Elind
Philosopher
No less than 180km (the radius of the resultant black hold post-merger).
I finally found this that explains in more detail than most searches.
http://www.tapir.caltech.edu/~teviet/Waves/gwave_spectrum.html
I note that LIGO has a detection range around (+ and -) 10^6 meters, although I also note that the wavelength is greater than the causing object, but 180 km is within that lower range.
However since gravity waves do not actually interact with mass or transfer energy to it, it is hard to see how it can actually cause damage to a mass. After all it simply changes, briefly, the space time nature of any mass it passes and we no doubt have those passing through even as we have this discussion.
The only way I can imagine a destructive effect is if the wavelength and amplitude were such that it pulled atoms apart so much that the nuclear forces holding them in their configurations and interactions were disrupted and they turned into some kind of plasma to recombine in unknown ways; but I have no idea if that is even theoretically possible given that the nuclear forces are many many magnitudes stronger than gravity.