I get that. I think you know where I am ultimately coming from here: I want everyone to be accommodated, from women to transwomen to everyone else. But it's a conflict of comforts and rights. Transwomen can come in the men's room, that's fine. But many will say it feels horrible to them, feeling like a woman but having all these men staring at them, or much worse. So is there any issue with them coming in the ladies room, as you and others say they have been doing for generations? I think it makes sense: yeah, do either. But the pushback ITT is to say no way Jose, we don't want the weirdos in here anymore (with some fig leaves).
Okay, let's back this trolley up.
What happened for generations has changed recently. That's the problem. We were okay with
how it used to be; what we have been fighting the past few years
isn't that.
In the past, there were a few transsexual males that occasionally showed up in female restrooms, and pretty much never in female showers or spas or changing rooms. At the time, being trassexual was gatekept - getting the appropriate documents to recognize the legal fiction needed a psychiatric diagnosis, several years of therapy, and a period of time "living as" the target sex. We females *trusted* that the doctors and the legislators were looking out for us, and we *trusted* that any males who went through that were going through some serious ◊◊◊◊. And - the important part - we knew at the time that we had the right of use in those spaces, and that any males were their at our discretion. We knew that if we were uncomfortable about it, we had the right and the authority to ask them to leave and they would. And if they didn't we could call the management or the police, and they would be removed for us. It was a female space, where we sometimes made a case-by-case exception for a very few males, and those males were doing their absolute level best to NOT make us feel uncomfortable.
That was the historical situation.
Within the past 20 years, there's been a shift. There's been a clear and intentional push to get rid of any gatekeeping - no diagnosis required, no counseling, no waiting limit. The push has been to "be kind" to transgender identified people and let them get legal recognition, medical treatment, and access to female-specific spaces as quickly as possible. And we've ended up with a fair number of males who have gotten demanding about it. They demand to use female spaces, they insist it's their right by law (and in some places it is, like NJ). They get extremely pushy and mean about it. And if they're denied, they threaten us, they tell us to suck their ladydicks, they threaten to rape us, or to punch us, or to decapitate or kill us, they call us witches and say we should bring back witch burning. They sell merchandise advocating for the death or injury of females who don't submit to their demands.
This is not at all the same as the tacit agreement we previously had in place.
So whether you mean it or not, and I'm confident you don't, you are allying with the intolerant side. Surely you can see how that sits to an outside observer? These guys want to object so mightily when it is pointed out that they are being bigots... while spouting intolerant bigotry.
Intolerant bigotry that... males remain male no matter what they wear, that over 80% of transgender identified males still have their wedding tackle, that transgender identified males retain a male pattern of criminality and sexual offending even after surgical and hormonal transition, and that females generally don't want males around when we're naked or vulnerable - regardless of how they dress?
Honestly, the most egregious slurs in here have come from you. I get that you're putting words into other people's mouths, but still - you're the one using such terms.