I have noticed Emily and others using older definitions and views of us. The notion that we are men who want to be women was debunked quite a while ago, but that notion persists regardless. It was the common view of us for a long time, but it wasn't accurate.
We accepted that diagnosis at the time because it was better to be seen as delusional than a freak. We know better now.
You are a male human being who believes themselves to be female in their mind. Your deep-seated feeling and belief that you are a woman on the inside doesn't actually make you female, nor does it strip the terms "female" and "woman" of all meaning and replace it with whatever you wish it to be.
You use terms like "debunked" and "older definitions" and "outdated views" quite a bit. But you persistently do so with no supporting evidence, and nothing but your claim to back them up.
There is nothing in any medical or diagnostic references that in any way suggests you are
actually a woman and
actually a female. There is much in those references that suggests that you
believe yourself to be and
feel that you are a woman and a female, based on an
internal interpretation of what those words mean, and a deep dissatisfaction and discomfort with your body.
Yep, I definitely disagree with you on your views on transwomen in sports, but you aren't actively denying my identity like Meadmaker or Emily do. And their denial of the existence of gender identity makes finding common ground impossible, I am realizing that more and more.
I don't deny your identity. You are who you are. I don't deny that gender identity exists. I just don't accept that your personal, subjective, interpretation of what your gender identity is overrides objective reality, nor that your personal, subjective interpretation of your gender identity entitles you to override the privacy, rights, and progress of female humans.
And here's the crux of the problem.
The only way to satisfy you is to stroke your ego, and affirm your belief about yourself. Your identity isn't a
personal identity - the identity that you depend on cannot exist without the consent and pretense of other people.
Transwomen don't want access to female spaces out of a sense of
safety and privacy, out of a real
recognition of the risk that males present in general. Transwomen don't want to be placed into female wards for their protection alone. Transwomen don't want to be counted as female for women's scholarships, grants, recognition, and short-lists
in order to support the equality of females relative to males. Transwomen want it so that you
feel better about themselves, so that your belief about yourself is
affirmed by external audiences.
Transwomen place their feelings, their need to be validated, as more important than the safety, privacy, dignity, and progress of females. The things transwomen ask for have real world
negative consequences for female humans... but they simply
don't care. Somewhere along the way, transwomen have decided - without consultation and without consideration - that it's worth it
for them that female humans make sacrifices and suffer a bit more so that they can be happier about themselves.