There is talk here about not having a child, and also liking tacos and broccoli or not liking.
First, about not being able to have a child, I know a ship captain who could not have a child either. He told me that he has hope with cloning, when he feels some gloom about being childless; on the other hand he does not seem to miss having children, as a rule.
He is a ladies man, and he tells me that being captain opens the gate to women in the passenger ship to his access. I told him that if one day he should feel lonely for a child, then adopt one, there are so many babies for the asking.
Neat.
There is infinitely more to being a father than biology.
Profound.
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About suffering in Buddhism, I think it is agreed that Buddhism is concerned with sufferings in all its species and its degrees; it is certainly not only focused on so-called existential suffering -- is that angst or what the Germans call Weltschmerz?
There is no need to think or believe regarding this topic when one can know. Buddhist teaching on suffering is sometimes known as the 3 fires or 3 poisons.
Poison 1 is ignorance: Delusion and confusion. We insist on seeing things as we would like them to be, not as they are.
Poison 2 is Attachment: What are you attached to? What do you equate with your self satisfaction? Money? Sex? A relationship? Social status? Do you engage in patterned behavior which drowns out your awareness such as alcohol or drugs? Do you want the respect of another so much that you pretend to be what you are not?
Buddha taught that attachment has 2 subsets: pride and jealousy. Who am I? I am the president of my company. I am a senior this or that. Do you define yourself by your occupation? Do we define ourselves by our education? I have a Ph.D! Do we define ourselves by our accomplishments? I climbed Mt. Everest. I ran a 5 minute mile. If we did run a 5 minute mile, what happens to us when we can no longer do so? Are we less? What about the kid in the wheelchair? Is he less because he can't run a 5 minute mile?
Pride.
My friend has a 72" HDTV and I really want one. I wish I had one. I would be happier if I had one. Did you see that rock on her finger? OMG it was huge, I wish my fiance got me a rock like that!
Jealousy.
Poison 3 is aversion: Dislike. My landlord keeps raising my rent, I really dislike him. I am alone, I hate being alone. I have no children, I hate not being a parent.
Contrary to some earlier posts, desires/preferences such as what I prefer for dinner are not wrong nor do they necessarily lead to dukkha. It is attachment to desires that causes dukkha. It is defining our happiness according to obtaining a desire that is dukkha.
Because we are ignorant of reality (the first poison) we believe we can be happy by obtaining some desire we are attached to (the second poison). When we obtain that goal and are left unfulfilled we are disappointed (poison #3 - aversion).
This cycle repeats endlessly.
This is suffering in buddhist terms.
I like to ask Buddhists who have experienced enlightenment and even Nirvana, if they can last longer in torture chambers of the kinds stationed in foreign countries supposedly enlisted by the USA military-intelligence establishment to make terrorist suspects talk.
What does it mean to 'last longer'? Is 'lasting longer' in a torture chamber your aspiration?
That will certainly be much more convincing, absolutely convincing about the efficacy of Buddhism as a way out of suffering, even just the purely physical one of pain -- if it works.
How many times and different ways do you need to be told buddhism doesn't deal with physical pain before you understand that physical pain is not what buddhism deals with?
Another experiment is the ingestion of some feel good pill or some give no damn pill by a non-Buddhist and observe how he fares in the midst of very horribly bad news compared to a Buddhist master with certified experience of enlightenment/Nirvana by some reputable accrediting Buddhist review board.
It would take about 4 hours to read a book with comprehension and about 20 minutes to sit in buddhist meditation. You have already spent more time than this criticising what you repeatedly demonstrate you don't understand. Why?
Given how little time it takes to understand the 4 noble truths and put the 8fold path into practice, why do you continue to be an outsider looking in, taking ignorant potshots? Why not try it for yourself and know?
What is your aversion?