Invitations to Religious Ceremonies

The GM said:
Yeah, I do have something further to add, you self important, thick headed twit. I grew up on the other side of this debate. I listened to people spout on ignorantly, just like you are now, about how the *other* side was eeeeeevil, baaaaaaad,and undesirable. You know what? You sound just like 'em. Congratulations, you're no different than a Christian fundamentalist. You even use the same logical falacies to present your case. Good job! All you need now is the Baby Jesus to keep you toasty warm at night.

Instead of actually trying to *learn something* about yourself, about how you view things, and how others take your words, you're riding on your high horse of 'moral' indignation. Well, you can trot that b!tch back to the barn where it came from. You *never* wanted a critical discussion of how an atheist handles going to a religious ceremony. You only wanted hear the sound of your own voice, wailing like a snotty little brat because your friends (the nerve of them!) decided to have a celebration in the framework of their family traditions.
Bah! How's that for insulting? Type some more stupid $#!+ and I'll have more for ya!



The GM...bringing world peace....one post at a time.:D

Huh? now you don't just make up stuff that I said but make up motives too? Where did I ever question their right to celebrate? Some facts please? A quote to support this?
I have learned alot about myself here...that I can refrain from silly name calling- that I can stay to the point better than some others, that some people use the Internet to say mean things because it makes them feel better about themselves and how sad their lives must be...I really feel sorry for you..but thanks for pointing out ...what was your point again?
 
Fun2BFree said:
Huh? now you don't just make up stuff that I said but make up motives too? Where did I ever question their right to celebrate? Some facts please? A quote to support this?
I have learned alot about myself here...that I can refrain from silly name calling- that I can stay to the point better than some others, that some people use the Internet to say mean things because it makes them feel better about themselves and how sad their lives must be...I really feel sorry for you..but thanks for pointing out ...what was your point again?

[colour added by MdC for humourous emphasis]
 
Fun2BFree said:

I have learned alot about myself here...that I can refrain from silly name calling- that I can stay to the point better than some others, that some people use the Internet to say mean things because it makes them feel better about themselves and how sad their lives must be...I really feel sorry for you..but thanks for pointing out ...what was your point again?

See, now my feelings are hurt. Somehow in a single afternoon I've gone from being a pretty well reasoned and even respected forumite who has never (with the exception of 1inC) called someone a name to being a pathetic little wretch. Woe is me. Fun2B said it, so it must be true, just like all of the other stuff he said. Maybe he *is* right.

Naw...
 
fair enough Marquis...I don't know why GM posts the way he does but it does come across that way...from his own quotes about how he is bringing peace to the world....
so there is quotable evidence to support that assignment of motive...but how can anyone seriously say that I "never "wanted a discussion of how an atheist handles these situations? that I just wanted to whine about them having the gall to have a ceremoney? that is assignment of motive without any evidence whatsoever...
 
Fun2BFree said:
fair enough Marquis...I don't know why GM posts the way he does but it does come across that way...from his own quotes about how he is bringing peace to the world....
so there is quotable evidence to support that assignment of motive...but how can anyone seriously say that I "never "wanted a discussion of how an atheist handles these situations? that I just wanted to whine about them having the gall to have a ceremoney? that is assignment of motive without any evidence whatsoever...
Perhaps one could ask GM the reasoning behind the motives assigned to you?
 
Fun2BFree said:
Huh? now you don't just make up stuff that I said but make up motives too? Where did I ever question their right to celebrate? Some facts please? A quote to support this?

I don't want to waste a single moment more of my life sitting in a church or temple listening to this mumbo jumbo... I am even feeling bad about rewarding what I regard as foolish and essentially irrational behaviour with more bad consequences...than good --sorry that is how I see the whole religious institutional complex …If you want to attend and give a gift at the KKK coronation of your friends because it is important to them or you... ...I am well aware there are many who think otherwise and are entitled to their beliefs no matter how mistaken I believe them to be…...as to it being like the KKK -fundamentally it is as rational as the KKK- which is to say it is based on an unjustified arbitrary belief that makes them feel good--I just don't like the socialization and social support and reinforcement of what is in my estimation a heinous institution... ---so if I go I am sending a wrong message - not just to everyone else there but to my children who I have every right and plan to raise with the values I feel are correct and true. . ...I don't want to help religion survive...I think the world will be better when it goes the way of all the other superstitions that preceded it....

The inferences are pretty damn clear, aren’t they?
 
I think both of your motives are to sow fear and confusion amongst the North American squirrel population. I've got nothing to back this up.
 
Marquis de Carabas said:
I think both of your motives are to sow fear and confusion amongst the North American squirrel population. I've got nothing to back this up.

Heh. My super human ability is to calm jittery squirrels. Matter of fact, I've applied for the JREF prize, but apparently before my testing there was an incident in the office in Florida. The crate of squirrels got, well, jittery. They attacked the staff with Ninjitsu swiftness and now Randi and his crew are currently undergoing rabies series vacinations.
I wonder when I'll be able to retest?
 
The GM said:
Heh. My super human ability is to calm jittery squirrels. Matter of fact, I've applied for the JREF prize, but apparently before my testing there was an incident in the office in Florida. The crate of squirrels got, well, jittery. They attacked the staff with Ninjitsu swiftness and now Randi and his crew are currently undergoing rabies series vacinations.
I wonder when I'll be able to retest?
My superhuman ability is the power to summon snails to do my bidding. Unfortunately, my power only manifests in salt flats.
 
Marquis de Carabas said:
My superhuman ability is the power to summon snails to do my bidding. Unfortunately, my power only manifests in salt flats.

Doh! With a krytonite like flaw such as that, how are we to ever know of your greatness, Marquis?
 
The GM said:
The inferences are pretty damn clear, aren’t they?

I don't see it...maybe your powers go beyond influencing squirrels...which part exactly do I whine about them having the gall to have a ceremony and how it hurts my feelings? Where is that?

was it where I said "I am well aware there are many who think otherwise and are entitled to their beliefs no matter how mistaken I believe them to be?"

Was that the part you mean?
What exactly is the inference of the above?
I thought it meant that ...oh jeez what the F#$%6? Those words could not be any clearer..I am not going to rephrase it...I will just spice it up...

"I am well aware there are many who think otherwise and are entitled to their beliefs no matter how mistaken I believe them to be?"

yeah that is just like the fundamentalists..they say that all the time...man I am such an intolerant person...mea culpa mea culpa mea maxima culpa
 
Fun2B,

When I get a little more time, maybe later tonight, I will point you to references that show why I have said all that I have said today. If, when I do that, you do not understand that point I have so painstakingly tried to make today, then there is nothing more to be said. I'll take my ball and go home. I've tried being nice, I even tried to be nasty: not to impress you, but to impress upon you what is a huge flaw in your rational thinking.
I feel like I'm banging my head against a brick wall trying to show you what others in this thread are getting with crystal clarity.
I'll get references. I'll cool off. I'll be back, tonight, maybe tommorow.

Don't hate me 'cause I'm beautiful...find other reasons. ;)
Cheers.


editted to add word 'your'
 
well of course I don't buy that I have been unreasonable at all...I accept that my opinion of religion is not shared by all...I respect their right to hold such an opinion and expect the same right for mine....I am accused of being no different than the intolerant fundies who call the opposite side evil...I reject such a notion on rational grounds...my reasons are wholly and completely grounded in the real world consequences of religions not on the judgement of real or imagined other worldly supernatural figures whose arbitrary rules are somehow broken...it is hardly the same thing...as Sam Harris argues in his book which I gave a link for earlier HERE it is again...tell me if this is not working

from that website Harris

maintains that “moderation” in religion poses considerable dangers of its own: as the accommodation we have made to religious faith in our society now blinds us to the role that faith plays in perpetuating human conflict

a book that focuses on the common thread that links Islamic terrorism with the irrationality of all religious faith.

now there is a whole book praised by mainstream thinkers that basically reflects what I also believe and what I am talking about here...so there is no point in getting into it here...suffice it to say it is not a wacko position held just by me...there are rational reasoned discussions of it in this book and others...so that is not the point of this thread...either accept that there are those who feel this threat and wonder how to deal with the clash of reason and faith in this hyper-religious society in which we live... or buttout of this thread and start a thread about whatever it is your beef is with those who feel as I do...I will be happy to challenge you on such a thread but it has nothing whatsoever to do with the question posed here.
 
A way to think about these kinds of ceremonies is that they represent / celebrate natural life/death junctures in people's lives:

Birth as beginning
The ending of childhood and beginning life as an adult.
The ending of one person and beginning of two.
The ending of life (Death) seen as another kind of beginning.

I do not see the celebration/honoring of these major passages in life as an evil. Even that last thing, 'death', becomes a perspective of life. We have recognized the 'ending and beginning patterns' through our lives, and so it is at least understandable to hope for it at death.

Those are not the things that divide us or lead to terrorism. A culture that helps its people pass through life seems a good thing. What divides us is religion's systemic need to keep people subservient. To use hope and belief as tools of control. That's what needs to go.

Reason is powerful enough to tear it all down, but is it the right thing to do. 'Sometimes' seems the best answer.

On Harris, he seems to promote some of the values of eastern philosophy or mysticism I largely agree with. He at least understands the need to perceive the world from more than a perspective of "I". This implies a wider kind of compassion, understanding that tolerance is not precisely a "virtue", but rises as a result of living in the world among people who struggle like we do, having the same hopes and fears.

Does attending a service I don't believe in represent this view of tolerance? I think it does. And for me, attending church was not merely attending against some belief, it was actually painful. Each hymn's note, a reminder of something lost and not yet replaced.

I would like to see more secular meetings, perhaps some to celebrate things currently 'owned' by religion. Promotion of values, rather than (often futile) opposition.
 
--I have my position and it is as established for me as well as any you have for yourself...as well as I believe that freedom is good and rationality is good and prejudice is bad...

Let’s talk about that. According to dictionary.com:


prej•u•dice P Pronunciation Key (pr j -d s)
n.
1.
a. An adverse judgment or opinion formed beforehand or without knowledge or examination of the facts.
b. A preconceived preference or idea.
2. The act or state of holding unreasonable preconceived judgments or convictions. See Synonyms at predilection.
3. Irrational suspicion or hatred of a particular group, race, or religion.
Detriment or injury caused to a person by the preconceived, unfavorable conviction of another or others.

Have you met any of the criteria for prejudice? Lessee here. On point 1. of the definition:

I just don't like the socialization and social support and reinforcement of what is in my estimation a heinous institution...

Now, you don’t really know for sure that your friends will be goose stepping at their event, but you assume it’ll be horrible. No, worse than horrible, *heinous*. Now, you did say you’ve been to similar types of events, and I didn’t get clarification on whether those occurred at this same temple/church/mosque/whatever. My bad, but it hardly seems to matter when you’ve already decided it will be heinous.

On point 1. b.
I don't think you just give up on people because they have been brain-washed

So now your friends are not only engaging in heinous behavior, but they are brainwashed as well? Is it that they are brainwashed, or that you’re so inherently negative towards their family tradition that *you* just see it that way.

On point 2.
those are my core values --too bad you can't handle that some people have values that might differ from yours...

Yep, I called you on 2 points of discussion that made no sense. First of all, why was there a discussion if you’d already made up your mind, and two, why would you hang out with people that do ‘heinous’ things. All of the sudden you shift midstream into an unsupported diatribe about how I may or may not view other people’s values. Well, I can’t say you made any friends there…but yet I still tried to get you to learn something…

On point 3.
as to it being like the KKK -fundamentally it is as rational as the KKK- which is to say it is based on an unjustified arbitrary belief that makes them feel good—
Now *this* is the scary point. You have in your own mind demonized an entire group of people. In fact, your distain is so clear you use words like ‘heinous’, ‘prejudice’, ‘superstition’, ignorant’ and so forth. Yet in the same breath you keep telling me not to talk about how good or bad religion is when *you* are the only one doing so. You have clearly expressed your personal bias here, in fact, it’s greater than a bias, it is prejudice. You HATE religion. You HATE that people are religious, so much so that you would subject your own children to a negative experience so that they might never become tempted to become religious. Your view is extreme, and when one is so extreme in the manner in which you have demonstrated, it is literally impossible to be rational or to employ critical thinking.


BTW, one last beef. You keep putting me in the position of somehow saying that religion is good, even though there is not one quotable piece of evidence to support that. You assigned a ‘personality’ to me, that of antagonist, most likely ‘religious supporter antagonist.’ So if you got flamed pretty hard yesterday, it was because of that…and your inability to acknowledge your own lack of rational thinking. Look, mate, I don’t give a hoot if you go to the barmitvahchristiningbaptismwhaddaeva. What I do care about is that you have a chip on your shoulder the size of Montana, and like an ostrich with his head stuck in the sand, you insist it ain’t there. You can’t even begin to be rational if you’re not honest with yourself. *shrug*
 
Fun2BFree said:
...so we are invited to the "religious ceremony" of a daughter of some friends we know through our kids --if it is relevant the celebrating child is NOT in the age group of our children.

I don't want to go. I don't want to waste a single moment more of my life sitting in a church or temple listening to this mumbo jumbo...my spouse feels we "should" go.

I have not said anything about if she or the kids go. (though I would prefer they not-except for the kids I think it would be good to be bored out of their skulls to further drive them as far away from religions as possible)


I am willing to go to the party afterwards, I am willing to give a gift -mostly as exchange for being at the party--I am even feeling bad about rewarding what I regard as foolish and essentially irrational behaviour with more bad consequences...than good --sorry that is how I see the whole religious institutional complex and I am not alone in this regard.

I am interested in hearing from other atheists and anti-theists what they do in similar circumstances.

I am not much interested in anyone saving my soul or telling me how unfair I am about religion...you have your values, I have mine. If you want to attend and give a gift at the KKK coronation of your friends because it is important to them or you...that is your right ---no matter how offensive I would personally be by supporting such an endeavor.

Thanks

You were asked to attend a Klan ceremony when you weren't already a member?

Oh, it was just a church. Well, tell them you can't enter a church because you're a real-life vampire and you burn once you get inside, but thank them for the offer and tell them you can still eat their kids once they get out.
 
Interesting *cough* thread.


We all know what critical thinking really is, right? Applying the rules of logic and reason to your own thoughts, not just others'.

;)
 
Short attention span that I have, I don't read the whole post or subsequent ones all the time, unless I think they are interesting, worthwhile, that I might learn something from it, or just plain trollish. Church-bashing isn't exactly new or exciting to this forum, nor is there anything that can be learned from it, but now that I'm up and thinking again, there is this growing mentality that atheists have to be a the thought police when it comes to beliefs, and that is utter BS.

The KKK comment was really weird, though. Probably missed a "belief police" attitude I should have seen.
 
C4ts, I actually agree w/ this :
but now that I'm up and thinking again, there is this growing mentality that atheists have to be a the thought police when it comes to beliefs, and that is utter BS.

They don’t have to be, nor should they have to be. One of the big reasons I took Fun2B to task is because he kept saying stuff like:

I believe that freedom is good and rationality is good and prejudice is bad...those are my core values

And…

BUT since I am a rational person –

And…

well of course I don't buy that I have been unreasonable at all...

And…

I reject such a notion on rational grounds

And…

my reasons are wholly and completely grounded in the real world

And so forth. Here he claims to be rational, logical, etc…ad nausium, when he does things like comparing the religious to the KKK and calling religion itself ‘heinous’. When one is saying things so volatile, and in the same breath declaring they are the pinnacle of ‘rationality’, I’m gonna call ‘em on it. If Riddick were spewing this sort of stuff, you guys would be crawling up one side of his @$$ and out the other. What, is Fun2B exempt because he’s a proclaimed atheist? I think not. Prejudice is prejudice. Hate is hate, no matter the belief system of the source.


edit, grammar
 
Nex said:
Interesting *cough* thread.


We all know what critical thinking really is, right? Applying the rules of logic and reason to your own thoughts, not just others'.

;)


Heh.:D
I think I critically analyzed the thread very nicely. Lots of critiques up there if you scroll a bit.:p
 

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