When I left the church, I had no problem with Mormons. Like most people, they are nice and fun loving, and the community has a supportive feel to it (as long as it doesn't get into the religious part, where weird ideas arise). I've not thought about the church or had any contact with it in all the years since, apart from a 2 month period after I had some sort of psychotic experience in my early 20s, and went to the church to work through the possibility that I had been under attack spiritually. As described in a recent post above, some of the leaders were arrogant and callous, but the membership were nice enough. Still, I found the mormon church irrelevant at that point. I recovered, not through the church, but through doing volunteer work at Friends of the Earth.
I haven't bothered thinking about Mormonism for decades. I live and let live, generally. But since you started this thread, and treated me as you have, I have grown to detest your lying, hypocritical church.
Keep it up! Good work!
That really is the problem when people go beyond explaining their views, to trying to convert and/or emotionally attack. I've always made it crystal clear to members that I have no intention of joining the church, and in general get along fine. I had the missionary discussions and attended investigators class for a while, and asked questions purely because I was interested and got friendly, useful answers.
But I expect it would have been different if they'd thought there was an honest chance of converting me, or that I was wavering.
And I'm seeing the same use of emotional manipulation sometimes, from both sides. There are non-believers who do stick to evidence-based claims and questions, and then there are those who are just in it for the attack. Like, for example, calling Joseph Smith a pedophile.
Let's say, for the sake of argument, that being a pedophile was a good thing and the church was trying to prove he was. Would skeptics truly be convinced by the evidence?
The vast majority of women he was interested in were in their late teens or older, after puberty had hit even in the delayed-puberty days of the 19th century. The very youngest was 14. Scroll down the anti-Mormons' best cases
here. Ages 16-19 dominate. Some were already married.
We know a lot about the psychological condition of pedophilia, and being interested in girls after they've gone through puberty is not it. I'm not even sure there's a name for it.
Ephebophilia would fit, except it's usually applied to men interested in late-teenage males rather than females.
However, there's also the legal definition, which means an interest in anyone below the legal age of consent, and under that technicality, a 25-year-old today with a 17-year-old girlfriend is a pedophile, just like a guy who peed in the bushes and got caught is a sex offender same as if he was flashing women on the subway.
And that's how Joseph Smith can be made to fit the label. Now, adults going after late-teenage women is certainly frowned on by society, but it's not on the same level of horribleness as a 25-year-old going after 8-year-olds, for example, but because "pedophile" legally includes that category as well, it makes a nice insult because it's technically true, while implying he was doing far worse things.
But seriously, in an alternate universe where pedophilia was good, if the church was making that argument, pulling out lawbooks to prove Smith was technically a pedophile so he was exactly like those wonderful Catholic priests going after pre-pubescent altar boys, or that nice Mr. Baden-Powell out scouting for boys, would you buy it?
I wouldn't. It would be a propaganda use of the word, to knowingly imply something more than the evidence supported, when a more precise label would let people make up their own minds about his behavior. Personally, I see him psychologically more as a Bill Clinton than a Jerry Sandusky--not that I approve of either one, but there are different degrees of yuck.
So one has to watch out for distortion and propaganda on both sides, and keep insisting on evidence and trying to look in an unbiased way for the way things really were or are.