I do believe we'd have to determine if qualia exist, first. Your post answers none of my questions.
We know people have a "sense that qualia exists", whether it is real or not. That "sense" could be abbreviated as "qualia", and the word is still useful. This is, in fact, how a several contemporary writers are using it.
If it is not something that actually exists, we must figure out
how and why humans feel like it does, and why anything should feel like anything, at all!
I don't think the dimissal of "qualia" as a phenomenon answers that question very well.
Explanations, such as Dennett's, that don't use the word "qualia" are more satisfactory, but ironically, what Dennett is describing IS how "qualia" might work. He just doesn't like using that word for it.
We do this with other words:
We know ghosts do not litterally exist. But, simply saying that won't explain why so many people see them all the time. Perhaps it might sound silly to define the word "ghost" as "the sense that there is a ghost in the room", whether it is real or not. But, you would be doing so when you say "The ghosts are all in your head".
(Or, more specificallly: "Several aspects of our mind cause ghosts to appear: agentism, essentialism, etc. have all been well studied", after which one can go into more details.)
Other writers use the word "homunculus" and "cartesian theatre" when talking about consciousnes, but some of them use those words to label empirical things that give us a "sense" of that "homunculus" or "theatre".
I'd like you to become more specific. You usually are.
You run into the same problem when people ask "where does one species end and another begin" when examining a dense fossil record of ancestors between two very different looking entities.
Only
worse, because we don't have as much information to examine, when it comes to qualia, yet.
But, what's so hard about being open to "proto-qualia"? We accept "proto"-everything-else, in biology. What is it about qualia that makes us assert that it
must come in an all-or-nothing form?