Butter!
Rough Around the Edges
Let me remedy that oversight:
I see many differences, but also many similarities. I'm basing my assessment on the similarities: It's a legal activity. It's a voluntary activity. It's an activity that requires trust. It's an activity where carelessness or incompetence can get someone killed. It's an activity where, absent a clear indication of intent, it's impossible to discern negligence from murder.
That almost makes the parachute scenario worse. Packing a parachute is a specific thing that has to be done right one time. You're doing it calmly, methodically, at your leisure.
Compare that to an amateur act of consensual passion, between two enthusiastic but untrained partners. I'd argue that the skydiver has a much greater burden of negligence, simply because his circumstances admit a much greater degree of mindfulness in the act.
That's not how I see it. Negligence is negligence. I think that a charge of negligence should be easier to prove in cases of violent sex play (and packing a parachute), simply because it's the kind of activity that a reasonable person would understand they had to be careful about. But I don't think a charge of negligence should be replaced by a higher charge.
I'm sure it does. But sex play occupies a weird place in our society. We criminalize a lot of kinks we probably shouldn't. And people are gonna get it on however they like to get it on. We don't consider consensual sodomy rape, even though some jurisdictions make it illegal to consent to sodomy.
I guess you're right. I can't really come up with a coherent reason why you're not, other than this scenario feels different to me (which is obviously not skeptical). I think this brutish cad is evil and disgusting - based on the things he did afterward - but being evil and disgusting is not a crime in its own right. Once I start probing for the actual, specific crimes in this whole mess, it becomes harder to defend my position without invoking "special sex rules," which is not enlightened.
It still seems to me as though a reasonable person should have had a chance to see that he was going too far in hurting Grace, but some medical information has been posted that has made me a little less certain on that account. We'll see what the courts say, I suppose.