Who created those 'smoking ruins'? The Taliban.
Who created the refugee crisis? The Taliban.
What about the food shortage? Well, this is not a new situation for Afghanistan: in fact, it's been going on for years. The withdrawal of US troops is just one factor among many- and a lot of those factors can be laid directly at the feet of the Taliban.
https://reliefweb.int/sites/reliefw...11E4927047168492573D90007A4CF-Full_Report.pdf
https://www.fao.org/News/2001/011006-e.htm
The corrupt and basically useless previous Afghan government is also responsible.
Now, you talk of 'holding a grudge for their entire community starving to death'. That is entirely possible- but the target of that animosity may well prove to be the actual perpetrators, the Taliban, rather than the US.
I also rather dislike this post-colonial mentality, in which the peoples of developing countries are seen as passive and helpless victims of circumstances, and only the developed world is capable of action, and only the developed world is responsible for its actions. If the Afghan people don't want to be ruled by the Taliban, they are more than capable of overthrowing them.