I can't tell whether you think that I'm "denying racism" -- that it exists or that it's a problem. Since you seem to be addressing me as the OP, I can't understand why you would mention denial of racism unless you think I'm doing it. If so, let me clarify: racism exists and is a major problem. I'm proposing we leave it behind, starting with the realization that race itself does not exist in any definite or definable or quantifiable or measurable or significant sense, and a recognition that physical traits do not affiliate one with some larger group.
And to tell the truth, that's my issue with the OP, for several reason. First and most obvious, you can suggest that *we* give it up, but watch me try to catch a cab. Even if I do accept that you truly wish to move beyond it and harbor no prejudice in life (and I accept that for nobody - including myself), all this means is that you aren't the problem. You giving up on the concept earns nothing.
Now, let's talk about a few other people. Fox News, referred to the rapper Common, who's first major hit was an anti-violence diatribe, as a "thug" and a "gangsta", and they're the top rated news channel, and thus the most profitable. Radio pundit Rush Limbaugh refers to middle class tax cuts as "forced reparations" when the first black president of the US proposes them. He's wildly rich, in part because of this. Bill O'Reilly yells that "the black community" does nothing about "black-on-black crime", spurns multiple offers to go into a black neighborhood to see what was done, and enjoys high ratings. Donald Trump shouted that the first black President wasn't born in the US, that his admissions to college were forged, and that he rose above himself due to affirmative action. And his media platform has *increased* because of it. And he was briefly the frontrunner for the GOP nomination to the US presidency.
In other words, the first problem you have, is that quite a few people (and my list was by no means exhaustive) find bigotry to be *profitable*. In other words, I think that, say, Limbaugh, says what he says because he's a hustler, and he knows full well that screeching about black people taking "your" money or beating "your" kids, will put money in his pocket?
Second, let's look to the audience. Yes, they're willing to swallow a bunch of malarkey. But one thing I've noted on this site about bigotry, is that it's often incoherent. As examples, we're supposed to think that we guys are logical and in control of our emotions, while women are hysterical and wild. Unless she wears a short skirt, in which case she is coldly driving us guys into a wild state of lust, this making anything we do her own fault. That clearly makes no real sense. Similarly, we hear, for example, that black people absolutely hate work and love being on welfare and food stamps, and if they have a decent job, then they can't deserve it and it's because of AA, and it's time to work to take that person down!
So...how are you going to fight that? You're dealing with a thorough, loud insistence that people of another race *must* be wrong and unacceptable, no matter what they're doing.
Third, well, how do you get past me? And really, I'm you're first obstacle. How do you convince me to just "give up" my own blackness? I grew up in a ghetto in the Crack Era, that was specifically set aside from black families by banks. I was beaten, robbed, sure. I also had quite a few opportunities due to luck. So I've been able to shrug off the folks who insist that I'm "Affirmative Action" after I get a 4.0, that I got where I am because of my skin color. I shrugged off teachers that threatened to kick me out of high-achieving classes because of my skin color, or who tried to get me expelled because of it. Or cops who tacked me and accused me of some absurd crime. Or people who called me a threat because I was just *around* them when they had an accident! or when They mistook a joke for a vicious threat. And I have a MS from a prestigious university. And I'm very happy, and proud of it. I'm proud of my mom who always had my back, I'm proud for my grandfather who raised my but died shortly before I graduated high school.
So...how do you expect me to give that up? To just forget about the roadblocks people threw in front of me, due to my skin color, that I overcame? I don't mean to trivialize anything you've been through, but in my view, I've face unfair skepticism for my entire life because of my skin color, and I've won every fight. I won't say that this is normal, but it's a part f my identity, and because of it, I hate people saying things to me like "I don't think of you as black".
All I can think is "Okay, so what would you do if you did?"
But getting back to it, what about those of us whose lives were shaped by fighting bigotry, and still are, and were molded into it?