Yes, but my point is that it is different.
Calling a black person the n-word to their face might just mean that you know how to really be hurtful to them.
I would accept that people do that without being outright racist, simply because using the word has a very specific purpose that is bound to work as intended.
But there is no such excuse in the situation Gibson was in.
Again:
"You will be raped" vs. "You will be raped by a Frenchman".
It does nothing to further enrage the other person - but it speaks volumes about what you think of French people.
I understand what you mean yes. I do still think that there's the image of using black people as an archetypical danger that dwarfs any resent ones of frenchmen. It's as if threats or such comments, made by adding the image of the ghetto gangbanging gangsta, sounds more severe and threating than if you had used french people. I dont think it necessarily means the person using such insults
necessarily hates black people. Rather, at this point, I think it might just be that he thinks it invokes a cruler, cruder image from the idea that they are more dangerous in that way, and/or that he knows she thinks that.
The implied answer was: Because you recognize that it builds upon the idea that non-white people are more primitive than civilised white folk.
It means you need to be aware of this idea, realize that it can be hurtful to use *and* it must be the kind of thing you think of when in an argument.
I see it's easy to come up with when you are fighting with a non-white person. in fact, it would be quite unusual if you were ignorant of the possibility.
Yes, of course there has to be a knowledge of contemporarily hurtful polemics.
Again, explain to me why what Gibson said should be especially hurtful. Every possible answer I can come up with means he's a racist.
See, I would not like to get raped. Not at all. But the colour of the rapist really, really, really wouldn't make much of a difference. You would never hear me say the words "I just got raped - but thank god it was a white guy!"
That is true. But as I said, he might just think it makes it sound more gruesome in the context of their city where you'd be at much higher risk being a white girl in such surroundings. This doesn't mean it isn't prejudiced and wrong. But it doesn't tell me he looks at his black friends that way, or that he hates their people. He might not even believe it intellectually, but resort to pop-cultural stereotypes of fear, to make his comment more vividly harsh.
No, not everything. but certainly a lot of things.
Isn't that what losing control means?
I think when we lose control we naturally suffer greater risk of having our frustration ventilated through channels that do not necessarily reflect our heart's core as much as temporary chaos. That's what "saying things we dont mean" means and it's a concept I'd think most to be familiar with. Again, I think it's an unfortunate popular myth that when we lose our temper, control or so, we reflect our essences more honestly. But that's a load of crock, to use as a rule in my opinion.
However, if we continually lose it and also say the same or similar things on several occasions, or vent our anger in a particular verbal attack, then it might certainly be telling of our actual thoughts and/or values.
That does not follow.
People can and do change their minds, after all.
If I ask people to goto hell, I *do* *mean* that. For the moment. I'd be quite happy with their continued existence a few minutes later.
Then it's simply a vented frustration that you attach to a harsh word on the surface, it doesn't necessarily reflect the deep resentment you have in your heart's core for that person does it?
Yes. Now you just have to finally show me why calling other people the N-word should be a consequence of the intent to hurt someone.
Well, I'll take another example. When I was younger I was a singer in a band called "Magic Mushroom". And no, we didn't use any of those. The guitarrist got pissed at the studio technician and told him he hoped he would get raped in the arse by two huge n******. Why did he use the n-word there. Is he a racist. No, I can honestly say he is not. But it was a comment worded that way to make it sound more gruesome, and using the image of large men from a distinctly different group added severity to it. It is from an image of pop-cultural prejudice yes. Mind you, I differentiate between such usage and with actual inherent racism. I don't think P'Diddy is a racist just because he might have said "damn honkies" in a general way. It would be the use of a racial slur yes, usage of available prejudice and slurs that we know are attached to it. But actual racist behaviour would be something notably different in my experience.
There exists, in most western societies I'd gather, in our time an image of the black man (in particular the american ghetto version) as more physically imposing than, for example, your garden variety french guy. And since it's available in the collective consciousness of fearsome imagery, wether you truly believe in them or not, you know it has a better chance of adding severity to the reaction.
Can you rephrase that and elaborate a little? I don't think I follow you ...
I'm thinking about how I should word it otherwise, but I keep using the same variation of what I wrote earlier. Mel using the n-word in private in the context of his insult is less provocative in my view than him insulting his wife.