Morality is the set of rules that I follow because of my values. It is not an either/or thing. Murder is illegal. It is also immoral.

This could be a semantic problem. From my framework (and this is just a technicality), a norm can only belong in one category in any given moment. I understand this is not the way we usually look at them, but please follow my framework for the sake of the discussion.


Once a norm is contemplated in the legal arena, the moral classification is dropped. That someone may chose not to kill people because it goes against his or her morality takes a back seat to the fact that it is illegal.

Not always. There are many rules that I support, which are not in my best interest, but instead in the best interest of society. For example, I would support government spending on education, even though I am past the point where I would benefit from it. That is because I value more than just my own personal well-being.

And this would be a great a example of our morality being irrelevant to the big picture. The only way that your rule (that the government spend more money on education) could have any efficacy would be if it transcended you personal code.

Why not? What, as soon as a rule becomes a law, it is not a part of your moral framework anymore? That is silly.

I understand where you are coming from. You are saying that a rule can be moral and legal at the same time. And you are correct about that. (in the way we usually look at it) But, I want you to understand the viewpoint that once a norm becomes a legal norm, it changes in quality.

The moral norm then, stop being moral (per se) and becomes an empowered norm. Please read my part of the difference between a moral and legal norm based on the qualities of norms.
The point is that even if it is not part of your personal norm system, legal norms have the quality to make you comply.

To say that when a rule become a norm stays as part of your moral framework looses its meaning, purpose. Because even it was not part of it, in the first place, you are obligated to have it.

And legal norms are unique in one aspect, like no other norm. They are coercible. The State can make you even if you don’t want to. There is no other norm system that can make you comply.

This is why, whether it is part of your moral code or not, it is irrelevant to the fact that you have to comply whether you like it or not. Sure, if you agree anyway, well that is way much better, but that becomes a mute point.

No, just difficult. And as I said, that is how things change. Personal values, and the morals that go with them, are the engine of social change.

It is impossible because the State can force you to comply in a manner that, if your values are different than the one’s you hold, would render your morality meaningless.

I will give you the perfect example. If you want to make transactions in dollars, you have to carry in your wallet at some point or another a statement that goes against what you believe. And that the State prints money with a statement contrary to your convictions and the convictions of many should be immoral to you.

Still, you have no choice, you have to hand out the “In God we trust” message. Your morality, in this sense is irrelevant, useless.

No, from my point of view, you are not self-imposing a code of conduct at all. From my point of view, your code of conduct is being imposed on you by an imaginary dictator.

Same difference, whether I’m a schizophrenic or just deluding myself, (from your point of view) I’m still doing it to myself. There is no dictator.

Oh please! Saying that our values ultimately come from outside of ourselves has no relevance to the argument. I have already acknowledged that my values come from my family, friends, and society. But they are my values. The point is that I have values. That is very different than abandon my values, and acting only in accordance with the laws that can be enforced on me.

All I’m saying is that the world around us indicate that motivation to act correctly is external and not internal.

That is not enforcement. Do you at least acknowledge that there is a difference between rewards and punishment that are imposed on you by other people, and those which come from your own values?

[atheist hat on]

The distinction would be irrelevant because, to my brain it is always caused by something external. The joy I feel of watching someone else laugh is indistinguishable from the joy I feel of buying a brand new car.

[atheist hat off]

So now you become an atheist. Are you going to stop loving your children? Assuming that you could condition yourself to do so, would you want to? Would it be beneficial to society, or to you, to do so?

If I became and atheist, I would not need morality to love my children. Why would I need rules to do what I already spontaneously want to do in the first place. All I have to do is follow what comes natural and pleasurable, that will guarantee their happiness.

But suppose, you don’t agree with me, that that simply does not guarantee nothing. To me, point a code on myself, will not help me from valuing what I value already. But, if what I value is wrong (like thinking incest is ok, remember our discussion on that subject, many atheist saying incest is not immoral) then the best strategy is to enact a law forbidding it.

And if one is an atheist that does not think incest is wrong, is it relevant that he does not. It is a crime.

Clearly your love for your children is beneficial to society.

That the love from my children is beneficial to society is a nice byproduct, but that is not the reason I love them. I can’t help but love them. It is so pleasurable to love them, that I don’t need any other motivation. I do it for purely selfish reasons. I don’t love other children the way I love mine. Other children don’t even come close to how I love mine.

That is the case for all of your values. The fact that you have values is what makes life interesting. It is what gives you actual reasons to live (other than just survival instinct).

But more than that, those values are vital to society. Without values, there is no motivation to even have a free society at all. Without values, the only kind of society that would ever develop would be an anarchistic one, where might makes right, and those who have the power to do so, use others for their own personal gain.


As I said, values are indispensable.

Values are most definitely useful. And with values comes morality.

[atheist hat on]
This is where we don’t agree. I would say with values comes the tools to make social and legal norms. Moral norms are for the religious people who believe that there is an imaginary dictator who will enforce that code.

[atheist hat off]

If your only motivation for doing anything was external punishment and rewards (either from God, or from society), then your values would be pointless,

No, no, no. Values are the building block of norms. For example, the penal system (totally secular) is based on the protection of what humans in a society value. That is the whole point of the penal code. “If you harm this value, you will suffer this consequence”.

I can’t help having values, they are innate. If I value nothing, there is nothing to motivate me. The reward/punishment/compliance model works because I value stuff.

When I say my only motivation for doing anything is reward or punishment, implicit is the fact that there is something I value that is motivating me. The reward has something to do with what I value as the punishment.

TamiO wrote:
Do you believe that there is a Devil or Satan?

Yes.

1. a. If so, can you define his role in reality as you see it?

He is God’s enemy.

2. Why would God protect your elderly father and not other elderly fathers?

Why do you think he does not?

Or what you are implying is that there are many elderly fathers that are not protect because you see evidence of this in the news and your personal experience?

If that is the case, I have a question of my own. How many thing go right in the world compared to how many things go wrong? What is the ratio?

3. Given by what you said, one of God's rules would be to be monogamous. How do you determine God's rules?

Thank you for your patience.


The Bible, and personal experience.

I was looking over your post and saw the phrase "From your point of you".

I took it as a mistake and understood you to mean "From your point of view".


Yes, I did.

Phonetically they are the same! In this case the main point of the phrase is understood and not detrimental to our understanding each other.

Makes me wonder about other phrases and how different languages cause confusion in oral discussion. Phonetically they are the same! In this case the main point of the phrase is understood and not detrimental to our understanding each other.

Makes me wonder about other phrases and how different languages cause confusion in oral discussion.


Although English is my second language (and I’m very well versed in Spanish), the mistakes are just sloppiness. If you have noticed, I’m making most of talking in here (answering to multiple posters). I simply don’t have the time to proofread what I have written (which would eliminate the types of mistakes you are pointing out)

Now, I’m trying to get better at succinctness and clarity (at the moment failing miserably). But, I think that with time, I will get better at it.

Thanks for the comment and if you can help me with style (how to say something better), I would love to hear your input.
 
Christian,

In your reply to Stimpy :
This model does not work. It’s an utopia. There is overwhelming evidence that people don’t do the right thing when no one is looking (if it is in their best interest not to).
Can you provide the evidence that this is true? Can you offer some evidence where the people who "did the wrong thing when no one was looking" were shown to be "atheists who were taught their morals as children"?

I would think that most of the examples you would bring forward are of *theists* who don't do the right thing when no one is looking.

The gneeral looting and ransacking of the hospitals in Iraq immediately after the fall of Saddam - gosh, isn't that a theist state? How come this god fearing people were'nt kept in line by the invisible eye that always watches, and judges accordingly?
 
2. Why would God protect your elderly father and not other elderly fathers?

Why do you think he does not?
Or what you are implying is that there are many elderly fathers that are not protect because you see evidence of this in the news and your personal experience?


I guess I find my source of questioning from personal experience. First, I was orphaned, then adopted by my paternal grandparents.
One by one everyone in half my family/my father's family has died, and the other half of my family/my mother's family is a mystery.

If there is a God, then I cannot understand why he would show compassion in some cases and disregard in others. Does he not feel, like I feel. Doesn't he see the people who suffer at the hands of others and hear their prayers? How can he tune those voices out.

A friend recently told us of how her apartment building was broken into by a gang of men with guns; using force they burst in and plundered through the building trying doors, stealing and threatening. After all was said and done, a lady in the apartment building said "Thank God I was spared" (or something similar to that.)

So I wonder, why did God spare her and not the family down the hall?

I watched a documentary on HBO a few weeks back. One man explained he was a prisoner of the Nazi's during the war. He said they pleaded with God during their incarceration. People who prayed vigilantly, his family, his wife. All ignored by God.

I think about all this, and as I said, I don't know. I don't understand the apparent lack of compassion in God.

You said earlier that
I have a God that watches over everything and everybody and dispenses justice for all our actions.

If there is no god, forgive if I don’t trust that everyone’s internal value system is as yours. I much rather have my elder father live in a very secure neighborhood.

But I do believe in God, and I trust He will protect my elderly father from people who can get away with these types of crimes.

So I ask you again, why would God protect your elderly father and not other elderly fathers?

If that is the case, I have a question of my own. How many thing go right in the world compared to how many things go wrong? What is the ratio?

There are so many things that go on in the world that it is impossible for me to know everything that happens, let alone a ratio of positive to negative. I would also have a hard time in saying what was good and what was bad, most things are closer to the middle and exist in grey areas.

We live in a micro world. By this I mean, what happens on a large scale, like war, does not affect everyone's life in the same way. For me, the war was on television, it was a topic of discussion, I know people who have loved ones there. One of the posters on this forum is currently deployed and logs in when he can to say hello.

Genocide, war, murder, rape, burglary. All can be seen as bad and good. All are wrong to do according to what I have gathered along the way; my own personal moral code. I have also gathered that a lot of people are able to compromise their values for personal gain, regardless of their professed beliefs. There is temptation in the world. There are tests of your moral character in every day life.

So we have people from all walks of life, people who constantly fail the test. Their actions affect others sometimes. Sometimes their actions are deadly. An act of random violence will most likely occur sometime in your life.

But you can find good in bad. When it happens it is truly wrong and bad and should have been prevented. After it has happened, a healthy person looks for something good that resulted.

For instance, I may have a bad morning and be slow in getting ready. Maybe it's raining and the car won't start and the taxi is late.
The taxi will take almost all my money and it looks like Ramen Noodles for dinner tomorrow.

I finally arrive at the doctor's office wet and late. So now I have to sit in the waiting room, wet and cold and wait until they can squeeze me in. This is not a good day.

Sitting close to me is a man who is wet from the rain, too. He mentions that it sure is rainy today and the conversation begins. It turns out he is the owner of a prominent business and he has been looking for someone to do his website.

If I hadn't been late, if the car had not had problems, if everything that happened that morning had not happened, I would not have met a most important person in my life.

When my cousin/brother was killed, it was tragic. It felt like a knife in my heart. But he was an organ donor. He ended up giving sight to a blind man, a heart to someone else, a liver, etc. He death helped many many people.

So when you ask me "How many thing go right in the world compared to how many things go wrong? What is the ratio?"
I cannot answer that and I don't think anyone else can either.

my other question asked:
Given by what you said, one of God's rules would be to be monogamous. How do you determine God's rules?

The Bible, and personal experience.

Would you agree that you have a personal understanding of the Bible?

When I really think about it, it seems that everything we experience while we are alive is a personal experience. I don't know if I was born with it, but I do know I was guided and taught by my family and the people in my micro world. I didn't accept everything I was taught, though. The older I got, the more I thought about things and began to question.

First came Santa Claus. Then the Easter Bunny. And on and so forth. My father and older brother liked to tell me things that were not true. My father even said things like "When I was a little girl, blah blah blah."

This was vaguely possible in my little mind. I was maybe 3 or 4 when I first thought about him saying that. By the time I hit kindergarten I was on to him. He congratulated me on my thinking and laughed with me about how silly the idea was. That it was fun to imagine but didn't make sense when you thought about it. He told me funny jokes and bought me riddle books. He had a sharp wit and was very smart. I came up with my own jokes that he laughed at (even though they were terrible!)

The point is, I was raised to think critically. To not take anything, really, at face value. I was raised an Episcopalian. I only heard children's Bible stories, colored pictures of Jesus and made crafts. On Palm Sunday we all had these crosses that we made from palm tree leaves. We got to carry them in a procession at the church. We sang and when it was time to pray there were these neat little benches that folded out for you to kneel on. They were covered with velvet and I loved them.

I never heard about hell except when someone in my world would swear. When some people got mad, they told the other person to go to hell. I didn't think much about where that was until I was older. Hell just was not part of my world. There was no sense of punishment associated with Christianity until I moved to a different world.

I had never read the grown-up Bible much. I had a special Bible that had pictures and just told the story of Jesus' life. Imagine my culture shock when I came to the United States and went to school with Southern Baptists! I heard things about God that did not make sense, so I studied the Bible to see where they got these ideas from.

I still, to this day, cannot see how a set of rules for being a Christian can be determined by what is written in the Bible.

I have a joke, :D
A man dies and goes to heaven's gates. He is met by St. Peter and is judges to be worthy of entering heaven. So in they go to the registration office, through the gates and down a long hall with doorways along the way on either side. As they pass each doorway, the man looks in and sees groups of people having a good time. Some of them go from room to room, crossing the hall and mingling like heaven is a party.

At the end of the hall, there is a door. St. Peter opens it and there is another hallway, but the doors are closed and it is quiet. St. Peter tells the man "shhhhh" be very quiet as we pass through here.

The man asks "Why?"

St. Peter points to one of the closed doors and says "The Southern Baptists are in this room; we have to be quiet because they think they are the only ones here."

So I guess I am back to my questions.
How are you able to determine between God's will and your own will?

It seems that among Christians, there are many different interpretations and some commonalities. How are you able to determine the rules of God and be satisfied that your interpretation is the correct one?

There are so many conflicting things in the Bible and people deal with two thoughts that are dissonant in many ways. All the contradictions in the Bible set up a cognitive dissonance. Rationalisation is called for to make sense of what is apparently a very important book. Some choose to disregard the Old Testament and only read the New.

This whole punishment thing is a foreign concept to me. In my little world, I was rarely punished. I was rewarded for every good thing I did.

How do you deal with the cognitive dissonance ? How do you rationalise the punishing God with the rewarding God?

Although English is my second language ...
Thanks for the comment and if you can help me with style (how to say something better), I would love to hear your input.


I really thought that you spoke english as a first language:) You really do very well and I meant no insult or critique. You have done such a good job in this discussion (really everyone has) it's one of the few threads I read and post in the Religion & Philosophy section.

I think we are all very much the same here in this thread. We probably share many commonalities in our personal moral codes, whether we attribute them to the Bible and personal experience or just personal experience. If we weren't more the same than different, the discussion would certainly be more heated.

Would you say that most or all atheists are more different than the same, or more same than different?

My apologies for writing a book. Congratulations if you made it this far without glazing over ;)
 
tamiO: said:
............Whole lot a' snipping going on .......... (couple of points left for reference..)
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A friend recently told us of how her apartment building was broken into by a gang of men with guns; using force they burst in and plundered through the building trying doors, stealing and threatening. After all was said and done, a lady in the apartment building said "Thank God I was spared" (or something similar to that.)

So I wonder, why did God spare her and not the family down the hall?

I think about all this, and as I said, I don't know. I don't understand the apparent lack of compassion in God.
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So I ask you again, why would God protect your elderly father and not other elderly fathers?


This is the old "person on the ground near a plane crash saying " thank God no one was hurt "( on the ground) " syndrome...

It says a lot more about the person making the statement, than about the nature of God..


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