desertgal
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Personally, I'm still on the fence about her. I can't decide if she knows she's a fraud or she's truly convinced herself. (Although I'm leaning towards fraud...)
Well, to that, I have to think it is both.
When you are 'inside' a delusional disorder, you DO know the truth. You just don't acknowledge it. You do everything you can to keep from acknowledging it, in order to sustain your delusional reality.
Is Anita scamming? Yes. Is it intentional? Yes. But not for the purpose of hoodwinking other people, rather for the purpose of hoodwinking herself.
Look at it this way: inside her delusional reality, Anita gets to be extraordinary. The most extraordinary being, really, in the history of mankind. An elite 'star person', a 'being of light' or whatever-ultra intelligent, compassionate, empathetic, etc, etc, etc. It's a perspective that requires constant 'adjustment' - but the alternative is to acknowledge that she isn't extraordinary. She's just a regular person. When it comes down to the choice of being either the Great and Powerful Oz, or the dreary little woman behind the curtain, after a lifetime of convincing herself that she deserves to be known as the Great and Powerful Oz-then she's going to stick with the delusional reality. Why be dreary when she can be Oz?
Most of us can differentiate reality from fantasy, and choose the former. Anita not only won't, I believe she no longer can. Not without help. The line has become way too blurred.
Money may be a future side benefit of her scam, but, really, I think she is after self aggrandizement and attention. That's the fix she craves. It reaffirms, to her, her delusional reality as an 'extraordinary' person.
I think the crux of the frustration towards VfF is as bookitty has said: her life largely centers around something that has no positive benefit for her, or anyone else. And most of us know that life can be too short to be wasted that way. But, she isn't going to change without help. She's just too far gone.
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