Belgian thought said:
Not at all - I believe that actually being polite yet direct is the way to be.
I would not though try and understand their beliefs....
This necessarily results in you being polite, direct, and having no idea if you're actually discussing anything relevant or not. Understanding their beliefs is CRITICAL to being able to converse with them about their beliefs--as in, without understanding their beliefs you have no better ability to hit on important concepts to them than chance.
b...ecause I stopped believing in anything remotely supernatural a long long time ago...
Thank you for stating another foundational fallacy of Islamophobia and, to a much larger degree, anti-theism: "I don't believe, for these reasons, therefore they should be enough for anyone." It's a very self-centered world-view, one which dismisses as irrelevant the fact that you are dealing with another person, with their own beliefs and opinions and understanding. Furthermore, such behavior is only ever considered acceptable regarding religion. No scientist thinks that just because something convinced them, it therefore must convince everyone else--we are trained to ask (and provide unasked, when we are the objecting party) "What evidence would convince you?" The reason is self-evident: it's not YOU that you're trying to convince.
Just look at your post--the constant refrain in it is "Me, Me, Me, Me, Me!!!"
I do not need to learn the whole book before calling it nonsense.
To call it nonsense? No, of course not--you can call it nonsense because the purple fairies told you to. That's called "freedom of speach". In order to convince any believer it's nonsense? You most certainly DO need to understand it. (Oh, and I apparently need to point out
yet again that the holy book of the religion is not the whole of the religion. I suppose such ignorance of basic facts is to be expected from folks who feel ignorance of the opposition is a badge of honor, but that's very shoddy critical thinking and a gross and negligent misrepresentation of the other side. To call such nonsense a straw man argument is giving it too much credit.)
You're surprised that in this age of scientific wonder people believe in old story books. I'm flabbergasted that alleged skeptics continuously fail to comprehend the basics fo rhetoric and logic to such a degree.
Finally regarding learning to understand, I am sure were this thread to be about Scientology or some other recently made up spiritual guidebook, most posters, myself included, would not take such a softly softly approach, they would laugh and criticise the 'new' books in a very direct fashion.
You are wrong. If you want to laugh at some belief, you can use whatever criteria you wish. If you want to convince believers to abandon the belief, you need to understand their belief.
It's really very simple: they believe something. You disagree. You want to convince them. YOU THEREFORE NEED TO FACTOR THEIR BELIEFS INTO THE EQUATION. There is no honest or rational disagreement possible in this matter. None. Anyone who disagrees with it is either dishonest or irrational, with no exceptions.
If you say anything along the lines of "So you expect me to read every religion before I disagree with it?" I'm through talking to you. I have made it clear that I am specifically discussing how to convince other people, and anyone who can't differentiate between conversations with others and studying something on your own is obviously incapable of making contributions to a serious discussion.
It is this hypocrisy which I find distasteful.
The only hypocrites are you, Humes fork, and other "skeptics" who abandon the principles of rationality and the very concept of other people when dealing with theists. I am advocating basic, fundamental principles of rationality.