Serious question, not a setup or anything : how would said treatment differ if one identified as a man vs if one identified as a woman? I'm not talking about pronoun or first name use, and I don't want to focus on the locker/bathroom portion (I personally don't care who uses which room at all). In an average social situation if I were to (at their request) call an outwardly appearing male "Jane", and use "her/she", what other differences in treatment would be expected or desired as compared to if they prefered "Jim" and "his/he"?
I've asked here and elsewhere about the nuts and bolts of 'what does it mean, at a practical level, to identify as <x>', and various people have tried to explain, but I still don't really understand. I'm not trying to reject the concept out of hand, but I honestly don't understand how a word like "man" has any utility or meaning if it's so wide that someone can be a "man" can give birth. What then, precisely, would differentiate a man from a woman in that sort of circumstance, from the PoV of people saying that a man gave birth in the stated example? Edit to add : if the answer is something along the lines of the way they feel inside, then what is that feeling? What specific things would feel differently inside when identifying as one vs. the other?
This really isn't any sort of trap. If there's a request or demand that people be 'treated as <x>', can we at least start with defining what <x> and <not x> are, because to me at least it's confusing and not at all clear, and I've tried for some time to get various people to explain it.
