Unfortunately for the extremists it is an "all or nothing".
There we go again with the inflammatory language.
The TRAs want everything, that is true. It's human nature. It's also human nature to say something like "can we meet in the middle here?" or "is there a compromise?" or something about "nuance". Unfortunately the time for that has now passed.
We had a compromise, for decades, and it mostly worked. Women were told (not asked) that they should #bekind to a very small number of genuinely distressed men who wanted nothing but to be allowed to live as if they were women, including using women's toilets. Nothing was actually said about changing rooms or Guide camps or rugby teams or prison cells and it didn't generally come up. We were led to believe (though I'm not sure it was always true) that all of these men had had their genitals removed, and that they had had psychological assessment and training as to their ability to behave considerately and unobtrusively in women's toilets.
So we went along with it. We wouldn't expect to encounter such a person very often at all, if we did we should remember the no-genitals part, and how very vulnerable they were, and distressed, and realise that all they wanted was to be left alone and to fit in.
That was the thin end of the wedge. The whole bloody wedge is in there now. Jonathan Yaniv and "Danielle" Muscato and Alex Drummond and Eddie Izzard and the rest of them. And instead of trying to be unobtrusive and considerate they are demanding and exhibitionist. And instead of us being able to complain and have an aggressive man removed from our space, we're told that we're transphobic bigots if we do that. (The teenage girl who complained that a fully intact man took off his underpants and exposed himself to her while she was already naked in a YMCA changing room has been called a voyeur for seeing his cock and balls!)
And it's not just toilets, it's changing rooms and Girl Guide camps and dormitories on school trips and lesbian dating apps and rape crisis centres and every sport you can possibly think of and jobs reserved for women such as intimate care for disabled women and even prison accommodation. And I could go on.
This has progressed to the Adam Graham and Andrew Burns demographic, where it's pretty certain that these men have no AGP tendencies in the first place (I'm not sure where "Katie" Dolatowski fits there) but who are merely adopting an appearance of "woman" to get an easier life in a woman's prison, with an all-you-can-eat buffet of frightened and damaged women on the side.
All this has flowed from the original compromise position where a few vulnerable people who were understood to be trying their best not to cause an issue were tolerated. It's actually explicit. Just listen to the trans activists declare "There have been transwomen in your spaces for decades and you didn't even notice - nothing is changing."
It reall does seem as if it's all or nothing. If we give the slightest concession, they take everything. So it has to be nothing.