Well, I _AM_ starting to suspect that I'm reaching some limit of my understanding, at least for now.
To make it clear in case it wasn't clear, I actually believe that GR is right, at least to the extent we were able to confirm it. If it weren't, well, GPS wouldn't work for a start. Plus, smarter people than me have peer-reviewed it. Same for QM, incidentally. The computer I'm on wouldn't work if QM didn't work. So, no sane reason for me to disbelieve either.
I'm even sorta able to follow the simplest cases. I think. Or it could be Dunning-Kruger speaking. But when it starts happening around extreme cases like a black hole that my, shall we say, intuition fails me miserably.
Still, on the bright side, I have learned a couple of new things anyway, and even more from watching a couple of Susskind's lectures which were also suggested here. I'lll work my way through more, as time allows. So, many thanks for everyone's time and patience.
I suspect the only sane way to get much further would be to just go back to college. Or find some professor that's willing to tutor me for money. Hmm, might not even be that expensive if I find someone from India or China or such to teach me over the internet... I'll have to think about it.
To get back one more time to my comprehension problem, though, it actually stems from the last phrase in your message #126. "[/i]I specified far field because the interaction we're discussing actually produces gravitational waves.[/i]" That part I get. The change in the field's geometry propagates as a wave at the speed of light.
But I just can't seem to "follow" that wave when there are event horizons around, basically.
What exactly do you mean by "the interaction" above, though? I mean, when mass is involved, I can get that. But do you mean that just the interaction of two fields generates waves as well, as opposed to being the superposition of waves from the two? THAT might be the piece I was missing, IF it works that way.