I don't really have anything against men who want to wear feminine clothing or makeup or grow their hair or take hormones or have cosmetic surgery. I just have two red lines. You're still male, so stay out of female single-sex spaces and categories, and stay away from children and adolescents with your "trans joy" stunning and brave propaganda.
Women don't just want space away from men, they need it - some more than others, some for psychological and mental health reasons, some for modesty and comfort reasons, some for social reasons. We should be entitled to that space, and entitled to organise as a sex without men jumping in and insisting that this is "discriminatory". If males do not have all the facilities they need they should get going and campaign for them, or just set them up. Like women did a hundred years ago when we didn't have the single-sex facilities we needed, which are now being rendered mixed-sex by male entitlement once again.
Look at the rape crisis centre thing.
Women see other women in desperate straits due to male sexual violence and get together to set up refuges and counselling services. Over time the utility of these becomes obvious to government and some funding is given to them, which they become dependent on. Then government is taken over by the woke, and these services are told they have to become "trans-inclusive" (meaning male-inclusive, because we ain't talking about trans-identifying females here) or that funding will be taken away. The services comply, and women no longer have single-sex provision. Or, they don't comply and are subjected to physical attacks by transactivists. See the whole nailing of the dead rat to the wall and the barbed-wire-encrusted baby-blue-pink-and-white baseball bats thing.
Often the transactivists jeer at the displaced women, "if you want your own facilities then go and set them up yourself!" - ignoring the women's complaint that that's what they did, but these services have now been made mixed-sex. Then in Edinburgh, where all this happened right up to the point where a male was appointed as head of the rape crisis centre despite the job being specifically advertised for female applicants only (citing the Equality Act exemptions), a new single-sex facility was indeed set up to cater for the women who wanted a male-free service.
The transactivists immediately attacked this as "transphobic" and started openly plotting as to how they could arrange for a male person to be turned away and so give them grounds for a legal challenge. Despite they fact that the original mixed, transwomen inclusive service is still right there for them any time they want.
This is the reason for "transphobia". An absolute loss of patience with these male demands to encroach on women's spaces wherever they are set up. While at the same time openly advertising events and services that are exclusively for trans-identified people.
We don't want transwomen not to have things. We simply want them to let us have our things. Which is of course the one thing they will not do.