Presuming you or I face a one on one discussion my experience is that most of those we enter into discussion with will fall into two extremes.
Either they are genuine sceptics who are unsure of something and are genuinely seeking help OR they are committed obsessed truthers who are dug deep into their trenches of denials.
In the 4 years I have debated/discussed/explained 9/11 matters, mainly the WTC Twin Towers collapses, I have met many from both ends of that spectrum and a handful who occupied middle ground. I will return to the middle ground later.
The genuine seekers of truth - those looking for explanations are nearly always open to a structured approach where you present them with broad brush explanation as starters. They then identify the bits they are unsure of and you can go to more detail on those bits only. Three or four rounds max and they say something like "Thank you - I have a sufficient grasp now." and they depart the scene.
Contrast the so called truthers who almost universally are not prepared to listen to reasoned explanation. In fact the more rational the explanation the more they will evade or deny. They decline to be specific, attempt to pass the burden of disproving their claim to you rather than carry the burden themselves of proving their claim etc etc all within the common truther goal of debating forever so no conclusion can be reached.
The demography of 2007-8 had about equal numbers from either of those sides coming to the forum I frequented. That 50/50 split is long gone and most coming in opposition are either committed and obsessed truthers or trolls who are merely 'jerking chains' to see who is silly enough to respond. My personal view, not explicitly shared by anyone I am aware of, is that most of our present 'truthers' are actually trolls with no interest in 9/11 truth other than it gives them an excuse to play their trolling and needling games.
One lone exception was a 'truther inclined' member who came to that other forum but was open to reasoned discussion. Over a few months he valiantly tried to assemble a pro-demolition explanation for the Twin Towers collapses and as he advanced step by step I confronted him to close each door in turn. But that one was the exception occupying middle ground.
There are a couple of other points that your post triggers but let me stop there for now.