Good points raised regarding empathy, highlighting some misunderstanding.
Here is what I offer for your consideration: In science, one deals with the world in observation of the way it is in fact, not as it should be.
My desire is for everyone to be logical, and to immediately change opinion as soon as new or better information arises. In the real world, even scientists of import have difficulty modifying perspectives in light of new evidence: Einstein was one. I still have great respect for him, don't you?
Now, a thought experiment. Suppose we discover everyone should adopt a firm gait and step more purposefully in their walking for better health. Now, I go up to a nice little old lady and I demand she start doing so, ignoring that (a) it is hard for her, and (b) she will most likely tip-toe in my presence from now on, defeating my purpose.
The greatest error on JREF I observe so far is that in seeing "the light," many folks are doing exactly the same thing a fundie of any other stripe would do: beat their chests and insist on a single path of perfection.
The real tragedy is this: the exact same behaviors result among proponents of any set of ideas, regardless of validity, due to the fact they remain human and subject to a wide range of conditioning factors for behavior that do not auto-adjust from simply having a perfect theory in mind.
The Skepticon videos share aspects of what one can observe in a church. Group bonding is rarely without consequence, as it usually depends on identifying the "enemy others." When skepticism is defined in opposition to something, and not as a proponent of method alone, it weakens itself considerably, losing legitimacy and placing obstacles to its own goals.
You are not immune from error even if you have the perfect postulates, iron-clad data, and precise reasoning skills. Sorry, that is myth. Self aggrandizing, rationalization of improper behavior toward others, especially those less gifted, is what one finds in observation.
JREF Physicians: Heal thyselves, and watch that mote. Holds for science as much as looney tunes.
You need to engage the world exactly where it is, how it is, and deal with the messy and imprecise. Life is not chess. And you are not automatically a better or superior person for being a skeptic. You might, in behavior, actually be worse. Get over it, and control for it.