First, a disclaimer: I've only read about the first half page of this thread, and skimmed the rest of page 1. Apologies if my post suffers for that.
I just want to echo what others have said about freedom having some unpleasant consequences sometimes, but the fact is we must not have these kneejerk reactions and take away freedoms as a result of that. It's like the old saying, defending freedom of speech when it is speech you agree with is meaningless, only when you defend speech you completely disagree with is it meaningful (completely paraphrased.)
This was probably brought up in subsequent pages but everything I'm seeing, particularly from the OP, on page 1 is from the angle that the white kids, the white people... are doing some awful thing to the black people. From what I hear, it sounds like there's a black only party too... and why am I not seeing any framing regarding the black kids excluding the white kids?
I think I know why. In addition to the assumption that this discrimination is exactly the same as some of the vile practices of the past, there's also another underlying set of assumptions... which is that it is some sort of special treat for the black kids to get to be at the white party, but not vice versa. The core assumption is, oh the white party must be the good one... the black kids MUST want to be there, I just know it! No way, no how do the white kids wish to be at the black party though... I just know it, because that's definitely a worse party... probably held in some shack somewhere! A miserable experience! The black kids probably just sit around the whole time wailing in tears, and lamenting the fact that they can't be at the white kids' party...
I'm putting it all in very over the top, silly ways of course... but I do think some of these assumptions are at the core of this entire righteous, politically correct indignation I'm seeing here.
Is it possible, conceivable... imaginable that maybe the black kids enjoy their party? Maybe it's a good or even a better party?
A lot of people have this serious disconnect between the way the world is, and the way they think it should be. I might even agree with them about how it should be... but I prefer to acknowledge how it is.
If you look at the way people naturally seem to live their lives, when given complete freedom of association... it's very telling. We don't have laws requiring that next to every white family's house, there be a black family as their neighbors. Nor do we have enough black families to go around if we wanted that law... as it stands currently, people still have the freedom to move to where they want to. If you look at the behavior, it seems racial clustering is what people often want. We've all heard of "white flight" and this is yet again people framing it as always the white people being the racists... but it's not just socioeconomic considerations or lingering discrimination which accounts for black people tending to live with other black people, asians doing likewise, etc.
There is also that same instinct in every group, to be more comfortable around people more like themselves. Sorry, it's just true. Look at some of the most peaceful and prosperous countries in the world, by ANY metric, and you're going to see a list of some pretty darned homogeneous nations. You may also want to look at how many conflicts have some racial/ethnic/whatever component. It's basically all of them.
I'm not saying people can't live together, they can and there are some good success stories and the US is a great place to find them. It has to be their choice though, and they have to come to it in their own time, and you also have to be okay with them not coming to it at all. That's okay. I thought we liked diversity, after all?
People always frame this as the bad, bad white people are doing something to the blacks or to whoever... there seems to be this fundamental denial of any sort of volition or capacity for bigotry, racism, sexism, homophobia, xenophobia, whatever... on the part of black people. Maybe this is just the updated, covert form of racism we have today... the racism that a lot of liberals who are utterly convinced they don't have a racist bone in their body, subscribe to completely.
The racism that prevents them from seeing a black person as a racist, or as being intolerant or ignorant because they want to live around other black people... or associate with other black people. No, in the eyes of many that is completely understandable... healthy ethnic pride and love for their people. If a white person does the same? Their white hood must be at the cleaners!
Couldn't that potentially be characterized as a pretty racist assumption? That black people don't rise to the level where they can be bad, bigoted, closed-minded, or just have the same CHOICES that people credit white people as being able to have/do?
And isn't it also sort of racist, potentially, to constantly assume that everyone else is just absolutely clamoring and chomping at the bit to be around white people, to live with them, be friends with them, etc? And if it isn't happening to a sufficient level... then it just must be the racist whites preventing it, somehow?
I know this is a long post and I apologize. I'll wrap it up.
Look, I've seen enough studies to know that people have a biologically-ingrained higher level of affinity for people more closely related to themselves. The most obvious example is family, I think a lesser version extends to race. I know a lot of people hate this with every fiber of their being... but as I said before, I prefer to face reality head on, even when it's ugly, and then formulate my expectations accordingly. It prevents a lot of shock and disappointment.
I believe in complete freedom of association, and not losing our minds when the result of that is not to our liking. Let me leave you with a good article:
The Downside of Diversity: A Harvard political scientist finds that diversity hurts civic life. What happens when a liberal scholar unearths an inconvenient truth? - Boston Globe Newspaper
IT HAS BECOME increasingly popular to speak of racial and ethnic diversity as a civic strength. From multicultural festivals to pronouncements from political leaders, the message is the same: our differences make us stronger.
But a massive new study, based on detailed interviews of nearly 30,000 people across America, has concluded just the opposite. Harvard political scientist Robert Putnam -- famous for "Bowling Alone," his 2000 book on declining civic engagement -- has found that the greater the diversity in a community, the fewer people vote and the less they volunteer, the less they give to charity and work on community projects. In the most diverse communities, neighbors trust one another about half as much as they do in the most homogenous settings. The study, the largest ever on civic engagement in America, found that virtually all measures of civic health are lower in more diverse settings.