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Transwomen are not Women - Part 15

It's a complex issue. The idea that there is some simple solution is naive. I want women to be comfortable and safe. I also want transgender individuals to also be safe and comfortable.
And if these goals are incompatible, then what?
I get that transgender females in women's bathrooms is not perfect
Do you mean trans-indentifying males, also known as transwomen? Because transgender females don't seem to be causing much of a problem in any bathrooms.
But I absolutely believe it would be worse to deny or criminalize it.
Why?
 
You don'rt seem to understand the concept of "I'm out". See, if you pose a question, comment, or challenge to a poster that pings on their alerts, a reasonably polite poster will feel obligated to respond.

I don't. Well that was time well spent.
Objectively, you do. You're foisting transwomen on women, as a response to the perceived threat to transwomen among men. You're saying that we, as a society, should burden women with this perceived problem, for whatever reason (presumably some version of the greater good).
 
Objectively, you do. You're foisting transwomen on women, as a response to the perceived threat to transwomen among men. You're saying that we, as a society, should burden women with this perceived problem, for whatever reason (presumably some version of the greater good).
I am not. What I have been saying from the very beginning is that I am trying to find a way to reasonably accommodate everyone, because I kind of like people and sympathize with the little guy/gal getting bullied for being different. The problem arises when the anti-trans side goes to extremes in order to represent the everyday, and it's true, the extremes have to be dealt with, which is the interesting and difficult part of this discussion. But the anti-trans side doesn't want to deal with the 99+% part, which is fairly benign and mostly the status quo anyway. They want to pretend Bryson is the norm, and start/end argumentation from there. Would it not make more sense to figure out how to maintain the staus quo, and focus on closing the loopholes for predators? I don't think that's as impossible as the anti-transers make it out to be.
 
I am not. What I have been saying from the very beginning is that I am trying to find a way to reasonably accommodate everyone
You cannot accommodate everyone. People have incompatible desires here. Someone will not get what they want.
The problem arises when the anti-trans side goes to extremes in order to represent the everyday, and it's true, the extremes have to be dealt with, which is the interesting and difficult part of this discussion.
I have yet to get a clear answer from you about how you would like to deal with these "extremes".
But the anti-trans side doesn't want to deal with the 99+% part, which is fairly benign and mostly the status quo anyway.
It's not that the gender critical side doesn't want to deal with them, it's that you don't like their solution.
They want to pretend Bryson is the norm
I never said that Bryson is the norm. But he exists. You even admitted that he has to be dealt with. But you won't actually deal with him. That's why I keep bringing him up.
Would it not make more sense to figure out how to maintain the staus quo, and focus on closing the loopholes for predators?
Perhaps. But you haven't actually shown any interest in closing the "loopholes".
I don't think that's as impossible as the anti-transers make it out to be.
Then why aren't you doing it?
 
Would it not make more sense to figure out how to maintain the staus quo, and focus on closing the loopholes for predators?
So long as folks like Agee Merager and Haven Wilvich can colorably claim that extant anti-discrimination laws provide them with a legal pretext to enter women's spaces in the nude, the loopholes will remain in place. Do you have any suggestions as to how they might be closed?
 
You cannot accommodate everyone. People have incompatible desires here. Someone will not get what they want.
Obviously. That's why I put that word 'reasonably' in there. No solution, including and especially your utterly intolerant one, will not get everyone what they want.
I have yet to get a clear answer from you about how you would like to deal with these "extremes".
You have, and repeatedly. Need it again? OK. Please take notes this time:

I am engaging in a discussion because it is both interesting and difficult. I am not a flaming ◊◊◊◊◊◊◊ who entrenches in one position for years and self righteously gives hyperbolic proclamations. I'm trying to work it out, and I don't know what the best solution is. But it for damn sure is not based on the arguments given by most of the anti-trans side ITT, which range from unreasonable to revolting. That's what I am arguing against here, not for. Do you understand that for/against dichotomy?
It's not that the gender critical side doesn't want to deal with them, it's that you don't like their solution.
Ya, '◊◊◊◊ them trannys' is suboptimal, agreed.
I never said that Bryson is the norm. But he exists. You even admitted that he has to be dealt with. But you won't actually deal with him. That's why I keep bringing him up.
As I've said a dozen times (please grab a pencil so I don't have to keep repeating it), anyone actually menacing should still leave if requested, and in a worst case scenario, you can leave till he vacates. It's an excessively rare occurrence to deal with at all, so it's not like a daily nuisance.

Have you ever cleared out of a men's room till some severely sketch dudes left? I have. It's not some weird burden that we haven't dealt with for generations.

More ideally, have the law acknowledge that mens rooms are for men, and womens are for women (not defining men and women because Jesus Christ it would never end). If you choose to present as a male (even a male in a dress), a reasonable person will treat you as a male who doesn't belong there, irrespective of your self ID, you may be asked to leave, under force of law in the extreme. That's gonna rely on a Potter Stewart 'I know it when I see it' interpretation baked in, but I'm leaning towards it as a practical solution.
Perhaps. But you haven't actually shown any interest in closing the "loopholes".
Untrue. The above is not even the first time I posted that.
Then why aren't you doing it?
Better question: why do you ignore anything that doesn't serve your argumentative pose?
 
You're wrong. Trans individuals are 4 times more likely to be murdered and 6 times more likely to be assaulted than the general public. My guess is that women aren't assaulting and killing them .
Even if that were true, nothing about the recent advances in trans rights activism do anything at all to address that risk. Nothing at all is ever said about that risk, except when needed to rationalize letting men override sex segregation whenever they want. That's the way you're bringing it up right now.
 
Similarly, the 51% of the human populaton who are biological females should not have to make adjustments to their rights in order to accommodate those narcissists with sexual paraphilias. Granting special rights to 0.4% of the population by trampling over the rights of the other 99.6% is completely unacceptable.
Jews make up only .2% of the world's population. By your logic, they do not deserve "special rights", and non-Jews should be allowed Gentile-only living, working, education spaces.
 
So long as folks like Agee Merager and Haven Wilvich can colorably claim that extant anti-discrimination laws provide them with a legal pretext to enter women's spaces in the nude, the loopholes will remain in place. Do you have any suggestions as to how they might be closed?
I've argued repeatedly that in areas where nudity is expected, sex segregation should be the prevailing concern, not gender affiliation. One of the interesting things this discussion has brought up is having me question/examine why exactly that is. I'm not coming up with great reasons besides 'Americans are kind of prudish and we should be cool with that', which is not... a fantastic argument, although I viscerally agree. I mean, a woman is cool with a stranger's labia flapping in her face, but a man is offending her modesty? That's not feeling very strong.

If we accept general prudishness as a sound basis for law, it's not a huge leap to accept 'transwomen who choose to present as male' should be treated as male and expected to use the mens room.
 
You're wrong. Trans individuals are 4 times more likely to be murdered and 6 times more likely to be assaulted than the general public. My guess is that women aren't assaulting and killing them .

I forgot I promised to post the actual figures on this.


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I'm not coming up with great reasons besides 'Americans are kind of prudish and we should be cool with that', which is not... a fantastic argument, although I viscerally agree.
In any system ultimately accountable to the people, it's okay to take human nature into account. Somewhere upthread it was mentioned that sexual modesty is thought by anthropologists to be cross-cultural, although specific cultures vary in terms of what counts as immodest.
 
I am engaging in a discussion because it is both interesting and difficult. I am not a flaming ◊◊◊◊◊◊◊ who entrenches in one position for years and self righteously gives hyperbolic proclamations. I'm trying to work it out, and I don't know what the best solution is.
I have made no hyperbolic proclamations. And you're giving excuses for crapping on reasonable solutions you don't agree with, even though you have nothing better to offer.
As I've said a dozen times (please grab a pencil so I don't have to keep repeating it), anyone actually menacing should still leave if requested
The mere presence of someone like Bryson is menacing in and of itself. Do you not understand that? And many WILL NOT leave if they are granted the legal right to be there. We have seen that already.
, and in a worst case scenario, you can leave till he vacates.
And what if he stays? Again, if the legal right is granted, you cannot take it away based on such subjective standards.
It's an excessively rare occurrence to deal with at all, so it's not like a daily nuisance.
That is not an excuse to not deal with it.
More ideally, have the law acknowledge that mens rooms are for men, and womens are for women (not defining men and women because Jesus Christ it would never end).
If you do not define men and women, then an acknowledgement that men's rooms are for men and women's rooms are for women means nothing. The idea that this is anything even resembling a solution is pure idiocy. It is precisely the definition of men and women that becomes the conflict. You want self-ID, which in practice means that the women's room is for women as well as for any man who decides he wants to enter.
If you choose to present as a male (even a male in a dress), a reasonable person will treat you as a male who doesn't belong there, irrespective of your self ID, you may be asked to leave, under force of law in the extreme.
In other words, you define men and women based on what they present as. This is the sort of ◊◊◊◊ I mean when I say your position is incoherent. You said you don't want to define men and women, but then you define men and women, because of course some definition is obviously needed in this context. You just do define them badly, so much so that I still don't know whether someone like Bryson (who now dresses like a female, does his hair like a female, and puts on makeup) "presents" as male or female, according to you.

If you mean what they pass as (in other words, what a typical observer would conclude their sex is), then congratulations, you've now adopted my position. Segregate based on sex, and people who can fool you about their sex can get in. But it's transphobic when I say it, because I'm not pretending.
 
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focus on closing the loopholes
The loopholes were already closed by sex segregation policies. It's only very recently that trans rights activists went off the rails and opened a loophole big enough to drive a truckload of nonsense through.

And for no good reason, they did this. And you're volunteering to drive the truck. For no good reason.
 
In any system ultimately accountable to the people, it's okay to take human nature into account. Somewhere upthread it was mentioned that sexual modesty is thought by anthropologists to be cross-cultural, although specific cultures vary in terms of what counts as immodest.
Ya I caught that the first time. I'm just a little surprised that I never gave that 'yeah that's just how it is' reasoning a lot of thought before.
 
I have made no hyperbolic proclamations.
That's all you object to? Not the entrenched self-righteous flaming ◊◊◊◊◊◊◊ bit? The candor lately is refreshing.
The mere presence of someone like Bryson is menacing in and of itself. Do you not understand that?
Yes, and agreed to repeatedly, and fleshed out in the post you are responding to.. Remind me to get you a notepad and pencil for the polyanna this year.
And many WILL NOT leave if they are granted the legal right to be there. We have seen that already.
Which is why we don't grant them legal right to be there. I might have mentioned that a hundred or so times already.
And what if he stays? Again, if the legal right is granted, you cannot take it away based on such subjective standards.
Well since I already said 'under force of law if need be'...

BTW, you were arguing earlier in the thread that you didn't want this criminalized. When did you 180 on it?
That is not an excuse to not deal with it.
Which it's not, especially while I am trying to engage in a discussion about dealing with it.
If you do not define men and women, then an acknowledgement that men's rooms are for men and women's rooms are for women means nothing.
Yet it's been working for generations. The sign on the doors to this very day do not say Male and Female.
The idea that this is anything even resembling a solution is pure idiocy. It is precisely the definition of men and women that becomes the conflict. You want self-ID, which in practice means that the women's room is for women as well as for any man who decides he wants to enter.
It does not, and I have said so so many times that it is really not possible for you to be misunderstanding anymore. You're doing it on purpose,
In other words, you define men and women based on what they present as. This is the sort of ◊◊◊◊ I mean when I say your position is incoherent. You said you don't want to define men and women, but then you define men and women, because of course some definition is obviously needed in this context. You just do define them badly, so much so that I still don't know whether someone like Bryson (who now dresses like a female, does his hair like a female, and puts on makeup) "presents" as male or female, according to you.
You are not this dense. I simply don't believe you are posting in good faith.
If you mean what they pass as (in other words, what a typical observer would conclude their sex is), then congratulations, you've now adopted my position.
No. You can present very consistently as a woman, without 'passing'. There is a fairly thick behavioral line between sincere presentation and 'Bryson in wig' that is not as murky as people here are making it out to be.
Segregate based on sex, and people who can fool you about their sex can get in. But it's transphobic when I say it, because I'm not pretending.
Indeed.
 
The loopholes were already closed by sex segregation policies. It's only very recently that trans rights activists went off the rails and opened a loophole big enough to drive a truckload of nonsense through.
Because we realized we were being total douchebags to a very small minority gtoup.
And for no good reason, they did this.
Ya they want to feel normal, like you and I do when we use a restroom. Real ◊◊◊◊◊◊◊◊, right?
And you're volunteering to drive the truck. For no good reason.
I'm willing to try to work out a solution, or at least what would be fair, even if it has little chance of happening.
 
That's all you object to? Not the entrenched self-righteous flaming ◊◊◊◊◊◊◊ bit? The candor lately is refreshing.
"Hyperbole" is fairly objective. I am dismissing your completely subjective accusations as unworthy of comment.
Which is why we don't grant them legal right to be there. I might have mentioned that a hundred or so times already.
You have said many contradictory things. I do not know which ones you truly believe. I do not even know if YOU know which ones you truly believe. But as stated here, I struggle to see how this is actually different from my own position, except that you view yours as some sort of moderate compromise and mine as extreme transphobia. Which, along with your past inconsistencies, makes me strongly suspect that what you are stating here is not in fact an accurate description of your position.
No. You can present very consistently as a woman, without 'passing'.
Again, what is it that you mean by "present"? What is your definition? I have asked you repeatedly, and yet you continue to refuse to answer.
There is a fairly thick behavioral line between sincere presentation and 'Bryson in wig' that is not as murky as people here are making it out to be.
There is no line at all between sincere and insincere presentation, not one accessible to external observers. There is a blurry line between consistent and inconsistent presentation, but 1) that's useless as a practical criteria, and 2) it's not even theoretically well-founded as a basis for distinction.
 
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You have said many contradictory things.
No I haven't. You read words like 'Self ID is sufficient to be acknowledged as transgender, but that doesn't grant bathroom access', and interpret that in whatever goofball way is rhetorically convenient. Bored out of my skull with it.
Again, what is it that you mean by "present"? What is your definition? I have asked you repeatedly, and yet you continue to refuse to answer.
You want Potter Stewart invoked yet again?
 

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