How, and why, does this differ from being close enough to a BH to be spaghettified?
Sorry, the bit you quoted was not about gravity waves yet, nor about black holes; I was just trying to remind the reader that that a time-varying gravitational fields can feel like either an imperceptible frame shift (if you're in freefall) or like a real force (if there's a rigid body preventing you from freefalling).
Spaghettification is about tidal strains---if you're in a place where the gravitational field accelerating your feet is very different than the field accelerating your head. (Falling into a small black hole does this readily, falling into a big black hole less so. If you fell into the Milky Way's BH you would survive the horizon crossing!) You don't need to think about strain in order to get through my what-if-Earth-gravity-turned-on-and-off example. Gravity waves are only ever stretch-and-squish strains, not directional accelerations. (That's the difference between a quadrupole and a dipole wave.)
