By the way, you do know what "HNIC" means, right? Interesting that you use the term here in this discussion.
I had to look that up.
Wow.
Just wow.
Indeed. What a disgusting thing to post.
I'm not sure we have this many fainting couches... can you guys double up?
In all seriousness, I had never heard "HNIC" before either. I didn't look it up because I am confident I figured out what it meant just via your reactions.
I admit that when I figured out that's what batvette had said, I had a bit of a
"woah, really? ha, wow... he posted that?" moment myself.
I just want to point something out, though. There are a lot of people, even non-black people, these days who use the N word or variants of it in ways which are not intended, at all, to be hurtful or offensive or derogatory. I am not one of them, I avoid that word like the plague, and it makes me uncomfortable.
However, I have seen these types of people before and they are NOT vile racists, or bad people, they are people who exist in a different cultural milieu than many of us do. It might be fair to call it a more blue collar world... hope that's not offensive to batvette. I actually admire blue collar people, a lot. I wish I'd been more of one. Part of why I joined the military some years ago was to get more in touch with that side of myself, to get out of the "ivory tower" and exposed to a more real, immediate world.
That world involves a lot of offensive behaviors and language, and I was as "couch fainty" and "pearl clutchy" as anyone, but thankfully it did harden my skin to it somewhat. Not to the point where I started talking like that, but to the point where it didn't bother me.
If you've seen the comedian Ralphie Mayes, a large very overweight Hispanic comedian... he drops the "N" word a lot. So does someone like Eminem.
Ironically, that's just the thing... it is the non-black people who are most intimately tied to the black community (or at least certain parts of that community) which are most likely to use this term. A big tip off is if they're also someone who is using other slang which is associated with black culture. In other words, they're a non-black person who talks in the way which is stereotypical of "urban black culture" and that INCLUDES variations of the N word. Which are spoken a LOT by the black members of that culture themselves.
So the more urban black friends a non-black person has, the higher the likelihood that they'll use that term and think nothing of it, in my experience.
I happen to think this is also why George Zimmerman chose the MySpace handle that he did. Young, Latino guy who has a lot of black friends and feels at ease around them... tries to sound black, with phrases like
"soft *** wanna be thugs messin with peoples cars when they aint around (what are you provin, that you can dent a car when no ones watchin) dont make you a man in my book."
I've seen that sort of thing a lot.