I find it incredibly dangerous to accuse people of anti-Semitism when the charge is not warranted, and I believe this danger occurs because then Jews run the risk of being "the boy who cried wolf," i.e., if and when real anti-Semitism comes down the pike, non-Jews will be less likely to believe Jews making that charge because they will have made it too often in the past when it had not been warranted. One thing that history has made abundantly clear is that we as Jews are at the mercy of non-Jews for our survival everywhere except Israel, and arguably there as well (e.g., U.S. military aid).
But I digress: I think, Clayton, it's important for you to recognize two facts: (1) There are exceedingly few people who deny the Holocaust who don't hate Jews. I've been involved in this "debate" for over fifteen years, and I can count on one hand the number of people I've encountered on your side who don't harbor a real and genuine hatred of Jews. This is the rule and NOT the exception. To his minor credit, Bradley Smith has been rather open on this issue. See:
http://www.codoh.com/newsite/articles/bradleysmith/anews04.html
(2) The second issue for you to bear in mind is that, when you state that you don't believe that white Europeans are capable of committing genocide, then you're painting yourself into a bit of a racist corner, and therefore even if you were not a Jew-hater, it's far more likely that people will assume you are.