Mary_H
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She sent her idle musings about her "friend's" sexual proclivities to her spam list. I stand by that statement as I always have. Whether it paints Amanda in a bad light is really up to the individual to determine. If she hadn't spammed her email list with it then there would be no argument.
Mary's objection is not to the fact that she speculated about Meredith's sexual habits but Mary's own opinion that Amanda was just relating a story about what she'd spoken about with the police. The context shows quite a different reason. Amanda broke a demand for confidentiality from the police just to share this juicy tidbit about Meredith's sex life:
...i was strictly told not to speak about this...
Of all the things she could break confidentiality about, Amanda chose the most disparaging thing that she could. Just think about receiving an email where someone speculated about your sister, mother, or daughter and whether she might be into anal sex. Would that be something you'd expect to read from a good friend?
If so then we do indeed have very different world-views.
You are trying to paint a picture of Amanda's e-mail that is different from reality. You are misinterpreting it through some kind of filter that seems to be so laden with prejudice that it is blinding you.
It is not my opinion that Amanda is relating what the police asked her about -- that is exactly what she is doing. And when you say Merdith's sex life is what Amanda broke confidentiality about, you are trying to make it look like that's all she talked about, when in fact that is a very small part of the subject matter. Here is the excerpt again:
in the morning raffael drove me bck to the police station but had to
leave me when they said they wantrd to take me back to the house for quesioning. before i go on, id like to ssay that i was strictly told not to speak about this, but im speaking with you people who are not involved and who cant do anything bad except talk to journalists, which i hope you wont do. i have to get this off my chest because its pressing down on me and it helps to know that someone besides me knows something, and that im not the one who knows the most out of everyone.
at the house they asked me very personal questions about meredith's life and also about the personalities of our neighbors. how well did i know them? pretty well, we are friends. was meredith sexually active? yeah, she borrowed a few of my condoms. does she like anal? wtf? i dont know. does she use vaseline? for her lips? what kind of person is stefano? nice guy, has a really pretty girlfriend. hmmm...very interesting....wed like to how you something, and tell us if this is out of normal..."
She then goes on to write the whole last third of her letter, not referring again to Meredith's sexuality. At the beginning of the letter, she had already mentioned that "what im about to say i cant say to journalists or newspapers, and i require that of anone receiving this information as well. this is m account of how i found my roommate murdered the morning of friday, november 2nd."
I seriously doubt the police had asked Amanda to keep clam on account of concerns about Meredith's privacy. There is no indication of what specifically the police had told her not to discuss with others. At any rate, she was under no obligation to keep any secrets.
One glaring point that you seem to be ignoring is that Amanda's e-mail reveals absolutely nothing about Meredith other than she had borrowed some condoms from Amanda. This is hardly earth-shattering information, given that everyone in the cottage was known to be sexually active. Also, when Amanda writes, "WTF?" she is letting her readers know that she thinks the police's line of questoning is unexpected and possibly inappropriate -- not something that she is getting off on talking about.
I am going to turn the tables on you, here, stilicho, and see if you can answer some questions raised in the e-mail about the behavior of the police.
1.) Why did Raffaele have to leave Amanda when the police took her back to the house? Did they want to be alone with Amanda? Was Amanda allowed to bring anyone with her, or was it just her and the cops, alone together, in the empty house? Is that why they asked her not to tell anybody about it?
2.) Why did the police ask Amanda whether Meredith liked anal sex? Was there evidence that Meredith had been anally raped? Was Vaseline found on Meredith's body during the autopsy? I haven't heard of these possibilities mentioned before. Seems like a strange thing for the cops to be asking one of the female roommates about if they didn't have any reason to. Couldn't they have asked Meredith's boyfriend, with whom she was phyically intimate, instead of Amanda?
3.) Oh, and one more -- why couldn't these questions have simply been asked back at the station? Why did they require a visit to the cottage? Is this where the fantasies that eventually gelled in Mignini's mind started to form, when he was told by the cops about the visit?
See how that works?
You were absolutely right when you wrote: "Whether it paints Amanda in a bad light is really up to the individual to determine."
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