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Split Thread Are post-feminism women happier?

I generally hate it when this sort of question gets just dropped into discourse, but I'm going to explain what I mean.

What do mean by happy?

I'm sure, for lack of a better term "kept" lives where you don't have volition are... very specific and narrow definitions of the term to be 100% clear.... happier.

But by other, equally or more valid definition where "happy" means a broader range of more complicated emotions, then absolutely not.
 
You can, of course, point out that ignorance is bliss, but many would consider it a poor argument for ignorance.

And to be clear it is not, in any context, an argument I will be making in good faith.

There's an online comic about how we look at the concept of happiness that struck a cord with me*. I'm very rarely if ever happy. I'm other positive things. I've felt challenged, I've felt joy, I've felt bliss. But happiness as I usually hear it; described as this kind of semi-permanent default state?

No, not really.

I don't think nearly as many people as we think are that kind of happy.

Perhaps this is beyond the scope of a thread that was, let's be honest, created just to poke the bear but is a woman who is liberated and in control of her own life given up some types of happiness? Probably. But it same happiness with being institutionalized that a prisoner gives up. I hate waking up every morning deciding what I have to wear to work and a small part of me yearns for the days when the Navy told me that so I didn't have to think of it. That's not the exact same thing as saying the freedom to choose my own clothes made me unhappier though.

*https://theoatmeal.com/comics/unhappy
 
I'm not arguing how it ought to be. I am pointing out that as women have become more powerful in the aspects of society feminists wanted them to become powerful in, and as society has been reorganised along the lines feminists wanted.... women have become less happy.

So what?
 
And to be clear it is not, in any context, an argument I will be making in good faith.

There's an online comic about how we look at the concept of happiness that struck a cord with me*. I'm very rarely if ever happy. I'm other positive things. I've felt challenged, I've felt joy, I've felt bliss. But happiness as I usually hear it; described as this kind of semi-permanent default state?

No, not really.

I don't think nearly as many people as we think are that kind of happy.

Perhaps this is beyond the scope of a thread that was, let's be honest, created just to poke the bear but is a woman who is liberated and in control of her own life given up some types of happiness? Probably. But it same happiness with being institutionalized that a prisoner gives up. I hate waking up every morning deciding what I have to wear to work and a small part of me yearns for the days when the Navy told me that so I didn't have to think of it. That's not the exact same thing as saying the freedom to choose my own clothes made me unhappier though.

*https://theoatmeal.com/comics/unhappy

I agree, and that's pretty much my point. To say women are less happy than they used to be can mean many things, but one thing it can quite easily mean is that people once thought their happiness was enough, and now they know better.

This argument boils down to not much more than original sin. Adam and Eve were happier in the garden of Eden before they knew what was up. They didn't know how happy they were until they made the mistake of looking for more, and off humanity goes, chasing the horizon.
 
And to be clear it is not, in any context, an argument I will be making in good faith.

There's an online comic about how we look at the concept of happiness that struck a cord with me*. I'm very rarely if ever happy. I'm other positive things. I've felt challenged, I've felt joy, I've felt bliss. But happiness as I usually hear it; described as this kind of semi-permanent default state?

No, not really.

I don't think nearly as many people as we think are that kind of happy.

Perhaps this is beyond the scope of a thread that was, let's be honest, created just to poke the bear but is a woman who is liberated and in control of her own life given up some types of happiness? Probably. But it same happiness with being institutionalized that a prisoner gives up. I hate waking up every morning deciding what I have to wear to work and a small part of me yearns for the days when the Navy told me that so I didn't have to think of it. That's not the exact same thing as saying the freedom to choose my own clothes made me unhappier though.

*https://theoatmeal.com/comics/unhappy


Actually I don't think that's the case. shuttit seems to be arguing out his case pretty well, and although I guess I'm on the exact opposite side of the fence as he, but still, I've been enjoying reading his posts, as well as Emily's Cat's rejoinders and counter-arguments.

In a post early on in the thread shuttit had said to me that he was wary of the dogpiling thing, and I hope we haven't scared him away with, let's face it, piling on more with simply opinion than nuanced argument per se, in recent posts. (Not pointing at you or anything, Joe! That goes for me as well. This was a thread that, much to my surprise --- because it seemed such an open and shut case on the face of it, with OP simply, as you say, "poking the bear", or so I'd thought when I first saw the thread --- I'm enjoying following.)

All of that said, I'd like to see what shuttit might have to say to what I'd proposed. Because for all of his nuanced considered arguments and all, the two situations seem kind of sort of similar, in principle at least. I expect he should jump at the chance of enhancing his happiness, and that of his near and dear ones, by hooking everyone on to the comatose-psychedelic thing. Because happiness is the main thing, right? So that all that remains is to suss out whether and how that happiness might actually be ensured, in that hospital bed thingy. To not agree to this scheme would, I think, point at double standards amounting to hypocrisy. (Unless he's got some good nuanced arguments explaining why not opting for that isn't double standards. He's kind of good at making reasonable-sounding arguments for a position that one finds troublesome, even repugnant. And I mean that without any snark or anything, entirely literally I mean to say.)
 
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I agree, and that's pretty much my point. To say women are less happy than they used to be can mean many things, but one thing it can quite easily mean is that people once thought their happiness was enough, and now they know better.

This argument boils down to not much more than original sin. Adam and Eve were happier in the garden of Eden before they knew what was up. They didn't know how happy they were until they made the mistake of looking for more, and off humanity goes, chasing the horizon.


Agreed, this is basically an ignorance is bliss kind of position.

Nonsensical and everything, sure: but after having read the way he's been arguing his case, while obviously he hasn't converted me to his POV or anything like that, but it kind of gives you pause, his basic thesis. I mean, why exactly do we do what we do, ultimately? Individually, as well as collectively? It does seem reasonable to aim at maximizing "happiness", and perverse not to. On the other hand, ought it perhaps to be more an optimization thing, with other variables also figuring in our equation? If so which variables, generally speaking?

Food for thought, right? Like I said, I've been enjoying seeing OP argue out for a position that I'm myself totally opposed to. I've been enjoying exploring how he's thinking this.

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Then again, if he's only applying this principle to women and feminism, then clearly that's hypocrisy plain and simple. No reason why that general principle, in as much it might apply to this case (not saying it does apply, I only mean to the extent it applies, as he seems to think it does), should also apply to other situations and issues as well, right?
 
Actually I don't think that's the case. shuttit seems to be arguing out his case pretty well, and although I guess I'm on the exact opposite side of the fence as he, but still, I've been enjoying reading his posts, as well as Emily's Cat's rejoinders and counter-arguments.

It wasn't to poke the bear. I requested the thread split from another thread where it was off topic. And like you, even though I'm pretty much on the opposite side of the fence, it's been an interesting discussion and I'm enjoying it.
 
You're coming at it from the perspective of "my parent always cut the ends off of the roast before cooking it... so that's how making a roast works - you cut the ends off first." You aren't even asking *why* your parent cut the ends off, so you can never find out that it's because they only had a small roasting pan and it wouldn't fit. You have a large roasting pan... but you are cutting the ends off of the roast anyway because that's how it has always worked in the past.

Slavery was "how the world worked" when we had slavery. We don't have slavery now. The world appears to still be working.

With respect to the social role of females in society, the only thing that is a strict "that's how that works" is that females are the ones who gestate and deliver infants. Every single other bit of this discussion is a discussion between what you think it ought to be and what I think it ought to be (or anyone else of course). Your argument is effectively that things for females ought to be the way they were 50-some years ago.

Unsurprisingly, I disagree with your ought.

I cut the ends off a roast because if they're left on, they overcook before the center of the roast is done. Not knowing why something works doesn't prevent it working. However I agree with the rest of your post; I just can't stand an inapt analogy.
 
You have yet to provide any support for... your assertion that feminism causes females to be unhappy
And even if it is the cause, that would still leave open the question of whether feminism must lead to this result, or could have been done more efficiently if it had taken a slightly different form.
 
You have yet to provide any support for a causal relationship between the idea of females being treated as full citizens with equal rights and agency... and the vague measure of happiness.
I have repeatedly answered this. Nobody has or will run the experiment necessary to answer this question. This is part of Burke's argument about why we should be cautious of ideologically driven change. What I have said is that, given the claims of liberalism about the world... it seems very odd that women have become less happy as their share of the things that liberalism said they lacked has increased. I think the only answer I have really had to that is liberalism never claimed that liberalism would make individuals, or even society as a whole happier. Liberalism might even make society less happy and it would still be a success so long as it made it more liberal. It is getting very dull answering the same accusations over and over.

You are arguing this from the assumption that feminism has caused a reduction in happiness. But all you've shown is a correlation. The same correlation exists for... color TV, access to long-distance phones, rise of the internet, access to personal vehicles, student loans for higher education, and Korea's development as a nation.
Emily's Cat.... is there really any point in us having this conversation if you are going to ignore what I say and just restate the same things that I have responded to? If you don't like my responses, fine.... make an argument about them. I'm not going to play this game where the reset button gets hit and I'm asked by you and others on this thread to begin ,y argument again.

Unless you can provide something other than a hand-wavish "oh feminism..." to support your assertion that feminism causes females to be unhappy, then your entire discussion approach is merely hypothesis.
I've given it to you, and you have ignored it, beyond I think saying that perhaps women were less happy today.... but it wasn't the fault of feminism, and, forgive me if I am muddling your comments with somebody else's, that feminism never claimed it would make women happier. I'm not answering the same questions again. Either dispute my previous answers of don't. I'm not going to do the dance of participating in an argument that has a big reset button in the middle of it that just gets pushed repeatedly.
 
Females ALWAYS worked. ALWAYS. They were just unpaid and exploited labor, locked into a specific job role with no choice in the matter.
Of course females always worked. It's just that feminism is a materialist, individualistic philosophy that is rooted, since at least the 2nd wave, in marxist economics. You use that lense to analyse the world and everything comes out as either the exploiter or the exploited and the only way value and reward are represented is in money. If you want to analyse the world in that kind of money focused way, then I'm sure you will get the result out that women were exploited. is that the right way to look at things though?

"Women didn't work". :rolleyes: FFS, have you ever had to clean the house, do the dishes, the shopping, the cooking, the laundry, the planning for the day, AND care for a child? And not merely for a third of your day, but from when you get up to when you go to bed.
If you are going to read this in to what I said there is no point in us talking. Either you are dishonest, or I don't know. You just persist in responding to this cartoon 2nd wave feminist caricature of the enemy and absorb nothing I say. I like you, but I feel like I am wasting my time.

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I was talking about wage labour.... "going to work". When I unblock the toilet, I don't expect to be paid money for that and it wasn't the kind of work I am talking about. This reducing of the concept of value and reward to whether some employer is handing you money that the government taxes is part of the issue that I am talking about. Feminism values at zero many aspects of the traditional female experience. I can see why it makes sense from an activism perspective to do that, but is it a sane world view if we aren't doing activism? Soft power is counted as zero.... hard power and official power are the only things that count. Having and looking after children is seen as unrecompensed work, since no money is handed over for it.... there are surely rewards that come from having children that aren't about money? My wife seemed to derive some happiness from it - that is counted as zero though because it isn't pay. In the old world, and even a little in the new, children were a long term investment in a financially stable future.... they were kind of like the pension for the parents. We count that as zero though. Women also control most of household spending, but we are focused on who earns the money not who gets to spend it for.... reasons.

How would we even pay for "women's work".... do we just say that every woman is equally terrific at it and they should be paid equally? How much.... I mean, it's a bit like being a kindergarten teacher where people are drawn to the work, so maybe they should be paid really badly? But then there will be the complaint that we aren't valuing the work, even though there are obviously these other rewards but we want to pretend that the whole of the value is in the pay, so we should pay women as if they had some kind of high powered office job? Do we just compensate them at the rate of the job that they would otherwise be doing? But what about people women who just want to be homemakers.... do we not pay them, so we value their work at zero?

Where this kind of thinking leads is to people increasingly handing over their children to be raised by others while they work. If you insist on viewing motherhood and everything else that goes along with it in capitalistic terms and demanding the state fix it, capitalism and the state will come and take it over. It's like inviting a vampire into your house.

ETA: You seem to have missed the roll of Protestantism in the development of both mercantilism and enlightenment.
No I haven't. Weber's The Protestant Work Ethic is an excellent book which I recommend. None of this stuff came from nowhere, but the soil has to be ripe for a particular idea to flourish. Aspects of liberalism go back to early Christianity and the equality of souls, but liberalism was hardly an idea that was going to do well at the time of Charlemagne. Giving an explanation at one level does not mean that one denies explanations at all other levels.

If we are talking about Protestantism, as far a I'm aware, the big thing that saved Martin Luther from the fate of Jan Hus was having a bunch of northern European nobility who were jealous of the power of Rome and were ripe for an ideology that justified them.
 
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It wasn't to poke the bear. I requested the thread split from another thread where it was off topic. And like you, even though I'm pretty much on the opposite side of the fence, it's been an interesting discussion and I'm enjoying it.
I'm genuinely glad you are enjoying it. I know I am being a bit prickly in my responses.

There are now multiple people asking me questions, and these aren't simple questions that I can easily toss off a reply to in 30 seconds. I have no expectation of converting anybody, so my only reason for posting is because it is interesting to be challenged. It is depressing to write a reply that took quite a bit of time and thought, and then to just have the same question asked again. That isn't interesting. I also don't think I can sustain parallel conversations of this scope with multiple different people at different stages of the argument.
 
I have repeatedly answered this. Nobody has or will run the experiment necessary to answer this question. This is part of Burke's argument about why we should be cautious of ideologically driven change. What I have said is that, given the claims of liberalism about the world... it seems very odd that women have become less happy as their share of the things that liberalism said they lacked has increased. I think the only answer I have really had to that is liberalism never claimed that liberalism would make individuals, or even society as a whole happier. Liberalism might even make society less happy and it would still be a success so long as it made it more liberal. It is getting very dull answering the same accusations over and over.
There's no reason to think it odd that women's happiness decreased when liberalism gave them more. It could be that, without the influence of liberalism, people, including women, would have been even less happy. We just don't know.

If by "very odd" you merely mean, perhaps, that this should be a fruitful area of further research, that's fine, but you continue on as if we have a good conclusion that women are less happy because of liberalism, and now we have to explain this oddity, perhaps it's because liberalism wasn't about making people happy. But that is assuming something that we don't know.

Also: where are you getting the idea that liberalism didn't have happiness as a goal? The book I referenced earlier, Liberalism - The Basics by Charvet, has happiness as a basic consideration of liberalism.
 
And even if it is the cause, that would still leave open the question of whether feminism must lead to this result, or could have been done more efficiently if it had taken a slightly different form.
True feminism has never been tried ;-)
 
There's no reason to think it odd that women's happiness decreased when liberalism gave them more. It could be that, without the influence of liberalism, people, including women, would have been even less happy. We just don't know.

If by "very odd" you merely mean, perhaps, that this should be a fruitful area of further research, that's fine, but you continue on as if we have a good conclusion that women are less happy because of liberalism, and now we have to explain this oddity, perhaps it's because liberalism wasn't about making people happy. But that is assuming something that we don't know.
I think it is very revealing that we really don't care whether liberalism or feminism or any of these things actually make people happier. Do we ever really try to go back and check the impact of these kinds of things? It won't be a fruitful area of research because we aren't going to change our thinking or the direction of society based on it. It won't be a fruitful area of research because researching it would be about as welcome as a huge irrefutable study digging into racial IQ differences. Liberalism, and by extension feminism, reorganize society to make it ever more accessible to and controllable by capitalism. At this point, it's not like we can undo any of these changes.

Also: where are you getting the idea that liberalism didn't have happiness as a goal? The book I referenced earlier, Liberalism - The Basics by Charvet, has happiness as a basic consideration of liberalism.
I was arguing the same thing as you here. Personally, I think it is at least implicit... and in the case of many 18th century liberal thinkers quite explicit, that liberalism and then later feminism were supposed to increase the sum of human happiness. I was told in this thread I was wrong. I don't think I'm wrong, but I have backed away from that a bit rhetorically.
 
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I cut the ends off a roast because if they're left on, they overcook before the center of the roast is done. Not knowing why something works doesn't prevent it working. However I agree with the rest of your post; I just can't stand an inapt analogy.
The problem is that I have repeatedly explained Burke to Emily's Cat, and she repeatedly reduces it down to "we should do it forever because it's tradition". It was a straw men when I first explained why this is a mischaracterisation, it is still a straw man now, it will remain a straw man when this argument gets made again.
 
I think it is very revealing that we really don't care whether liberalism or feminism or any of these things actually make people happier. Do we ever really try to go back and check the impact of these kinds of things? It won't be a fruitful area of research because we aren't going to change our thinking or the direction of society based on it. It won't be a fruitful area of research because researching it would be about as welcome as a huge irrefutable study digging into racial IQ differences. Liberalism, and by extension feminism, reorganize society to make it ever more accessible to and controllable by capitalism. At this point, it's not like we can undo any of these changes.
None of that has anything to do with the main point I made in my previous post, the one you were replying to. My point was this: there's no reason to think it odd that women's happiness has decreased when liberalism was giving them more. Agreed?

I was arguing the same thing as you here. Personally, I think it is at least implicit... and in the case of many 18th century liberal thinkers quite explicit, that liberalism and then later feminism were supposed to increase the sum of human happiness. I was told in this thread I was wrong. I don't think I'm wrong, but I have backed away from that a bit rhetorically.
So we're agreed that happiness is a part of the project of liberalism. Great. So we don't have to hypothesize that the reason why women aren't happier is because liberalism was not trying to make them happier in the first place.
 
As far as happiness, shuttit, I don't know if you've read my posts in this page. I'll copy down here, and ask again what I'd asked you there:

shuttit, if I were to take over all of the assets that you own, and all of your family owns, and your kids, and everyone dear to you; and spend a small part of that amount to lay all of you down and hook you up on permanently on to psychedelic drugs that will keep you happier than how happy you are with the real world.

Now I get it that I have no way to prove that this comatose psychedelic experience will necessarily be all fun and no nightmares; but let's just suppose for the sake of argument that it could be shown that there is some way to ensure that that experience is, in sum, "happier" than our everyday happiness --- or, more to the point, your everyday happiness.

Given the above, would you be fine if I took over not just your assets but also that of everyone dear to you, and without first asking your consent, and hooked you on to this thing for life?

If you answer Yes, then fine, I'll grant you that you're being consistent in how you're viewing this question about women's happiness with how you might view your own. But if you answer No, then I'll have to ask why you're even asking this particular question at all in the first place, about whether women are happier today than before.



It's a simple question, and can probably be answered with a simple Yes or No. (If Yes, then all good, end of story. But if No, then maybe, in addition, a discussion around why not.)

Not a trick question. I've already clearly explained why I'm asking this:

(...) it kind of gives you pause, his basic thesis. I mean, why exactly do we do what we do, ultimately? Individually, as well as collectively? It does seem reasonable to aim at maximizing "happiness", and perverse not to. On the other hand, ought it perhaps to be more an optimization thing, with other variables also figuring in our equation? If so which variables, generally speaking? (...)

...Then again, if he's only applying this principle to women and feminism, then clearly that's hypocrisy plain and simple. No reason why that general principle, in as much it might apply to this case (not saying it does apply, I only mean to the extent it applies, as he seems to think it does), should also apply to other situations and issues as well, right?
 
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None of that has anything to do with the main point I made in my previous post, the one you were replying to. My point was this: there's no reason to think it odd that women's happiness has decreased when liberalism was giving them more. Agreed?
Agreed. I don't find it particularly surprising.

So we're agreed that happiness is a part of the project of liberalism. Great.
Yes... although like any of these definitional questions, I'm sure one could find a version of liberalism that denied this. You then end up with some bland nothing definition that clearly isn't what people mean by the word. :-) We agree.

So we don't have to hypothesize that the reason why women aren't happier is because liberalism was not trying to make them happier in the first place.
You and I don't. But now I feel myself getting drawn into having to maintain a rolodex of everybody in the threads varying positions. I don't have the brain power to argue with a group of people who are coming at this from radically different places. The whole thing always turns into an unwinnable tag team match.
 

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