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For Heterosexuals Only!

At what point in your life did you choose to be a heterosexual?
I did not choose to be heterosexual, it just 'happened'. However I did choose celibacy, at age 7, after being told about the 'birds and bees' (I decided that sexual intercourse is just too icky!). I did find girls interesting, but didn't associate that attraction with sex until much later.

Are you still a heterosexual today
Yes.

or have you gone gay now that you're divorced and the children have moved out?
n/a

Did your mother or father influence your decision?
No. Sexual orientation was never discussed in our household. Since I had no concept of 'Hetero' or 'Homo', how could I decide to be one or the other?

However I suspect that a general (perhaps even willful) lack of exposure to sexual matters, coupled with social isolation, did 'influence' me. Some might think that I had a sheltered upbringing which stunted my sexual development, while others might say that I was 'free of corrupting influences'.

Do you continue to be heterosexual despite tempting offers from sexually attractive members of your gender? (If yes, why?)
For some reason I do not like the idea of having sex with members of my own gender (even those who are 'attractive').

When did you "come out" as a heterosexual? Did your friends make fun of you when they found out?
I have not yet 'come out' as a heterosexual. Actually I am still a vi... a vir... :o, like I said, I have not yet come out.

Do you wish they'd shut up and accept you as your are? Do you feel uncomfortable or angry when you overhear "well meaning" homosexuals discussing ... your sexual orientation?
I sometimes feel uncomfortable when people make assumptions about me. However I understand that this is my problem, not theirs. It is perfectly reasonable to assume that a man is 'in a relationship' with his female friend, or that he's probably gay if he shows little interest in girls.
 
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Sorry, but this is stupid thread. Very few posters here would agree that there is something wrong with homosexuality. You're a guy and you like penis. So what?
 
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I can't really tell you. I just remarked at some point (very young) that bobbies looked interesting and i wondered what it would be to touch them. it went downhill (literally :D) after that. It never even went into my mind that some men could be "into" other men, i learned about that later, and it never interested me the slightest bit. So there wasn't a conscious push toward heterosexuality. Or even choice. I don't think anybody ever "choose" anyway... Or if I choose hetero sexuality I don't think it was at an age I even remember.
 
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dtugg said:
Sorry, but this is stupid thread. Very few posters here would agree that there is something wrong with homosexuality. You're a guy and you like penis. So what?
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Very few posters here would agree on religion, either, but have you seen the religion and philosophy section lately? I get the impression that most members here are atheist/agnostic, to whatever degree, and yet they still manage to have lots of threads discussing something they don't believe, in a forum where hardly anyone expects them to believe it.

Eagle seems to need this discussion. He thinks people choose to be gay, for various reasons. We only know this because he told us. I wonder if anyone else who thinks that way is lurking, reading but not speaking?

If no one ever disagrees with Eagle, will he ever consider re-evaluating his opinions? You know, applying some critical thought? He might read something here that starts him thinking more deeply about what he thinks and why. He may not reconsider this particular idea, but he might do so with others.

So, how is it stupid, again?
 
slingblade said:
Very few posters here would agree on religion, either, but have you seen the religion and philosophy section lately? I get the impression that most members here are atheist/agnostic, to whatever degree, and yet they still manage to have lots of threads discussing something they don't believe, in a forum where hardly anyone expects them to believe it.

Eagle seems to need this discussion. He thinks people choose to be gay, for various reasons. We only know this because he told us. I wonder if anyone else who thinks that way is lurking, reading but not speaking?

If no one ever disagrees with Eagle, will he ever consider re-evaluating his opinions? You know, applying some critical thought? He might read something here that starts him thinking more deeply about what he thinks and why. He may not reconsider this particular idea, but he might do so with others.

So, how is it stupid, again?
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I may of course be completely wrong, but I am surmising that Eagle does not think homosexuality is a choice. Rather he's suggesting that we apply to heterosexuality the kind of questions and attitudes that homosexuals often face, and see how we would react. I don't think it's a very fruitful exercise, but it's of some mild interest to see how one would handle it.

I do think that no matter how accepting and tolerant society becomes (and I hope that continues to happen), there may never come a time when homosexuality is so ordinary that even the concept of acceptance and tolerance would seem out of line, as it might when we talk of left-handedness or blue eyes. And thus, there will always be a point when a homosexual will have to "come out," and always a time when one will have to apply to him or herself that label in order to avoid confusion or misunderstanding.
 
Walter Ego said:
The "point" (no phallic pun intended) will become clear in time...or by Wednesday when I go back to work. Be patient, dearie. ;)
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bruto said:
I may of course be completely wrong, but I am surmising that Eagle does not think homosexuality is a choice. Rather he's suggesting that we apply to heterosexuality the kind of questions and attitudes that homosexuals often face, and see how we would react.
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Darn! You beat me to the punch line. At least we don't have to wait for Walter Ego's "point".

Personally, I don't think that someone's orientation is my business nor whether it is a choice or not. We all have our foibles.
 
Walter Ego said:
At what point in your life did you choose to be a heterosexual?
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I consider myself hetero by default, whereas not getting involved with gay activity or gay XXX fantasy material is a choice that I am making.

Walter Ego said:
Would you disown your child if he or she chose to become a heterosexual?
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Would you disown your child if he or she chose to __fill gap with something horrible or criminal____? Probably not.
 
USEagle13,.... what brought you to this lovely forum? My face and palm are getting sticky.
And do you recall at that point in first grade where you decided to like that girl instead of liking your friend Bobby?
 
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I never fantasized about women until I was in my 20's. My first crush was my uncle when I was, oh, 3. I always had a crush on guys all throughout my school years. My mom learned early that I had a strong attraction to guys which caused her much anguish. I think there may have been a bet between various adults in my life as to when in my teenage years I would get knocked-up. Ha! Smarmy bastards, I was 27 when I had my first child, 30 when I had my second and it wasn't until 4 months after that that I finally had an "accident" (she's due in March).

I did not chose to be straight...although my parents did split when I was 4 and I didn't really "bond" to my step-dad. So, maybe that's why I'm straight...no strong "father figure" in my life so I searched for one. Oooo!! Maybe that is why I now fantasize about women, because I now have a strong male figure in my life, my husband. My "real" tendencies have come out now. Wow! This revelation is freaking mind-blowing!!! (but, those fantasizes are quite limited in scope. My favorite dreams involve male figures, most recently, Mike Rowe)
 
Alan said:
Perhaps you could have another go at writing an intelligent response.

Why is it that a homosexual who is a virgin must be 'confused', for example? Would this person stop being confused upon having homosexual intercourse?

What about bisexuals?
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What a great approach.


ie.... it is best to teach the kids what is normal and address the few who need assistance with the confusion.
 
Um, I don't choose to be heterosexual, I am attracted to women, in my youth, all sorts of women. The idea of sex with a woman excites me. The idea of sex with a man does not.

I know people who are the same, peopel who are attracted to both sexes and people who are attracted to the same sex.

Also in my youth, I did try kissing men, ugh.

And to quote Gary Hart "Another round of drinks for all us lesbians!"
 
This thread should have been titled "For Trolls Only!"
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Oh, in that case...

There ain't no choosin' what to be straight. Jesus says that if'n ya choose to engage in homo-sin-u-ality, thou shalt reap the neverending torments of Hell where there are no Joan Crawford posters, Norah Jones, all the cookware sucks, and you have to endure an eternity of separation from Tim Gunn's style advice.

But I have some Good News!

*audio sync is a bit off. Trust me though, stick with it.*

 
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psionl0 said:
Darn! You beat me to the punch line. At least we don't have to wait for Walter Ego's "point".

Personally, I don't think that someone's orientation is my business nor whether it is a choice or not. We all have our foibles.
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Homosexuality is not a 'foible'.
 
I chose to be straight when I lost hope that extraterrestrials would make contact with us. :(

- Scott
 
I was actually not really interested in anyone sexual until some time in college. I mean, I started doing nude figure drawing classes around the age of 12 and had been studying anatomy and the human figure for years before that. There really wasn't anything mysterious there, male or female.

Since I grew up in a very supportive environment where sexual orientation was not a big deal I found that I actually did have to take the time to really think about whether I was heterosexual or not. I actually remember when I made the decision and it was not easy.
 
USEagle13 said:
To make a long story short and "clean" it turns out that the guy whom "thinks" he is gay is gay until it comes to anal sex. Dude said he had tried it many of times and did not like it.
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That is not uncommon amongst gays.

That was one of the main issues he had. He felt there was no place for him in Hetero society (he is attracted to males and not females) and he felt there was no place for him in gay society (doesn't want to participate in gay sex)
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Seriously, gay people aren't doing all anal, all the time. It is quite common for people to find oral more enjoyable.
 
By the way, too late to edit, but I got Eagle and Ego confused in my above post. I express no opinion on the posts of "USEagle13," whose ramblings interest me very little if at all, but was commenting on what I surmise to be the intent of the original post by "Walter Ego."

I don't think Walter Ego's point is terribly well made, but I think there is a point there.
 
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