The choice crowd says "You can not be helped until you decide to help yourself." Which implies that merely wanting to not be an addict is all it takes.
Implies to whom? You? Well, that's on you, Bookitty. Name any other facet of life outside of addiction where saying, "You cannot be helped until you decide to help yourself" is taken to mean, "merely wanting it is all that it takes." That's an incredibly ridiculous implication to take. Nothing in life comes simply because you want it.
Those of us who understand that addiction is the end result of a complex series of event that vary widely between individuals are open to the idea that it might take more than that.
More straw men. I mean, seriously, why do you keep throwing this kinda crap at me? I was in this thread long before you, and I and every other person in this thread has agreed that it's a complex issue and unique to the individual. You've been told this already, so why do you keep repeating it back to me as if I don't believe it?
Seriously. What are you driving at? That I'm lying and don't really believe it? What? Please tell me so I can say whatever it is you want me to say to get you stop.
Then there are those who try everything and, regardless of how much they would like to overcome addiction, fail repeatedly even after treatment.
Sure, they'd like to overcome their addiction. Who really wants all the ill effects of abusing alcohol? Do you think anybody would stop drinking if there weren't negative effects? That's the crucial point you and others keep ignoring. You're looking at just one side of the equation: The desire to not have the ill effects of substance abuse. You completely ignore the other side figuring, "Gee. How can anybody want to end up unemployed and suffering from a diseased liver, brain damage, hangovers and alienation from family? It must therefore be
impossible for them to stop!"
********. The other half of the equation is that they enjoy drinking. The "rewiring of the brain" you referred to is the result of the pleasure centers being stimulated. It's perfectly sane and rational to want it. It's perfectly sane and rational to want to keep hanging out with your substance abusing friends. It's rational to want to blow off steam, relieve stress, avoid emotional pain and escape responsibility.
Nothing in known medical science says that voluntary control is lost. You just
want it to be lost. The fact is that, as Dancing David said, addicts don't want to deal with the consequences of their decisions. You and others completely ignore all the positives of choosing to remain a substance abuser. More importantly, you ignore the fact that most substance abusers get sober for a while - sometimes for months or years at a time. Then they rationalize going back to it. You know, they miss their friends. They miss the high or want to feel numb instead of dealing with guilt, depression, anger, stress or whatever it is at the time.
You figure that no rational person would make self-destructive choices like that. Well, you figure
some do, but not all of them. You can't say which ones because you have no evidence. It's just a
feeling you have.
Yeh, it's a complex issue unique to every individual, but it
starts with choosing to change your life around. There is no disease that makes you acquire money, go to a liquor store, bring it home, and get so wasted you pass out. You have to choose to stop doing it as the
first step. Implementing that choice can be extremely difficult, but people do it all the frigging time. They have for centuries.
It's far easier today than it has ever been because of the medical assistance. Problem is, the disease mentality has made it worse. People figure it's something that
happened to them, like malaria, rather than being a voluntary behavior that needs to be confronted with brutal honesty. Instead, responsibility is put on the backs of caregivers, who are helpless if you don't want to change.
If you want to remove the "stigma" associated with addiction, that's a laudable goal. Calling it a disease may lessen the stigma, but in the long run it leads to a worsening problem of addiction.