I think he and I probably disagree about the right approach to encouraging people who are overweight to lose it. I've told friends that I think they need to lose weight, but I certainly tried to be as kind about it as possible, and wouldn't laugh about it or insult someone. Generally though I wouldn't really say anything, but if they mention wanting to lose weight themselves I'll support the idea rather than saying something like "Oh, you're not overweight!" which is often the first response that I want to say.If you think so - and I certainly do! - you can't possibly agree with mgidm86.
Well, BMI is a flawed metric, but there is healthy and unhealthy. I think in general people who are unhealthily overweight both would benefit from losing the weight and can lose it by taking the right course of action. Of course, sometimes people's life circumstances make that difficult (that's been true for my sister, so I never commented on her weight or diet, but I did try to convince her to changing her living situation), but in that case changing those circumstances is the first step.Apart from a very small minority of the so-called feeders, nobody celebrates "people for being overweight." Being overweight and saying that you are not ashamed about it and that you are quite happy with the way you are is not a celebration. It's acceptance. And people can live perfectly happy lives without living up to the ideal BMI. In particular, if they still exercise.
These things are also at varying degrees of severity. For most people who are overweight I wouldn't say I think, even if they are friends, because they're not that overweight. But I do think it's not great when they promulgate the idea that being overweight is just different and not actually unhealthy.
5 pounds? Really? Or is it hyperbole? Maybe it's me, but unless it's 10-15 kilos, I don't even notice.
I'm pretty small, my weight is pretty steady at around 70kg. And the women I'm around are slim Chinese women who are generally less than 50kg so five pounds shows. And, yeah, when they notice a change, they will say so immediately. Sometimes if I don't work out that much and just lose a little tone they'll mention it "You're getting fat" in a totally matter of fact way (even though I haven't actually gained any weight).